How to Stop Mobbing!
"Every human being deserves to be valued and respected. Maintain an employment scenario free of abuse."
"Intimidation or" bullying "is a form of aggressive behavior in which a person intentionally and repeatedly causes injury or discomfort to another person. Bullying can be through physical contact, words, or more subtle actions.
Bullying or "mobbing" carries a hostile and unethical communication which is directed in a systematic way by one or more individuals, mainly toward one individual. These actions occur very frequently and over a long period of time.
The term "mobbing" is used when the abuse comes at a workplace. "Bullying" is generally used when the abuse is between school mates.
Pattern of humiliation and psychological abuse
In April of 2012, a maid who worked in a hotel in Rio Grande, Puerto Rico murdered a colleague who had an alleged pattern of humiliation and psychological abuse perpetrated by the murder victim. This caught the attention of human behavior experts, who warn that this type of "bullying", known as "mobbing", is more common than many think. The worst? Many think that there are no laws to go against those who use this terrifying behavior.
Spending almost eight hours, day after day, in a place that someone is determined to make those hours a hell is an unpleasant and unhealthy situation that dozens of people in Puerto Rico and around the world are living. Fear of job loss causes most victims to choose to bear the abuse, instead of defending themselves or searching for assistance.. In the current economic crisis, that fear multiplies and leads to suspect the existence of a "large number" of people suffering such situations and not complaining. This situation has turned into a "powerful" position favoring the Mobber (offender).
How is a Mobber
The Mobber model is presented as charming in appearance, but can become dangerous to the emotional balance of those around. These people form toxic relationships and take absolute control that destroys self-esteem and the safety of those nearby. The Mobber is subject to a lot of jealousy; they are envious of what people see in others and what they lack. The Mobber feels comfortable when others sit in disgust with them. They love to keep control of any relationship to cause insecurity in the other people.
The Mobber constantly attacks the dignity of the human being; that is why they make a political smear peer. Their humiliation is in public, to colleagues, and subordinates. They tend to ridicule their victims behind their physical gestures, or the way they dress. Degradation and slander is used against superiors. When the victim is absent, they snoop through the victims area of work. The lifestyle of the victim, their religious and political convictions are subject to general hilarity. They assign one or more persons who are spies in confidence of the Mobber. Women are often degraded with vulgar and tacky comments. There are so many tactics used to destroy the dignity of the human being that, we would need a book instead of an article to go in detail.
How is the Mobber's victim
The Mobber's victim can be anyone regardless of age or sex. They can be brilliant people whose natural charisma automatically converts them into annoying and overly competitive in the group to which they belong. They can be people who have a higher education than others, so they become threatening to their peers with lower educations and more time in their position. People who are better prepared, effective, good workers, whose remarkable activity highlight the rest of the group, can be victims. Other victims may be people with a disability or physical defect, or those that are more vulnerable because of their depressive character; in need of affection and warmth to feel supported within the environment.
How to stop the "Mobbing"
- Know clearly that you are a victim of bullying.
- It is extremely important to remain calm; you can not let your emotions take over.
- You should keep a diary of the events. They should record all the details and incidents of persecution.
- Observe those who have witnessed these incidents that you are having with the Mobber.
- Seek professional help to manage your emotional health.
- Consult with legal counsel because, although mobbing is not recognized by this term in Puerto Rico, harassment is.
"Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you."
Blessings to all!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill