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Shopping Addiction - What Makes Us Want To Waste Money?

Updated on December 13, 2012

No Money = Broke

When the money is gone, it seems like shopping is all you want to do.
When the money is gone, it seems like shopping is all you want to do. | Source

I ain't got no money....

The New Year is almost upon us, taking with us the remainder of the cash in our bank account and possibly our sanity.

The kids are driving me up the wall and all I want to do is go shopping, which is odd for me since I hate shopping to begin with! But, unfortunately, I am broke with a capital B-R-O-K-E!

This brings me to the thought...

“Why is it when you don’t have any extra money to spend, you seem to want to splurge and shop until you drop?”

This is where I am at right now. I have this unsatisfied need to go to the mall, or Target, or Wal-Mart, or any place that will gratefully take my cash in exchange for merchandise.

I want to buy shoes; I want to buy jeans; I want to buy sweatshirts; I want to buy all sorts of clothing; I want to buy hair accessories; I want to buy picture frames; I want to buy lotions; I want to buy a new board game!

Really, it does not matter what it is, I just want to shop… and I hate shopping!

Are you a hater or a lover?


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Reasons to Hate...

There are so many reasons to hate shopping, but most reason will most likely be personal in nature.

  1. It is stressful. Many people claim shopping is therapeutic and relaxing. Yet what about those who go into a store for something simple - like a pair of jeans. After looking at several different styles, sizes, colors, they are lucky if they find one that even fits. Some styles don't look good on anybody, including the models that show them off. And if they don't look good on a model, I fear I don't hold a chance to impress anyone in them.
  2. If you don't find it the first time, repeat the process all over again. Yep, that is right. If you are still in need of those jeans, you must either exit the store and complete the whole insane process all over again, or find different selections in the same store. This just leads to frustration.
  3. If you are lucky enough to find something, you now must stand in line and wait to purchase your item.This means you must hold onto your treasure while other people run into you, shove you and do so without even an apology uttered. Not to mention, you then get greeted by someone who doesn't even know the word customer service.
  4. Average size doesn't get much of a deal. When I go shopping, it is almost impossible to find something that works on the clearance rack for myself. All the clothes are cleared out before I even get a chance to look, leaving items under a size 2 or bigger than a 3X. I guess it is either squeeze or swim. The other option is to buy at full price, which only happens when I am absolutely 100% in love with the item. And since I rather dislike shopping, chances are pretty high I won't die without it!

This whole experience is supposed to put a smile on our face, yet for some of us, it just leaves us more and more irritated. It almost never goes as planned or how you want it too. When you are looking for someone to help, there is never a person around. And when you don't want any help and you just want to browse, you have them looking over your shoulder. A person just can't seem to win with this whole shopping business!

Tis The Season To Spend Money

Around the holidays shopping is even more insane, as people push and pull there way past everybody else to get what they want. The holidays should be about spending time with friends and family, yet it has become one centered around gift giving and gift getting. People out in the malls trampling others just to get the sale.

During the holidays, I become one of those cranky people whom I don’t like that smash through the crowds. However, I am not doing this to get to the sale item, I am doing it to finally be free of the elbows that have stabbed through my personal bubble. I can’t find enjoyment in shopping when I can’t even move. In a way, I feel like a car stuck on the freeway in California during rush hour traffic, and all I want to do is get to the exit!

Shopping becomes even more of a pain when the only time you ever go is when you have children with you. While I love my kids, they are not shopping friendly. Every 5 seconds is followed by an “I want” or an “I need,”neither which gives them anything but an “I won’t!”

Eventually the whining gets to me and I proceed to look faster for an exit instead of a checkout, causing me to get absolutely nothing done! No satisfaction there, just pure frustration.

If my husband comes with me, it is 10 times worse. He can’t seem to step away from the electronics section. Afterwards he must stagger through the toy section. By the time he is done, I am not even in the mood to look at another thing in the store!

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Does Not Get Better With Age

The older I get, the more it seems I despise shopping.

Maybe it was because I was taught to be frugal with my spending. My parents didn’t have a lot of money when I was growing up so I learned to save, save, save!

It might also be that when my daughter was younger she used to throw fits through the store. The fits were so bad we would get dirty looks as if we were beating our kid with a frying pan! We learned to speed shop. We ran through the store and got what we needed and got out. Unfortunately, not every situation works with speed shopping.

In away, I wish I enjoyed shopping a little more. It seems so many other woman are passionate about this hobby. I don’t understand it, but then again, I have never been much of a shopper.

Yet, for some reason, when I don’t have the extra money to spend, shopping is the only thing on my mind! No matter how much I dislike shopping, right now I just need a few hours by myself to walk through the stores! Maybe if I am lucky, I will find something on sale, and my unquenchable thirst for shopping will finally disappear!


About the Author

Stacy Harris, also known as Barbergirl28, is a wife of 12 years and a stay-at-home mom of two beautiful girls and one handsome little boy. After high school, she joined the Army to become a photojournalist. To this day, she continues to have a passion for writing and photography. After leaving the military, she obtained a license in Cosmetology and also studied Massage Therapy. Her passions include writing, photography, cooking, crafts, health, and fitness. Currently, she is working on a book and freelancing at Hubpages.

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Astralrose - I have seen that movie and it was a great one. I have to admit, I usually go out and shop when I have something in mind to shop for. Rarely do I just go out to browse. Probably a good thing to because I would break the bank. Usually when I want something it is pricey! :)

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Anamika S - I would have to say, you obviously don't have a problem... otherwise you wouldn't have freely admitted it! LOL I know for me I might find something I really like and if I find a week later I still want it, I will go back and get it. I go through phases. Most of the time I hate shopping, but if I hold out too long I also have a tendency to go overboard when I finally do! :)

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Peanutritious - I am not much of a shopper but I will admit I have a thing for shoes. I own a bunch and I never get rid of them. So Friday, I was in the store because my son needed new shoes and I fell victim to buying some for myself. And then naturally, I needed a new outfit to go with it. I guess maybe if I could financially support my shopping, I probably wouldn't mind it so much. But, as of right now, I view things as often times overpriced!

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @AnnaCia - I am not a big shopper and unless there is a big ticket item I can't see any reason why I would fight the crowds for holiday shopping. I would rather go when they are much emptier otherwise I will save the craziness for my husband! :)

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Victoria Lynn - I am right there with you. I know with Christmas being around the corner I am already dreading trying to stay with in a certain budget and get gifts. Luckily I am starting early this year so hopefully I can find some deals! :)

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      Astralrose 5 years ago from India

      Shopping is fun...for a while then you'll feel not into it anymore because it could be tiresome like going around searching for something you want to buy. I like shopping sometimes, online most of it. But I don't usually shop because I want to shop. I only shop when I see something I like. I don't particularly be looking for it.

      Confessions of a Shopaholic is quite a good and fun movie to watch!

      Voted up!

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      Anamika S 5 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

      I am a shopaholic and I have no problem in admitting it. Shopping lifts my mood and makes me happy, so I don't mind it even if I have to empty my wallet. I spend money mostly on Branded clothes and accessories, gadgets and food. If I like something, there is no way I can stop myself from buying it. Good hub, voted up!

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      Tara Carbery 5 years ago from Cheshire, UK

      I'm afraid I love to shop! Sadly, I haven't got the finances to cover it but still yearn to splash out on luxurious products! I seem to have curbed my clothing obsession by happily buying in charity shops these days. Beauty products however, mmmmm, the more luxurious a cream or bath oil, the happier I feel! I'm just not destined to be poor!

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      AnnaCia 5 years ago

      Hi barbergirl, this is a great hub. I hate shopping and mostly when it is for a holiday. I already know what stores are almost empty before 11 am and then I can enjoy looking at things that I almost never buy. Thanks for sharing.

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      Victoria Lynn 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      This is great; I don't know why more people haven't read it, so I'm going to have to share it! I'm too frugal and too much of an introvert to enjoy shopping. I become that cranky person that you mention. I hate holiday shopping. On the other hand, I will visit a thrift store now and then. That's much more my speed. Great hub!

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @Myth - I feel your pain. I am not much of a shopper either. Ironic since I don't mind walking the mall, but when it comes to getting something... I know what I want... I grab it and get out! LOL But pretty soon I am going to have to go. It is getting to the point of no return! But I can hold off a little longer and make due with what I have! :)

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      mythicalstorm273 5 years ago

      I hate shopping... Darrel gets mad, I hate spending money, and I am just too conservative to really convince myself that it is worth my time and effort. Basically shopping happens when I have no choice. Which I am about 3 months past no choice for new pants but I keep putting it off and just make the belt tighter when needed. Shopping can be fun and relaxing when done in the right way though... but I prefer to sit at home :-)