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Live Your Dreams and Quit Dreaming of Living

Updated on February 10, 2014
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Anyone who has every read any of my work knows that I believe in dreams. I’m not talking about little ho-hum dreams but rather the HOLY SMOKE dreams or the YOU GOTTA BE KIDDING ME dreams or the WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN SMOKING dreams!

Now when we talk about dreams there are several ways we can go: we can be talking about the dreams that occur at nighttime while we sleep or we can be talking about the dreams we all have during our waking hours while we are working or going for a walk or whatever else we fill out day with.

For this article I will be discussing the daytime dreams, the wishful thinking dreams, the wishin’ and a prayin’ dreams that we all entertain during our lifetime.

I was inspired while in college by the words of Robert Kennedy, who borrowed from George Bernard Shaw, when he said: “Some men see things as they are and ask why. Others dream things that never were and ask why not.” So today I was sitting here watching it rain and I was thinking about that division between people; why do some people just dream big but do nothing while others act on those big dreams? What are the obstacles that prevent some people from not only not acting on a huge dream but in fact never even entertaining the possibility of that dream coming true?

COMPLACENCY

It takes work to make a big dream come true! It does not happen randomly and we can’t just snap our fingers and have it happen. If the dream is big enough it requires that we actually get off of our duffs and make it happen. So what’s the problem?

Remember, this is just my opinion, but I think there are a great many people who are just too complacent. The status quo is comfortable for them. They get up in the morning, go to work, come home at night, maybe run some errands, have a meal, watch some boob-tube and then go to bed. This pattern is repeated day in and day out with very little interruption as the weeks turn into months and then years and before you know it complacency has led the way to decades gone by and the chance of ever realizing that dream are gone.

I have seen relatives trapped in this complacent dead zone. I readily admit that I have fallen victim to it over the years. In my quiet moments I would dream the dream and then hardly notice that the years had gone by and the dream was on its last breath. It is hard to leave that comfort level; it is, in fact, almost like a drug-induced stupor, and the longer it continues the harder it is to break the pattern.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Childhood-Dreams-Where-Have-They-Gone

FEAR

Yes, I said fear! Never underestimate the power of fear in preventing us from going after a dream. These are uncertain times we are in and the last thing many want to do is rock the boat and leave the safety of their cocoon. What if we fail? How will we ever live that down? What will our friends and family say when we fall flat on our face in failure? What will we think of ourselves when we fail? What happens if we blow money in chasing our dream? How will we ever recover financially?

Give me ten minutes and I can give you fifty reasons to be afraid and if I can think of them so can anyone and that means they are well on their way to paralysis and of course paralysis leads to non-action and the dream dies. Think about the dreams you have had, the wonderful goals you set when you were younger but haven’t quite gotten around to yet. What has prevented you? I’m willing to bet that during the quiet moments when it is just you and your thoughts that you will have to admit that you have been partially hindered by fear of failure.

I can speak from experience when I say that recognizing fear is the first step to overcoming it. An honest admission of fear has to happen in order to move beyond it.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Social-Issues-Fear-and-Ignorance

LACK OF COMMITMENT

What is your big dream? What are your goals? What is the purpose in life that you have fallen short of to this date?

I wanted to be a teacher when I first went to college but my father advised that I take Business courses so that I could get ahead in the world. Three years later and with degrees in Marketing and Economics well within my grasp, I made up my mind to go an extra year and also get my teaching degree. Life had other plans for me, however, and my father died before my senior year. I was needed at home after I graduated and was not able to get that Education degree. Did my dream die?

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Some-Characteristics-of-a-Good-Teacher

I never lost track of that dream. I slowly saved money while taking care of my mother and five years later when she re-married I returned to college for that degree. In other words I made a commitment to make my dream a reality; it took five years to make it happen but I never lost sight of it and I continually worked towards it until it did happen.

Big dreams….big goals….big purposes….make a commitment. They do not happen unless sacrifices are made. Unfortunately sacrifice means facing fears and leaving the Comfort Zone and both of those are the natural enemies of commitment.

I HAVE A DREAM

I have written before about my new dream, my new purpose and goal. Bev and I want to buy a farm and make it an alternative education center. This is a lovely dream for sure but it is a huge dream of gigantic proportions because I am sixty-three and Bev is, well, slightly younger than me. We are talking about completely altering our lives at late middle-age and starting all over again. We are staring at a bleak economy and declaring that we don’t care, that our dream is more important and worth the risk.

We have heard those who would say that it is too risky, too silly, too foolhardy, that we should be happy with what we have and not take the risk and do you know what we say to that? Baloney! Bugger off! Either support us or get the hell out of our way because this is what we plan on doing. Period!

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/My-Dream-The-Self-Sustaining-Educational-Eco-Farm

FINAL THOUGHTS

Listen! I make no judgment about people who are happy with their life as it is. There are some people who have always dreamed of having two kids, living in suburbia and making a comfortable life for the family and I say fantastic! If that is what you want then I wish you peace and happiness the rest of your life.

I am addressing the hundreds of thousands out there who trudge through life wanting more but not making the effort to achieve more. It is as though they think that one morning they will wake up and their goal will have been achieved simply by wishing it. I wish it happened that way but sadly it does not, and so the weeks become months, the months become years and the dream wilts and dies.

May I ask you one question? WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

If fear is stopping you then defeat it! If complacency is stopping you then get off your butt and do it! If commitment is stopping you then what IS important enough to you to commit on? Some out there will say it’s not that easy, that there are obstacles and a thousand different reasons why you can’t follow a big dream and I say best of luck to you for the rest of your life. I, for one, would rather sit down to a nice salmon steak instead of grilled minnow.

2012 Bill Holland (aka billybuc)

A great hub about this subject can be seen at:

http://unknownspy.hubpages.com/hub/Dare-To-Dream-anyway-its-Tax-Free

To order my new Lifestyle Choices book on Kindle go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Lifestyle-Choices-ebook/dp/B007ZV9G2U/ref=sr_1_3?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1336064586&sr=1-3

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It takes courage to dream AND act on the dream, Spy! I do believe you have that courage and I look forward to following you as you move forward in your life.

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      Finally found it!!!! DAre to Dream! such an inspiration Billy! Thank you so much!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Keith, an excellent suggestion, one I have used in the past. Thank you for stopping by and I hope your suggestion and my hub spurs on some people who might be stuck in neutral.

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      Keith James Kennedy 5 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

      Great hub that speaks to everyone. Something I have found helpful is drawing out your dream so you have a physical reminder. A few paragraphs and a picture can be the deciding factor between watching tv or crossing off tasks.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lisa, show me a person without fear and I'll show you a corpse. We all have it and we all learn to deal with it. My best to you and yours on this beautiful Sunday!

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      Lisa 5 years ago from Tennessee

      I must say that fear has stopped me a few times in my life. I have been and will always be a big dreamer, though!

      Awesome Hub and I like how you tell it like it is! Great job!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jpelczar, very true words and thank you for sharing them. They are much more eloquent than my clumsy attempt to say the same thing. Thanks for visiting my home away from home.

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      jpelczar 5 years ago

      Whatever you think about you bring about; Whatever you focus on grows. If it wasn't for the big dreamers, there would be no innovation. The power of positive thinking is all about thinking big. I enjoy reading Wayne Dyer. He always says, "Think as if you are already in the situation you want to be in, and it will become a reality."

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cbpoet, good morning to you as well. Since I have no background on you at all I will refrain from giving advice. That just isn't my style. I will say it saddens me that you have held back in your pursuit of your dreams only because I love to see people attain that which they have always wanted. I will hold out hope for you and continue to be optimistic that those dreams of yours will one day come true. Thank you so much for following me and have a marvelous weekend.

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      cbpoet 5 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      Good morning billybuc,

      Excellent hub. Fear and complacency have definitely prevented me from pursing my dreams too. If only we could have the spirit of a child again and be naturally curious, playful and fearless.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Savanah, I will indeed make this dream a reality. Thank you my dear. I hope you are well. When I don't hear from you I start to become concerned. Be happy and stay in touch.

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      savanahl 5 years ago

      What a great hub billybuc. I think dreams are so important to have. It's the only way anything substantial or meaningful will ever happen in your life.

      I've always been a dreamer, and as a result I've traveled the world and have done some pretty amazing things in my life.

      I really like your dream, and knowing the kind of person you are, you will make it happen.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruth, I applaud you for taking the next step in your dream. Age is just a number and as long as we have dreams to chase we will continue to be younger than the birth certificate says. Thank you as always for sharing and supporting.

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      Ruth Clark 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Great hub, Billy, and I voted up. I'm working toward a lifelong dream. I believe that my dream did not come to fruition before now because my motives were not as they should be. Now my motives and commitment are aligned and I'm getting the education I need.

      I'm older than you, Billy, but I believe dreams should never die. Worthy dreams, however much fear is there, should be pursued. Sometimes the timing is off, but that doesn't mean the dream should be abandoned.

      You and your lady keep on and much good will come from this. So will mine. Fear? Yes, but I know how (now) to deal with that, so all that is left is to take that step forward every day. God bless.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosemary you are so right; I have found throughout my life that the fear I had of something was much worse than that actual thing I feared. As you said, there comes a time when you need to take the next step forward or risk being stuck in neutral forever. Thank you so much for stopping by.

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      Rosemary Sadler 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      This is a great inspirational hub Bill.

      Chasing big dreams is scary but so rewarding when they are achieved. And quite often they turn out not to be as scary as you thought. There comes a time when you have to stop procrastinating, either give up the dream or find the confidence in yourself and just go for it.

      I am sure that anyone reading this will find the encouragement that you give and pluck up that courage.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Christy, your smile could light up a room! Yes, chasing big dreams can be scary; no doubt about that young lady! To me, though, not chasing dreams is scarier by far. Best of luck to you as you chase your dreams whatever they may be.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is always a pleasure to be visited by always exploring. I never know whether to use someone's name or not so forgive me for being so formal. :) I applaud you for chasing your dream despite the obstacles. I agree with you that King's speech is timeless.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Seeking, thank you for visiting my site and I'm glad you liked the message. I'm afraid what you say is true, about worrying what others will think. I have fallen into that trap in the past but no longer. I appreciate your comment and thank you for the well-wishes. I wish you happiness as you chase your dreams.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I really like this hub! I enjoy that you share your own dreams in your writing. I began following my dream a few months ago and it certainly is scary. Especially since as you say many dreams are big ones. We do not know unless we try, isn't that so true! Thank-you for the words and I hope they inspire other people to start moving toward their own dreams.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Great inspiritional story. I never gave up on the dream of being a nurse. After a bitter divorce, I made that dream come true. I love to listen to Dr King's speech, it never gets old. Thank you for sharing...

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      seekingpeace91 5 years ago

      Love. this. hub. !! Know what else stops us from pursuing our dreams? Worrying about what other people will think!! Not worth it. They're not living our life! =) Thanks for your wonderful, inspiring words!! And good luck with your dreams!!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lisa, I'm not sure if I love change or I'm addicted to it, but I do know I don't have it in me to settle for the status quo when there are so many mountains yet to climb. Bless you for you kind words and best of luck with your next major change, whatever that might be. :)

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      Elizabeth Rayen 5 years ago from California

      billybuc, I love this hub because of how much I can relate to it. I have always been a big dreamer and I have pretty much not let anyone or anything stop me from taking chances or dream big. I love, no, I'm in love with change. Change is awesome and I believe is required in life to move forward, especially in our dreams! I think the fear comes from the unknown, like sitting in a dark room and not being able to see the open door. I LOVE Sunkentreasure's quote by Bernard Levine "Secrets of Success." Excellent words to follow and live by! Great hub.. voted up and across! Lisa

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pandula, you are very welcome. I hope you still have unfulfilled dreams and that you are thinking about making them a reality.

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      pandula77 5 years ago from Norway

      Thanks for reminding about the importance of following your dreams and I should agree with you that it needs lots of effort and motivation in order to be happy about following the dreams.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pannonica, you are very welcome and I love the lesson you taught your children. I refuse to believe that we are helpless; we can achieve incredible things if we are willing to make the effort.

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      Pannonica 5 years ago

      Hi billybuc. Another great hub. I always associate our dreams and passions with positive thinking. I instilled in my children that anything is possible in our world today, okay so some dreams may take a lot of work to achieve, but nothing comes free in life. Voted up and thanks.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Stephanie; I in no way ever want to imply that it is easy, but I also would hate to think people pass by on dreams because there is difficulty involved. Anyway, thank you for dropping by.

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      Stephanie Henkel 5 years ago from USA

      What a wonderfully inspiring hub! I'm a believer in following your dreams, but fear of the unknown can make us hesitate and keep us from taking the necessary steps. I think that there are times in our lives when we have more courage to follow those dreams...when that courage shows its face, then go for it! :)

      Great hub, voted up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm excited for you Made and I have no doubt that you will attain your goal. The world needs more dedicated nurses.

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      Madeleine Salin 5 years ago from Finland

      Thanks, Bill. A house is very material, so perhaps I'll aim for some other kind of goal after moving into the house. One of my goals is to become a nurse before June next year. I'm in the middle of my studies right now.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kayha, I believe that with every ounce within me. All things are possible but we simply have to believe it and work for it. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

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      kayha 5 years ago

      What a great hub! It is easy to dream but it requires lot of hard work, motivation and dedication to be able to achieve it. I used to think that I don't know anything and that there is no point in dreaming, but that has totally changed now. As long as we are willing to work for it, we can achieve anything!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Made, I am excited for you. I love hearing stories like yours where people ignore the negative comments and just go for it! Hooray for you and I wish you the very best in your dream realization!

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      Madeleine Salin 5 years ago from Finland

      billybuc, thank you for this wonderful hub. Everey word of it had my full attention. I'm a dreamer just like you. Some people think me and my spouse are crazy, because we are building a big, beautiful house with no help from carpenters. Other people worry about who's going to clean it and how we are going to pay for it, and of course ask the question: When are you going to finish it and move in? This house is one of our dreams. It's a part of our interests and a part of our lives. When we have finished this house, I have reached one of my goals in life. I have hundreds of other dreams. I'll keep on day dreaming ... GREAT hub!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Weestro, I don't know anyone who isn't fearful; it's what we do with the fear that really counts. Thank you for dropping by and sharing part of your story.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, what a great feeling that is, to hold your book, born from your own words. When I held my book for the first time I was beyond happy...I am very happy for you and I am proud to call you my friend. Peace to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Tara, I love being on the edge; it might say something about my personality, that I always need the rush to keep me going, but that is who I am and I am happy. Thank you for your great comment.

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      Pete Fanning 5 years ago from Virginia

      Great hub billbuc, inspiring and motivational! I'm definitely in the fear department. Voted up and awesome.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      Great words billy and I am all for going after that dream and living it!!!

      Last night I received the final proofs for my book My Beautiful Rock Rose from my publishers and as I read through it again it was very emotional;I have posted a status on FB with an image of the cover;and have published a hub on it also.

      So my message to the world is "Get out after that dream and don't let go because I can assure you it is well worth it!!"

      This is another great hub billy and your voice is getting out there and people are listening.

      Take care my friend and I wish you a wonderful day.

      Eddy.

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      tarajeyaram 5 years ago from Wonderland

      Billybuc - this is a great article that you wrote. I wish everyone would follow these points. Many people are fearful of changes and also working hard. When you are doing something different from others, it feels like you are on the edge and that feeling keeps you going. Thanks for the hub. Voting up and up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bernard, thank you for the great message...never give up!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, I have no doubt at all that you get it...now if we can just get the message out to millions of others who are run by fear and the opinions of others. As always thank you and wishing you well.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, to hell with the parachute. When in doubt just flap your arms real fast. Love your sense of humor and your spirit; never let the dreams die.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ladeda, thank you very much! It really is so very easy to fall into the trap and let fear dictate....time to stop that now! My best to you!

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      BERNARD LEVINE 5 years ago from RUIMSIG, SOUTH AFRICA

      SECRETS OF SUCCESS By BERNARD LEVINE

      You are the architect of your life.

      Create your own opportunities

      and make things happen.

      Set yourself a specific goal

      and monitor your progress.

      Be of service.

      Keep doing things for others

      without counting the cost.

      Turn your defeats into victories.

      Control your environment.

      Mix with the kind of

      people who inspire you.

      Keep your attitude positive

      and your health in fine trim.

      Let God go before you

      in everything you do.

      Pray regularly with feeling.

      Always be planning

      something constantly.

      You are the magnet of

      your circumstances.

      Never give up!

      © Bernard Levine

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Another great hub Bill, Fear and complacency are both biggies in this issue as you said. I also think we as a society have been taught that dreamers are just wasting their time...get real...make something out of yourself etc.

      Thank you for this awesome wake up message!

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 5 years ago from Western NC

      Fear? Yes, I have that. Dreams? Boy, do I have those. Now, my problem is WHICH dream to act upon? I have so many! Haha. You've probably figured out by now that if I have a dream, I'll try for it, unless life bangs me upside the head and steers me in a different direction. I am open minded and I love seeing what life has to offer. Except sometimes that open-mindedness leaves me wondering in which direction should I go. But, then it seems like something always happens and I get the message. I feel like right now, the message is clear. I'm going for it, dude. I'll be as careful as I can, but I do know there is that eventual "leap". Oh, lord, I just hope the parachute works.

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      ladeda 5 years ago

      This is a great Hub. Thank you for the motivation to dig up a few of those old dreams I've had and actually make them a reality! It's so easy sometimes to get caught up in the fear of "what if this doesn't work out-ness." Life doesn't happen just as we plan it. In fact, sometimes it turns out better than we dreamed. :) I wish you all the luck in making your dream a reality!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ardie, recognizing fear is half the battle. You are such a wonderful person with such a free spirit; I hope some day you can break loose from the chains and experience all that is waiting for you...in the meantime I appreciate your friendship and if there is anything I can do to help just let me know.

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      Sondra 5 years ago from Neverland

      This is a great Hub - sadly my fears keep me from following/chasing my dreams. I don't know when, where, or how these fears came about but I cannot get rid of them. I suppose they can technically be called my anxieties. It is something I work on daily because I realize it holds me back from so many life experiences. I hope more people see this Hub and figure out what might be keeping them from chasing their dreams too.