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Social Issues: Finger Pointing

Updated on May 6, 2013

I’m tired of all the bickering. I'm tired of all the finger pointing. And I'm tired of all the blame.


I’m sick and tired of everyone blaming the President for the problems facing our nation. If one man did all this damage, then why is it one man can’t fix it? If one man did it, then surely an entire Congress can fix it.


Now, doesn’t that sound stupid?

The Blame Game

This blame game that is being played serves no one. We are all guilty to some extent for the problems in this world. We’ve been greedy, selfish, stubborn, and spoiled. We’ve turned our heads and looked the other way, closed our eyes to what we didn’t want to see, and ignored what we didn’t want to hear. We’ve elected people to positions of authority and never held them accountable. We say we want a smaller government yet we want stricter regulation. We can’t have it both ways.

Congress blames the President and the President blames Congress. Whites blame the blacks and blacks blame the whites. Christians blame the Muslims and the Muslims blame the Christians. The rich blame the poor and the poor blame the rich. Gays blame the straights and the straights blame the gays. Environmentalists blame science and scientists blame the environment. With that much blame being thrown around, it seems like we could all share in a piece of it.

One man can’t fix what is wrong in this world. An entire Congress can’t fix it all either. The truth is, it will take every single person doing their small part to even get us slightly back on track.

The Power of "We"

There is no magic wand to wave and make all these problems go away.

We have a debt problem, racial tension, extreme weather patterns, and we are still at war.

We have children committing murder, women prostituting for drugs, and men running guns across our borders.

We are watching our elderly choose food over medicine, mothers letting someone else raise their babies while they work two jobs, and men who can’t find a job.

We have an entire generation of young people who have a formal education but no common sense and kids with plenty of common sense and no money to pay for an education. We watch as our city parks become home to the homeless and the beauty of our national parks is neglected.

We demand more and are willing to give less.

Self inspection and self-reliance

I don’t want to hear it anymore - that it’s someone else’s fault. Maybe it’s time we started asking ourselves why we didn’t do something before it got this bad. That might be interesting, don’t you think? Oh, but then we might have to admit we waited too long. Did we really think someone else would fix it and we wouldn’t have to do anything differently? Are we really that arrogant? Maybe we are.

I don’t want or need someone else to fix my problems. They are mine to fix. And if I fix them, I won’t be a burden on the system. I won’t be waiting for my neighbor or the President, or even Congress to fix it for me. But it’s a lot easier to wait for someone else, isn’t it? If I wait, I can keep on being greedy and selfish and stubborn and spoiled. Or can I?

No, if I don’t tackle my own problems when I identify them, they will only escalate and eventually spin out of control. I’m not stupid. I know when I’ve spent too much. I’m smart enough to know when I’ve neglected the care of my vehicle or home. I’m smart enough to know when my diet isn’t healthy or economical and I know the price I will pay both in health and finances. I don’t need to be a genius to know that I can’t spend more than I make and that if I walk around with a chip on my shoulder, sooner or later someone is going to knock it off.

Are we so foolish?

I’m no fool and I don't think you are either. I know that if I don’t care about others, chances are they won’t care about me either. If I don’t speak up for the child being bullied, that child might grow up angry and kill my neighbor’s grandchildren. If I don’t treat everyone equally, regardless of the color of their skin or the religion of their choice, then I may be ridiculed for my own. If I cannot find it in my heart to care about the elderly, can I expect to be cared for when I am old and gray? If I do not treat the mentally ill or handicapped with kindness, can I expect kindness if I should one day stand in their shoes?

All this blame just seems to be a foolish waste of time. We need to start fixing things ourselves, in our own homes and neighborhoods.

It is said that when you point a finger, you have three fingers pointing back at yourself. Think about it.


© 2013 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

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    Petra Vlah 4 years ago from Los Angeles

    Blaming others is easier than taking responsibility and is certainly easier than trying honestly to solve a problem (facing criticism as well as risking failure).

    It seems that everyone would rather be the winner of a popularity contest and none want to take a chance. That goes for government and individuals alike; making waves is the last thing anyone wants to do

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello Petra. You are exactly right. Sadly though, if we don't start making waves, this old ocean is going to lull us to sleep and drown us. I appreciate your comment.

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    Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

    Short and sweet. The point was made and there is no reason to continue. I am with you, Kindred! I am so friggin' tired of everyone blaming everyone else. We are all to blame, and even saying that fixes nothing. The word 'compromise' has disappeared from our language and until it is found again nothing will be fixed. Great point; I just wish the people who need to read this would read it.....thanks for the links my friend.

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    Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

    Linda, I just love this particular crusade. You last two sentences say it all. In fact, you have to stop and think about the posture of your hand when you point your finger. Indeed, three point back at you. Majority rules, right?

    Excellent hub, my friend!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Bill, ain't it the truth. I'm preaching to the choir here but maybe five years from now, google will pick this one up. lol As for the links, hey, you did the work. Linking is easy. :-) Hugs to you my friend.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Shauna, you nailed it. God and nature don't make mistakes. Majority does rule! Thanks for the compliment. It means more than you know because I really was on a crusade this morning.

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    carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

    Many people blame there woes on other people, events and just about anything else. taking responsibility for own actions..well that might be a perfect world.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Carol, we can hope, can't we? lol

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    Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

    I blame ME!!! Awesome my amazing friend. When did we become such a Nation of apathy? Wouldn't that be such a blessing for all to stop blaming and actually get our hands dirty and do something, anything . . . PLEASE!!! God bless you for this superb write of pure, no nonsense truth.

    Voted up ++++ and must share , of course!!!

    Love you, Faith Reaper

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Faith, this is what happens when I get ticked off. lol Sweet lady, you need not blame yourself. You are taking care of family, friends, strangers, and loving everyone who comes within reach. If we were all more like you we would be a happy, healthy world. Sending you love my friend.

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    Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

    Please get ticked off more, as that may just be the key!!!

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    wildove5 4 years ago from Cumberland, R.I.

    Totally agree! Slinging mud over the fence at each other only makes a big mess on both sides! Thanks for sharing!

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    Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

    I am in the confidence to know: Blaming and stirring anger against the other, still raises more money for politicians, than work well done.

    Rant a little more would you!

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    Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    A great and very pointed hub, pointing at the apathetic public here in the US. We've been led into wars we had no business in (Iraq) and that is where the debt started stacking up, and now we have a bullet to bite and a Congress that is leading us into darkness.

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    Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

    So right! I was taught: If you use the word "you" the next thing better be a compliment. I was so good at this that people knew I would never say anything bad about them. As a leader, armed with your advise, you will be very effective.

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    @ wildove5 - what a great analogy. Thanks for sharing it.

    @ Eric - don't encourage me. lol I prefer to write in a more positive tone but I was inflamed and this had to be expressed. Sometimes I just can't hold back. You are so right about the money and politics and that is a sad state of affairs.

    @ Jim - "pointed"??? lol Somewhat appropriate, wouldn't you say? I completely agree about his war and the bullet we are going to have to bite. As for Congress leading us into darkness, well, I'm not sure they are leading us at all. I see no leadership coming from the GOP. They are acting like a bunch of school children and it's maddening. Thanks for the visit friend.

    @ MH - I love the lesson you were taught. I was taught that if you can't say something nice, say nothing. Obviously I paid no attention wen I wrote this piece. lol You are a sily man. I am no leader of anything but I am someone who cares. I hope tht's enough to make a difference somehow.

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    Karen Silverman 4 years ago

    OH, GF - i love this and i adore you and your courage in writing it! It is being posted on my FB page as 'my favorite today'! i will share wherever i can and if you'd like to 'link' some of our articles together - that's supposed to make them 'stronger'....somehow..(lol..don't ask me tho..)..

    One thing i would add to your 'i'm not stupid list'? EVERYONE also knows when they can't afford the HOUSE - even If the BANK says it's okie dokie..

    omg..

    personal responsibility - where's it gone?

    on the other hand - the government IS corrupt - as we speak another 'cliff' date has passed - and the supreme court is entertaining limiting voters rights..

    sigh..

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    Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

    Very true, very sad. You see it on all levels, at work, school, home. If you so much as mention something amiss, everyone is running for cover and pointing at the guy next to him. What a world we live in! thank you for this all important and timely message. Up++

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Leslie, we should definitely link some hubs. I feel like we are twin spirits anyway. So, feel free to link and I will do the same. Hell yeah! I hope the world is ready for the two of us. lol

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Randi, isn't it the truth. Sometimes I wonder how all the kind hearted people with brains ended up here on HP and left the rest of the world so defenseless. lol Thank you for sharing my angst. I always look forward to your comments.

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    Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

    Hi lrc7815... you are so right for standing up and speaking of this issue. The same is happening all around us and everyone has an opinion of one leader or special interest group.

    I always say the ones that are calling out the loudest are the ones who are often contributing to the problem. Things such as National Debt and over spending can be contributed to poor management. When austerity rules are pit in place it may mean having to do without a few things in life, so what.

    One thing you can be sure of finger pointers, for the point that is pointing away from you there are three more pointing back at you.

    Hugs from Canada

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello Rolly and thank you so much for your visit today. This piece was written from a place of pure passion and may not be my most creative or popular. When I think of all the brilliant minds in the world, I wonder how much good could be done if we/they did not care who got the credit or blame. I cannot even imagine how much could be accomplished for the good of many if an equal amount of energy was directed at a solution as is spent laying blame. As you say, so what...if we have to do without a few things in life for the sake of austerity. It's just "stuff", after all. Nature so often reminds me of what a greedy bunch we humans are. In nature, three things are vital - food, water, and shelter. The rest is nothing more than fluff. Oh yes, we humans have a lot to learn yet.

    I appreciate your comment and send warm hugs to you in return.

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    picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

    Wow, I couldn't agree with you more! Thanks for sharing such a worthwhile hub!!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi pickles. wow, I'm glad you liked this one. You've made me feel worthy of the space I take up on this planet. lol Seriously, your comment means a lot to me and I really am happy that you share my feelings.

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    Judy Specht 4 years ago from California

    To think for years I thought; I didn't do it, Not my fault, and He did it were just three kids who hung around the house when I wasn't home.

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    Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

    We are the same age! Happy Birthday?? or should it be anniversary? I must admit a little secret, up until today I just assumed you had been here for years. My admiration for you just grew, which is amazing as it was so high before. Thanks for being you.

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    MizBejabbers 4 years ago

    Linda, I'm finally getting around to reading your hubs I've missed during my busy season at work. This one is a good lecture on responsibility, and I thank you. Your other commenters have said about everything that I could say, so I'll make only one comment: If everybody behaved the way they should and this world was a good planet to live on, then the Bible would be wrong and what would Christians do? Just being my annoying self. Voted up!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Miz B - I love your spunk. I think we should make a bumber sticker that says, "What would Christians do if the world was perfect?" lol You are adorable.

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    wildove5 4 years ago from Cumberland, R.I.

    I wrote a similar article I have not published here, the title is even the same! I TOTALY agree, slinging mud at each other never solved a thing! Great hub! Voted up!

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    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Wildoves...hello again. Thanks for dropping in and supporting my opinion. You should publish your article. Our society needs reminding and the more voices heard the better.

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