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Making A Stand Against Bullying

Updated on October 11, 2013

Bullies Are Seemingly Everywhere

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
~ Harvey S. Firestone

I do not have the latest statistics on bullying. In truth, I don’t care what they are. I do not need a sociological survey to tell me about bullying; I have seen it during my entire lifetime. It existed when I was a child; it exists today. The pain was every bit as real fifty years ago as it is today.

I suspect that bullying has been a part of mankind’s travels on this planet since the first caveman asserted his superior strength and forced some skinny dweeb to gather stones for him. However, having stated my recognition of that fact, I do not accept bullying in any way, shape, or form.

According to the go-to standard of information, Wikipedia, bullying is: the use of force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. The behavior can be habitual and involve an imbalance of social or physical power. It can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race,religion,gender,sexuality, or ability. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target".

All well and good, and my thanks to Wikipedia for stating the obvious, but perhaps we need to look a little more deeply into this subject, since bullying does not appear to be diminishing in this society of ours.

This kid, who looks a lot like the author, learned to stand up to bullies.
This kid, who looks a lot like the author, learned to stand up to bullies. | Source

What Makes a Bully?

Let’s go to the source of the problem, the bullies themselves. Why do bullies become bullies? What is there in one person that makes them want to use force to abuse or intimidate others? A fair question for sure!

Psychiatrists tell us that bully behavior is a sign of envy, fear, jealousy, resentment, anger, narcissism, and/or low self-esteem. I get it; most of us can understand that on an intellectual level. Certainly some people, when suffering from anger issues, or who are jealous, might strike out at others. Many might suffer bullying at home and thus mirror that in their own actions.

Again, all well and good, but you are going to have to forgive me (well, you don’t have to forgive me at all now do you?) when I say that I don’t much care what causes bullying. I leave that kind of study and introspection to the professionals. All I know, from a human standpoint, is that bullying is harmful and as such it affects me.

How can that be you ask? I am sixty-four years old; surely I am not bullied, so how does bullying affect me? Well, the fact is that no, I am not being bullied, and haven’t been for quite some time, but still, if bullying is happening in society, and I am a member of society, then it affects me. Period!

Where Does Bullying Occur?

Can you say everywhere? Much has been made of the bullying that occurs in practically every school in the world, but that really is just the tip of the iceberg.

Bullying occurs in the marketplace. Bullying occurs in the homes. Bullying occurs in the workplace, at sporting events, at the park and among nations in the political arena. Bullying occurs on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays and yes, on the day of rest, Sundays. Bullying can occur during the summer, during the fall, the winter, and the spring. It can occur to a five year old child and it can occur to an eighty-five year old widow.

It knows no boundaries, it infects every nook and cranny of society, and it must be stopped.

And who, you ask, is going to stop it?

You and I!

A Blast from the Past

Yes, we are going to talk about my father again; I can’t help it. Some of life’s most important lessons were taught to me by that man, so when I think of a subject like bullying, I naturally think of the man who taught me how to confront bullying.

I was a scrawny mutt in elementary school, so a certain amount of bullying could be expected. Add to that the fact that I was a Catholic kid attending a Catholic school in the 50’s, and all the ingredients were there to produce a rather constant variety of bullying.

Daily I would take the school bus home, being dropped off ten blocks from home, and daily I had to walk those ten blocks, knowing that I would be facing the Protestant bullies who defended their turf with gusto. Most afternoons I came home with bruises and scrapes after having run the gauntlet of taunts and abuse. Dad would come home from work, take a look at my latest assortment of wounds, and tell me that the only way to deal with bullies is to stand up to them. I would sniff back tears and explain that I was getting my ass kicked in the process, and he would calmly explain that the pain I was feeling then was nothing compared to the pain I would feel if I ran away from the bullies.

It took me years to understand that lesson, but today I understand it quite well. Bullies must never be allowed to exert their will without meeting resistance, and if the resistance cannot come from the party being bullied, then it needs to come from others who are aware of it.

I don’t need a psychiatrist or sociologist to sort out my feelings about bullies. They must be stopped at every corner at which they appear. They must meet objections every single time they slink out of the shadows and attempt to see the light of day. Bullies cannot be tolerated and for that, I am responsible, and so is every other member of society. Period!

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Zero Tolerance

Those are two fairly clear words….zero tolerance! There is no wiggle room in those two words. Bullying can never be tolerated in society. History is littered with stories of dictators who eventually met their match in the form of resistance. They were toppled, and those who follow in their footsteps today will be toppled as well.

Spousal abuse and child abuse is prevalent in society today, as it has been in the past. It must be called out for what it is, cowardice, bullying, and unacceptable. We cannot turn our heads and pretend it isn’t happening because it isn’t happening to us.

The schoolyard bullies must have their collective ass kicked, so that every child is safe to grow up as a child, without fearing each and every day of their existence.

Ulysses S. Grant, when asked for terms of surrender after his siege of Fort Donelson, responded by saying he would only accept, “unconditional and complete surrender.” That is how I feel about bullies in our society. There are no terms of surrender for bullies. They must be made to stop, and if the bullied cannot do that then the rest of us must do it.

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WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO GET INVOLVED IF YOU WITNESSED BULLYING?

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But I Might Get Hurt

Yes, we might get hurt in this struggle, but the alternative is to allow others to continue to be hurt, and I don’t know about all of you, but for me that is unacceptable.

It starts out as such a small thing. One kid getting picked on at the playground; then another, and another, and suddenly we have an epidemic of unchecked bullying.

One neighborhood allows a gang to dictate terms of life, and then another, and another, and suddenly we have an epidemic of gang-related violence and mob-rule.

One country has its will controlled, and then another, and another, and suddenly you have an entire region dancing to the tune of oppression.

Yes, we might get hurt in this struggle, but I know of one thing that will hurt more….to run away from the fight, and in so doing feel the shame for the rest of our lives.

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Body, great story my friend, and I have a no tolerance policy regarding it as well. When I was teaching I know the kids did not enjoy me being in their face after a bullying incident. Thank you for the visit.

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      BODYLEVIVE 4 years ago from Alabama, USA

      Hi Billybuc, I'd gotten a call from my son last year when school was about a month from closing for the summer telling me that my grand daughter was bullying a child in the line waiting for the bus. I'm always called to do the check tizing if there is such word. I went to their house and asked her what happened. Well, she gave some cock 'n' bull story and I called the teacher and she told me that my grand just walked up to the child and stomped her foot. Ok, now for the real deal. When everything else fails, beat that a$$. After that, no one has called me about any incidents of her being a bully. I will not tolerate such behavior.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, thanks for a great comment. I, too, had no tolerance for this at school, and my response, usually, was to get in the bully's face and explain the facts of life to him or her. Sadly this is a learned behavior, and my guess is, as the economy worsens, there will be more and more of it, as parents become angry and afraid, and tempers rise at home, and on and on we go. It was amazing to me the number of parents that would defend their child despite the overwhelming proof that their child was a bully.

      I'll keep right on doing my thing, PS, and thank you for the encouragement.

      bill

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      It takes all of us to stem the tide as you say. Sadly there are areas where it is learned behavior again as you say. In some families it is not called bullying...it is just 'boys will be boys, girls will be girls' ...leave' em be."

      "My daddy taught me to beat up any body I wanted so I am teaching my kids the same thang...(and it is thang)..." It is sad but true. When some children (in a school setting) are chastised for what we know as bullying behavior they respond that their parents say it is ok . Then of course the parents are invited in and advised diplomatically that bullying and intimidation in any form does not fly. That was one thing children knew about me as a teacher...NO BULLYING EVER.

      More emphasis needs to be placed on addressing this issue. Keep writing about it Billy...we need our communities with all of the citizens to wake up and get busy finding a way to end this epidemic. And it is a silent epidemic right now I think.

      Sending Angels to you that you will continue to remind us to do our part and make a difference. :) ps

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Stephanie, I hope this helps your boys. I believe firmly in standing up to bullies; it might be painful at times but I believe it is necessary. Best of luck with your boys as they get older and have to face this. Thank you!

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Yet another great article that I strongly agree with! It is such a crazy world right now. As a parent of two boys, one who just started kindergarten and the other is three, I plan to empower my children to deal with bullies. I want my boys to stand up for themselves and others! Thanks for the great children's book suggestions!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, you had me laughing with that last line! Trolls need to be banished from civilized society; I'm not sure that's going to happen in my lifetime, but I know they can't hurt me if I don't give them the power to do so.

      Thank you my friend; wishing you peace and happiness, today and always.

      bill

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      I agree. Stand up to your bullies rather than ignoring them. Many writers advised me to ignore it, but like I mentioned before, the things that this person (total stranger) said and posted about my character and reputation were atrocious. There were actually people who believed those lies, but you know what Billy? I don't care anymore what anyone thinks of me. I realize that not everyone is going to like you no matter how good of a person you are. I am who I am and I am confident and secure with myself. That is all that matters. Taking a Stand Against Trolls!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, this subject is near and dear to my heart. I was bullied, my son was bullied, I witnessed it for eighteen years of teaching, and I see it in adults, and I'm damn tired of it. I am guessing that when I die it will be because I stepped in to stop a bully and I get shot for my efforts. :)

      I don't get it either my friend, but I know it can't be accepted by anyone with any conscience. To turn our heads because it isn't happening to us in unacceptable.

      Thank you dear lady and have a great weekend.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Oh my goodness, this hub brings back ugly memories, Bill! Once I left Catholic school and attendend public high school in a different state, I was shunned and forced into the 'bookworm' crowd. Today they are called geeks. I was made fun of because of my intelligence and ostracized from the popular crowd. I was a smart virgin. That put me in a place where I wasn't worthy of knowing. Then, once I left home, I was physically violated by the very boys who shunned me. You see, in the seventies, you had to be a slut to be popular. Intelligence was a reason to be mistreated by those who got by on brawn and beauty.

      When my little sister, who is 10 1/2 years younger than I, was 8 a boy threw a stone at her because he 'liked' her. It hit her forehead and she came running into the house bleeding like a stuck pig (whatever that is!). I ran out of the house and hunted down the parents of the boy who hurt my sister. It was all I could do to contain myself; I wanted to hurt the boy as he had hurt my sweet, sweet sister. But I was 19. Would that not make me a bully, too?

      My son suffered from ADHD all through school. Medicated ADHD kids are skinny because the meds that fix the out of control part of the brain, cause them to have no appetite. ADHD also usually comes with other disorders. My son's was conduct disorder. His condition caused him to mouth off to the wrong people.

      Let me back up a bit: I'm 5'2". His dad was 6'2". My son is 5'8" as a grown adult. He was short and skinny with a mouth when he was a kid. One day I saw a bunch of older boys chase my son from the school bus stop to our home, tackle him and rub his face in rocks! It broke my heart and I'm crying as I write this. I so wanted to hurt those kids! My son didn't know I saw what happened and told me he tripped while coming home. Oh my God! Do you have any idea how my heart bled????

      Bullies have to be stopped. What makes people act that way anyway? I just don't get it...

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dianna! That's just the way things worked back then. We walked around in those Catholic school clothes and it was like having a target on......thankfully it's no longer like that. I'm proud of the stand you have made against bullying. Thank you!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Bravo, Bill! I see adults in college bully their fellow classmates. I am quick to put an end to it... just not right! On behalf of protestants, I apologize for your mistreatment at such a young tender age. You suffered way too much, even though you came out on top. Lots of hugs sent your way.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, this is such a big problem, but it is a problem that needs to be faced down and stood up to. No other way to defeat it. :) Thank you my friend; you are a good man!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Most of us I believe have been the victims of bullying at some point in life and the only way to stop getting picked on is to stand up to it. Of course we may get hurt as you point out but that pain will be lesser and far short lived than the sense of guilt we will carry with us all our life.

      Well said Bill and a very powerful message sent across.

      Voted up, useful and awesome.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, I pray it doesn't happen to her either because it is ugly and painful when it starts. As a teacher I attended all those workshops and assemblies, and really, I'm not sure they are worth a darn. This starts at home....raising kids not to be bullies...AND raising kids to be able to handle bullies. This will never be legislated by a well-meaning administration. ;)

      thank you my friend!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      This hub is right on the money Bill. My daughter is in fourth grade and there have been problems with bullies since kindergarten, luckily not with her. They have school assemblies and other educational programs but it still happens and as the kids get older , the worse it gets. Whenever I hear about it I am thankful that it has not happened to my daughter yet and I pray that it never will.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, when I was younger I probably would have found them funny....thank you for a great comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rich, you were the fat kid and I was the skinny little runt. Between the two of us we probably logged a lot of hours defending ourselves. And you are right....kick ass and take names and it all goes away.

      Thanks buddy; I wish the political correctness crap would go away so kids can grow up.

      Thank you Sir!

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for spreading awareness of bullying. Sadly. I was a vicious bully. But was it me or those who enjoyed my antics? You may have laughed at some of my stunts.

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Bill - I can't tolerate bullying. I was a fat kid, and know what it's like. I did as you, fought my way against any and all. I was lucky as my weight helped me to get over on many of them. Stood up to one that loved to hit younger kids atop the head with a stack of books while riding the school bus. We met in an alley, and after a couple of minutes, his habit was no more. I'm afraid too many parents are getting involved at times. The kids aren't learning how to handle the circumstances themselves, and will be lost later in life when mom and dad aren't there to stand up for them. That's one reason this political correct crap is here today. Kids haven't learned the basics so now, laws are being made to do the job the parents should have ensured been taught. If the parents would simply teach their own kids right from wrong, and stop worrying about everybody else, perhaps a change would occur. However, a fine line is to be walked between no intervention and too much intervention. I'm just glad my kids are grown. Great Job, my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, I just noticed your profile picture....your new grandchild? Beautiful, and congratulations to you my dear! How terribly exciting for all concerned! Is there anything more precious than a newborn? I think not!

      As for bullying, good for your son....it is imperative that people stand up to it. I have seen it disappear time and time again as a teacher, when a child stood up and fought. If you allow it once, as your son stated, it will go on forever.

      I don't know the solution short of requiring parents to take an competency test before having children, because bullying begins at home.

      Anyway, thank you my dear; take care of that precious child and God bless you and your family.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ruby, because I do believe this issue begins with parenting. Kids are not born to be bullies; that is a learned trait. If I could figure out a way to legislate parenting without tossing out the Constitution I would. LOL

      Seriously, you are right....and the gay community...I don't know where they find the strength to live their lives.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Don't even get me started with bullying, as you will see Faith Reaper's horns come out then, especially when a child is being bullied!!! However, just yesterday at work, one of the attorneys tried to bully me over a simple letter he wanted done - a one line letter, which made no sense at all, and he kept on and on about it, so I finally just went into the big bosses office and showed him what the other wanted to actually have mailed out, which would have been absurd to say the least, as a respresentation of our office, and the big boss said yes, what I had written initially needed to stay in the letter. I was a little apprehensive about even bothering the big boss about such a trivial little thing, but I had had enough, and the other guy was just being a bully about it. Then later he was called into the big guy's office, and he has been so nice to me ever since. What was even the point? Geez. It just made him look silly. Now, when my son entered into the 7th grade and he was a thin boy at the time---he is still thin, but over 6'3", but strong and all muscle . . . I was so surprised to learn later, that a whole gang (literally) as we lived in the city that has gangs, and this is the city in which I still work, but on his very first day in junior high, they all ganged up on him, and he just opened up a can of whoop @@@ on them all, and they never ever bothered him again. He was the man on campus after that. Although, he may have be thin, he was very strong and powerful ---all muscle and can take anyone down to this day, if they want to mess with him or anyone in our family - heaven help anyone who will harm his girls. He was very wise for his young age, as he told me way later, that he knew if he did not stand his ground that first day, it would be a never-ending issue to deal with each day. He said he saw a lot of others, and he told himself that was not going to be him. After the others saw him stand up to them, they all started standing up too.

      Really great hub, especially in today's world, when you see teenage girls, yes, girls, beating up on a handicapped woman in a wheelchair - this really happened here in the big city north of where we live. We live right in the middle halfway between two larger cities here.

      Voted Way Up In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      While reading this, my thoughts were with the gay community, more so, the children. So many young boys and girls are taking their lives because of hateful bullying. When are parents going to start teaching their children tolerance? Wonderful article Bill..Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Samnashy, love your comment and you are right. The only thing that defeats this behavior is to stand up to it, call it out, and report it. Thank you!

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      Sam Graham 4 years ago from Australia

      Thanks Billy. I can't believe how much bullying goes on in the workplace. It's awful to see anyone intimidated by another's behavior and is awful to witness or hear about. My 6 old has already had a dose poor little thing but thankfully it's all in the past. I just urge anyone who is being bullied to seek help.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      mpropp, again, thank you for the visit! I appreciate it every time you take away from your busy world to visit me. I feel pretty strongly about bullying. I have just seen too much of it in my lifetime to remain quiet about it.

      Have a great Minnesota evening!

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      Melissa Propp 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Another very inspirational hub! It's true, bullying was probably done all the way back to the cave days. And although we probably could not imagine electronic and social media bullying that our children now face (like Facebook and Twitter), I'm sure that THEIR kids will encounter still newer ways of bullying that we haven't even been imagined yet! Regardless, it all hurts the same. We all need to stand up to it. NONE of it is tolerable. Thanks again for the excellent "food for thought".

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Keith, I am quite certain you know all about bullying, and I love that you have no tolerance for it. I will leave it to the religious to pray for the souls of the bullies; for me, I'm just going to stand up to them and dish out some old fashioned punishment when possible.

      Thanks buddy; I owe you a visit as I am certain I missed your last hub.

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      KDuBarry03 4 years ago

      I used to be bullied all the time in high school and nearly got killed by some group of kids. So, I have a zero tolerance for it and if it gets to the point where my physical well being is most definitely threatened, I contact the police and notify the school. Bullying is inexcusable and, sadly, some people who have a troubled home life take it out on others already with their own set of issues and they are often the targets. Bullies should be stopped and/or helped if need be. Great articles as always, Bill!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, thank you so much; I am passionate about life and I was raised not to take disrespect, and bullying is definitely disrespect. I appreciate you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, I have many similar stories, many of which I was involved in. I would love to have had a picture of you picking that girl up and body-slamming her. LOL Thanks for a great comment and best wishes to you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Everythingdazzles, thanks for weighing in on this, and I'm very glad that you found a way to combat this nasty business. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jordan, it is nasty business and people are dying because of it. You are right, we can no longer ignore it.

      Thank you buddy!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Wow, that was powerful stuff, and right on the money. At school I took it for a while, then one day I fought back, there were no more problem after that. However, you are right, bullying is ingrained in our society, it is almost the norm. If we do nothing when we encounter it, we are no better than the bully. Another brilliant write. Love yor passion!!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi billy, I totally agree with you, ignoring bullies is just letting them do it more. I should know, I was bullied so much at school I hated going for years, then one day out of the blue, a girl ran in front of me, kicked her legs back and hurt me, so without thinking I picked her up and threw her against the wall, right outside the Headmasters office! I am not proud of it, in fact I have no idea where it came from, too many years of being picked on I expect, still it worked, she was so scared of me after that she and others never did it again.

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      Janelle 4 years ago from Houston

      I was bullied a lot when I was in school. Yet, eventually people just left me alone because I have always had this ability to just not care what people thought about me. They would try and try but I would just look at them like they were nuts and I think that is what drove them crazy. Eventually they got the point that they were not going to get to me. Kids just need to ignore and ignore. Even if they are in your face IGNORE THEM it will drive them crazy! ha! Someone bothers you on the internet the you block them. Rising above it is definitely the best route, because it only makes the bully look foolish.

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      Jordanwalker39 4 years ago from GA

      Thank you, it seems that bulling is getting out of hand and we can no longer ignore it.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mike, I love it! It's going to hurt fighting back, but oh well! Bruises go away.....fear will never go away without a conscious effort to eradicate it. My dad taught tough lessons but they were valid and true and I learned well from him. Bullying cannot be tolerated by anyone in this society; to tolerate it is to give up a bit of our humanity, and I'm not willing to do that.

      Thanks buddy; keep on speaking the truth and fighting the good fight.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Beckie! You may not throw the rock very far, but I'll bet you hit what you aim at. You certainly do with your words. :) My dad was not into soft lessons; it was balls out and full speed ahead, and if it hurt a little bit, oh well! He would never win awards for gentleness but he certainly was effective.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sommer, thank you so much! An issue I obviously feel strongly about. I saw way too much of it when I was teaching, and it's only gotten worse since then.

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      Sommer Dalton 4 years ago

      Well done and well written! Such an important subject thats needs more articles like this and to be talked about! Voted up plus 3!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Well said and your Dad sounds like my kind of people. He was teaching you a valuable lesson he knew you would face many more times throughout your life. That's how prevalent it is. He was already well aware of the seriousness and the lasting effects bullying plays. And you are correct, I can throw a rock (and it probably won't go very far) and reach an instance of bullying.

      It is one of the leading factors in suicide today.

      You did a fine job.

      My hat is off to you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Donna, God bless you! That's the kind of civic responsibility I am talking about. As for becoming a teacher, I love your reasons and your dedication. You are now an official member of my elite list. :) You have earned your stripes so to speak, and I am proud to know you......and yes, I am serious. We ARE all in this together and we need more responsible action like yours. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, it is true, and I'm on a personal crusade to end it every time I see it. :) I have no tolerance for any kind of bullying.

      Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, I'm trying my friend! There is too much insanity and pain in this world. I always feel better when you visit; it makes me realize I'm not fighting this fight alone. Thank you my dear!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Crystal, you may be onto something with your comment, but then I think back and bullying has always been brutal in every walk of life. I don't know....all I know is it is my responsibility to stop it when I see it.

      Thank you young lady; I hope things are going well for you in Georgia!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Blondey, thank you! I'm just trying to live a life that I deserve, and treat others the same way....seems so simple but it's amazing how many people have a problem with that concept. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Steph, we look forward to seeing you again! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, you are very right.....and this kind of behavior will never be alright! Period!

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      I was reading the comments and was sort of shocked when lovedoctor926 wrote that bullying exists even on HubPages. That is true. The good thing about that, is the very bad bullies can get banned.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alex, I obviously don't know your dad, but I wish I had known him. What a great story and yes, it is about empowerment. Some day I'll share a story with you about my son in elementary school, and what I told him to do....and he did, and the bullying stopped immediately. I agree completely; end the studies and just do something about it!

      Thank you my friend; I am very grateful for your friendship.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      benisan, thank you! There is a block user button but evidently there are ways around it. As for bullying of any kind, I think the fact that you and I do not comprehend it speaks volumes about the kind of people we are. :)

      I was saddened by Amanda's story and I suspect it happens quite often.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Another great hub of wisdom and advocating for what is RIGHT in the face of injustice. Terrific work Bill. You continue to be a voice for those in need.

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      Donna Kay Bryan 4 years ago

      Bill, I was also a Catholic school kid, but I was bullied by the other Catholic kids. Now, as a middle and high school teacher I am able to call upon my own experiences to help me deal with the bullying situations that I witness. As a matter of fact, it was the bullying aspect of the Columbine shootings that pushed me to become a teacher to try to make a difference. Although schools don't recommend it, I've even been known to step into the middle of things to stop someone from being pummeled. I'm only 5' tall so usually the punches are going to go over my head anyway.

      A few years while in a shopping mall, I aided a young woman who appeared to be being abused by her boyfriend. While my friend went for security, I stayed a few feet from the two of them and continued to question if she were okay while he continued to try to get me to leave them alone. I believe that he was just about to reach for a weapon tucked into his boot when security arrived and took care of matters. I have to admit that I had been scared to death, but there was no way I was going to leave this young girl who displayed all the signs of abuse. We're all in this together.

      Thank you for writing about this. Excellent hub -- voted up.

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      Crystal Tatum 4 years ago from Georgia

      There's never an excuse for bullying. It's always been a problem, I guess, but it seems that in recent years it's risen to an extreme level, and I'm so glad this topic is getting more attention. I can't help but wonder if the internet and social media contribute to the problem, because now kids learn they can say anything with really no consequences - or at least they can't see the consequences - the hurt look on someone's face. Just a thought. Great hub - voted up of course!

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      Rosemary Amrhein 4 years ago from Boston, MA

      It takes a strong person to be bullied and not turn and do the same- especially if they "learned" it from a parent. to break the cycle so to speak. I'm not sure what led you to write this but I thank you for your support on my hubs as always. You are a fine man!

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      Stephanie Hicks 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Hi Bill, well, I wish you would have been my son's 5th grade teacher. I was horrified by what occurred to him on the playground and felt humiliated when brushed off by the teacher (a man - it was in May and I think he was just trying to get through the school year and pass them onto middle school).

      Good for you for stopping bullying under your watch! Life is indeed too short!

      I will let you know when I head north again. I should make a trip to visit my grandmother before or during the holidays. Would be great to have coffee with you and Bev. :)

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Not only the shame, Billy. It delivers the message that it is all right to do it. We must stand up for our rights and the rights of others that are too weak to do it.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Steph, I wasn't your normal teacher. I would hear about bullying on the playground and I would go out and get right in the kid's face and tell him it ends now. I would often then have to deal with the parents who thought I was being unfair and picking on their child, but that's okay, the bully got the message.

      I have seen this all my life and I just can't tolerate it any longer. Life is too short for this unacceptable behavior.

      Thank you Steph, and let me know when you come back to Oly!

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      SilverGenes 4 years ago

      Bill, you and I share a similar bit of childhood. When I was seven years old, my way home was blocked by a bully who was a fourteen-year-old boy. After being knocked around a couple of times, I told my dad. He said something very similar to your dad, only mine gave me a bicycle chain for my pocket and told me to stand tall and swing it when the boy approached. I was kind of horrified. We weren't supposed to hit other people and with something like that? He told me chances are I'd never have to use it but when there is a big difference in age and size, the little guy sometimes needs an equalizer. He was right. The kid was more shocked with my new attitude than he was with the chain and I never had to use it. I can remember to this day how he said 'You're crazy!" before he turned and ran. I stopped carrying chains but kept the attitude and it came in handy many times more. That's the whole thing, isn't it? Empowerment. Then we can carry on and protect others while we grow up. I think we have to reconnect with that part of ourselves again and stop tolerating any kind of bullying anywhere. We don't need studies... we need to act.

      I'm so grateful for your voice on the Internet. We need more voices like yours.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love, I wish it weren't so, but it is. I just hang with the winners and let the others play their little games. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tigereyes, great comment; karma has a way of teaching us all some valuable lessons. I do understand where bullying comes from, but I in no way condone it, and I will always speak out against it.

      Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joseph, yes, indeed, we have them in here too. I am getting far too old to put up with any of this crap. I see bullying and I speak out...confronting it is the only way to deal with it, and when bullies are confronted they slink back into the slime from which they came. Thanks, buddy, and good job at work. :)

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      Stephanie Hicks 4 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Bullies are cowards. I have dealt with so many in my life - both directly and indirectly (with family and friends). I have no patience or tolerance for their actions what so ever!

      What saddens me is when you confront a parent or teacher about bullying that is occurring under their watch and get brushed off as, "its normal," or "boys will be boys," etc. The idea that any single person should have to tolerate or accept hateful, mean behavior of a bully is untenable.

      I am glad that bullying is more "socially unacceptable," but with social media today, these tyrants find many, many ways to avoid detection.

      Great hub, as always Bill!

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      Ka'imi'loa 4 years ago from Tucson, AZ.

      I have never really comprehended the whole idea of bullying. I have seen it througout my life as a student, and at times I have helped out the misfortunate victim, after all, it is a small lsand in which we live on. It is also evident the long lasting effects of bullying, such as the pschological aspect of it all and how it seems it takes decades to "get over" it. The latest victim that touched my heart was Amanda Todd from Canada, but this was cyber-bullying, the new playground fight. However, in Amanda's case, she "trusted" the guy she befriended online with her nude pics, in which he bribed her with them, taunting her so bad she ended her own life days after posting her YouTube video. The awesome result in all this is, the group Anonymous has located the 33year old pedophile and we can only hope to see what the outcome of all this is.

      Isn't there a 'block user' button to help prevent all this from happening on cyber-bullying?

      Great Hub Billy, you always have my attention.

      Ka'imi'loa

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Thanks Billy. wow! I am surprised that bullying exists on hubpages too. So far, everyone that I have come across here is nice.

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      TigereyesRose 4 years ago

      I know where you are coming from, I was bullied as a kid, because of my disability, but I stood up one day and they started leaving me alone, knowing I would fight back. I also have issues with my son being a bully at times, he has ADHD as well, and has been abused, and has anger issues. As you said, they mirror what they see...he has been in therapy, and I am always telling him it is NOT okay to act like a bully, to treat people as he would like to be treated. Karma caught up to him recently and he got a first hand taste of what its like to be bullied, his attitude is starting to change now, for the better, I am glad to see. Thanks for a great hub! :)

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      Joseph De Cross 4 years ago

      I'm as mad as any little one bullied. Bullies are out there, and more at workplaces, thinking that they can rule us or fire us. I cannot tolerate bullying at all. Actually a manager was getting on my back, and I emalied every CEO and directors with facts about his relatialatory attitude. Most thought I was nuts emailing everybody about this piece of ###. But now he is worried about his job. LOL! You said it right Billy. I feel sorry for that 6 or 7 years old kid, waiting for the school bus in the heartland of America. People just worried about presidential debates and making end meets. This hub just made me mad! Actually we have them in here too! Yep!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love, I am sorry that you fell victim to this craziness. I have seen it on HubPages as well, and it is sad to see. I have no tolerance for this kind of behavior. I will never see myself as a victim as long as I'm upright and breathing, and it is my job as a citizen and human being to stand up for those who are suffering this bullying/abuse.

      Great comment; thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, I'll stand alongside of you any day of the week. I am proud to be your friend buddy!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Silvie! This is such a problem in society today, and it needs to be stopped, but it won't be stopped until we all realize that what happens to one happens to all. I appreciate your comment.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      This is excellent information and a good hub to spread awareness. Sometimes people pick on someone without knowing them and for no reason at all. It did happen to me online on a writing site that I used to write for. The person basically attacked me repeatedly and not only published false statements (defamatory) against my good character, but also transmitted information to other people. At first, I ignored the behavior, but it soon spiraled out of control until I confronted her one day and I wasn't very nice about it either. I did file a complaint with the FBI but never heard back from them. I ended up leaving the website since they did nothing to protect me. In turn, she followed me from one site to the other. Thank God that she hasn't found me here and if she were to find me, I have the guest feature here checked so nobody from outside can leave me comments., Thanks Billy once again for this awesome hub. Voted up!

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Wow, I watched that video just now. I have always felt like you bill and would react the same way. Have reacted that way in fact. This will never end until every one of us stands up to it.

      Mark

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      Justsilvie 4 years ago

      Another excellent Hub! And I so agree that it takes other people to get involved to handle the problem. Bullies go after a weakness and when they see their target has a backup, they almost always do what bullies do and run in the other direction. Voted up and shared!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, there is only so much a teacher can do; this problem almost always starts at home, and as such is a tough nut to crack. That doesn't mean, however, that the rest of us can turn our heads and pretend it isn't happening. It is unacceptable behavior.

      Thank you as always; you are a wonderful follower and friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Audra and yes, I have seen that video, but thank you for sharing it on my site; maybe someone else will watch it. It needs to be seen.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kelley, thank you as always. I hope your church comes up with an effective way to deal with this problem. My way is to get in their face and make them stop. Sorry, I would fail most church classes on tolerance. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, I can hardly wait to see your hub! I understand bullies to a certain extent; what I don't understand are the people who turn their heads and allow bullying to happen because it doesn't involve them. For those people I have no respect.

      Thank you my friend; looking forward to your newest.

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      kelleyward 4 years ago

      Bill, this is a fantastic hub, once again. I always get involved if I witness bullying. Our church is discussing this right now and I think it is so important. Bullies are everywhere so we need to learn to deal with them effectively. Voted up and shared. Kelley

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      I love Harvey's quote....I HATE bullying and you're damned right I would quickly step in if I witnessed any form of bullying. Actually, I HAVE, numerous times and have never been sorry or felt the need to apologize or explain my actions. Please...don't get me started, bill, on cowards who will close their eyes or walk away.....In fact, I have a hub coming on this very topic! GREAT work, bill! UP+++

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      Mike Pugh 4 years ago from New York City

      Bullying will never be tolerated by the likes of me, no way no how, and so yes Bill you got it right.

      I love the way you've voiced yourself here, the addition of your Dad was priceless indeed, and the historical reference as well as truthful words of wisdom, and advise you urge others to take heed to is paramount indeed.

      I been victimized many times as a child by some silly bullies who thought they would get away with it all, but one day I stood up to them, hit em while they were chasing me with a hard as ever paused back kick technique I saw on some Asian Fighting movie, and when one of them dropped to the ground, well the whole gang ran!

      That's when I became known to them as the dude who kicked their top dog's ass (He must of been the Alpha Male), and from then on they became my friends, and they all quit bullying people, and began to respect others fairly, as I do myself.

      I never like to stage a fight, but when it is necessary I will stand and fight for what is right, as you very well know I do quite often, and this is the predominant factor of being real as ever, and standing up for oneself, some people need to do it for themselves as well so our global community one the web will never allow itself to get bullied, as well as for those countless victimized souls on the ground as well.

      Bravo! Bill outstanding job here, you are filled with surprises bro.

      Thumbs up and getting shared immediately!

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      Audra 4 years ago

      I appreciate you writing this and being an advocate for those who are unable to fend for themselves and feel shame. You are a great man Bill!

      Have you seen this..?... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vOHXGNx-E7E on Amanda?

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      My younger son was often bullied but not to the extent that I have read about. He was different so he had difficulty making friends and was teased a lot...But as you said it does not matter why the bullying happens it is just that it does. And I think it affects kids their entire life. Being accepted is so important when you are young, actually it is all your life. However someone has to stand up to this. It starts at home so looking to parents is number one. Teachers can help some, but if the root starts in the home it is going to continue. A serious problem and thanks for bringing out all this information.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alecia, I agree, more adults are bullies now, and the internet gives them a chance to be bullies from a safe distance. This needs to stop and we are the ones who will make that happen. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, what would I do without you? This is such a huge problem, and it won't go away until we make it go away. I have seen this all my life and I am tired of it, and if we were all tired of it, and stood up to it, it would disappear.

      Thank you Janine! So much!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michelle, yes, self-serving.....I am tired of people not making a stand in this world. We have to stand up and be accounted for; where there is bullying, we need to call it what it is rather than turn our heads. Thank you so much, Michelle, for being who you are....I am encouraged for the future because of people like you.

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      Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      Bullies are not only a problem for kids but it seems like more adults are bullies as well. I think alot of people use the internet as a way to hide their cowardice and insecurities to harp on others.

      I'm hoping that awareness and activism continues to grow but I also think it's about what you said- starting at home. Sometimes making a small step leads to big changes. Great hub!

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Powerful message and I too had gotten picked on by a few girls in my elementary school class, because I wasn't cool enough back then I suppose. I am sure many of us though have our stories and you nailed it on how we have to deal with bullies in this life in general. Great job as usual and commend you for using your words here to prove a very valuable life lesson. Have of course voted and shared all over!!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      This applies to all of us. We've all been victims of it at some point. And people ought to shake themselves out of their complacency and become less self serving!! Thanks for sharing, Bill, and of course, I share too.