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Single Mothers and Their Daily Struggle

Updated on May 8, 2013
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This is an article-hub that looks for the best advice that we can come up with, by describing the worst social crisis since, hm, the Industrial Revolution.

This unending economic debacle has been among us since 2007, and has separated families and altered our own core values as a society. Just remember of the news from the past three months.


THE FIRST SIGNS OF THIS DEBACLE

We highlight the first signs that made a couple to think about their relationship, and to make the hard decision to split up -- some still together, but hating their very own shadows.

The first sign was a financial distress: we needed more hours to keep up with our credit card onerous debt, and falling 'behind' with every other bill. The reason for us to get marry or move in with someone was to share moments and share a reason to be loved. How could you?... How have we been able to keep our family happy and our boss as well?


THE SECOND SIGN

Unconsciously we looked for the better and if possibly, the best, why not? What I meant to say is... if you were having problems at home, at times YOU THOUGHT of not even making it home to hear your partner's whining about those stupid past due bills.

Your mind would've been looking for a way out...which could have been one of these moments: a chat room, a coworker that values you as a "person," or a hobby to get the stress out, meaning bowling, fishing, hunting... you name it!


THE THIRD SIGN

This is it. The third sign is coming to knock your door to tell you that you are on your own. Your own self!

- Your 24/7 job will increase somehow

-No more husband/wife to help you around. Moments of cozy talking that have been taken for granted are slowly ending in a text message : Gtgo, ttyl, LMAO!

-Kids will resent the loss

-Money will be scarce; the other partner most probably will be paying another rent (?)

-Psychologically will be a deep blow to you and your kids.

-Sleep will be PUT OFF to catch up with the laundry, and HIS. Groceries and homework from school, will add to the pressure.

-Guiltiness, remorse, blaming probably God.

Now, if you have a mom or grandma around, you will get a break , but if you are on your own...you will get burnt out.

Believe or not, kids will need counseling along the way. You know why? They will hardly trust anyone, as they did... before dad or mom left.

Best solutions in short time?

Join a chatline to speak your mind out and share it with someone. Is free and you just let the word out! That doesn't mean you have to give very personal information.

If you are lucky, join a Church that will help you with babysitting your kids, and some brothers and sisters that will help you move or go to see you kids in case you end up at the hospital. God forbid!

Where to find another person of quality for you and your future? Is hard, i'm telling you that! You know it, we know it. But here is the tip: Charity organizations, Churches again and... probably shopping around Walmart.

Your heart will know if you did find her/him. Not suggesting a trip to Florida; is too expensive and might end up in the heart of some hurricane. Chat lines are full of liars unless, again, you want to be heard and spend sometime after your kids went to bed.


WHAT ABOUT IF MY PARTNER... WANTS TO COME BACK?

Beware, just look in the eye of the beholder. Once they left, that meant they were free to do it again. Main reason that they came back to you?

He/she was dumped back to you due to his/her annoying snoring, that he/she stoically took in for granted and for the sake of love. A good sign to look for is: he/she is getting closer to your kids, even if you are out of the picture...for sometime. Love has been hurt, remember? Was his/her loss....that's what you said.


WHAT ABOUT MY KIDS?

Actually being single is safer than looking for a troublemaker. If a guy is still single after certain time...either he is not good for relationships or he is a player; same thing on the female counterpart.

Single parents have to redefine priorities and goals. Remember, their scholarship might help if they make good grades; the driving lessons for them and all things involved in being a single parent. You have taken that extra load from life.


WHAT ABOUT ME?

As I said before, look for a hobby or go back to school. Another thing that is rewarding..and believe me it happened to me, help others. Help the elderly. Is just a help from my heart. And we all get blessed at the end.



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  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Wow Wheelinallover!

    You know your thing very well. They might make a movie out of your story. Amazing how kids have to suffer for life! Thanks for the comment my friend!

    LORD

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    Dennis Thorgesen 

    9 years ago from Beatrice, Nebraska U.S.

    We deal with one parent children all the time. In the past year there have been 14 children through here. All were one parent children from the minute we took them in. It is they who suffer the most, I have heard many times from a child what did I do wrong? They did nothing they were only children trying to grow up.

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    10 years ago from New York

    Thanks KERLYNB,

    I understand what U meant. Life is tough enough.

    Lord

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    kerlynb 

    10 years ago from Philippines, Southeast Asia, Earth ^_^

    While it may be tough, being a single parent is just like any other challenges that must be won. That's the spirit! :D

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    10 years ago from New York

    Thanks carrie. women have the hard part so far!!

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    carriethomson 

    10 years ago from United Kingdom

    i think parents should be responsible enough for their kids and try to avoid divorce.if not at least try to take care that the kids do not feel miserable because of it, moreover being a single parent can be really tough.

    carrie

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    katkaif 

    10 years ago

    you guess is right lord..:)

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    10 years ago from New York

    KATKAIF,

    Thank you so much for your participation, I guess you are 16 or 17? Hopefully you are happy go girl.

    LORD

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    10 years ago from New York

    Terri, you added good point of viewS. and thank you for doing it. Is a jungle out there and the kids are the most who suffer

    LORD

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    katkaif 

    10 years ago

    I agree with terishere voted up.:)

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    Terishere 

    10 years ago

    Very good hub! The kids do pay the price for a divorce. Counseling is very necessary along with both parents being loving, and showing the child it had nothing to do with them. But, even knowing that, it is still difficult.

    But the last thing a single parent should not do, is quickly move on to another relationship. It's just not good.

    Voted up and useful!

    Terri

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