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Social Issues: The Reality Hangover

Updated on January 10, 2013

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

I know all about hangovers. In the world of drinking, this writer “has game.” You see, I am a recovering alcoholic, and for about twenty years I was intimately familiar with hangovers. Alcohol was my lover, my best friend, and towards the end, almost my fatal enemy.

I know all about hangovers: the splitting headaches that feel as though the gods are prying the top of your head off with pliers; the cotton mouth and the lethargy that inevitably follows a night toasting my demons; yes, I know all about hangovers.

I suffered my last alcohol-induced hangover in 2006, and once I had sworn off alcohol….once I had joined the ranks of the recovering….I just naturally surmised that I would never have another hangover as long as I stayed sober.

Oh how wrong I was!

Suffering from a hangover....reality-induced!
Suffering from a hangover....reality-induced! | Source

SWAPPING ONE PAIN FOR ANOTHER….AN ADDICTS DILEMMA

One day I woke up with an atrocious hangover, and it hurt so badly that I told myself, 'It's time to stop. I can't do it anymore. It's not good. It hurts too much.'
Jordan Knight

Yes, I woke up one day, in the Emergency Ward, and I vowed to quit alcohol once and for all, and for the past six years I have held true to the vow.

I then substituted writing for alcohol. Yes, I am addicted to writing; this is now my passion, and I devote every ounce of energy I have into writing….but….

It is painful at times. You see, I write about subjects that I think matter in this world. I write about child abuse, homelessness, sex trafficking, and any other painful subject I can find that will take an ounce of flesh and blood from my body. It is not my goal to suffer but suffer I do. How could I not? How can one be surrounded by suffering and not feel it?

Most times it is manageable. Most times I can write and compartmentalize; I can post my articles and then go about the rest of my life in a fairly normal fashion.

Today is not one of those days.

Today I have a reality hangover!

THE SIMPLE AND UGLY TRUTH

There is just too much pain in the world today. There is too much greed, hunger, complacency and anger, and I don’t know what to do about it.

What bothers me every bit as much is the divisiveness that I see. At a time when we should be uniting as a people, I see battle lines being drawn in the sand and shouts of “I’m right and you are wrong” resounding throughout society. We can’t possibly right this ship if we are fighting amongst each other and not tackling the major issues that we face.

Let’s be realistic for a moment. The government is not going to solve our problems. They have had decades to fix the economy and have failed miserably. They have had decades to find a solution to unemployment, homelessness, drug abuse and moral decay, and they have failed miserably. These important matters will only be solved if we come together as a community and work as one.

Instead we have name-calling, blame, and finger-pointing, like so many kids on the playground who can’t share the one ball to play with.

That is why I felt compelled to start H.O.W., or Humanity One World. It was a desperate attempt to unite people under a common cause, to make this world a better place in which to live. However, I even wonder if that will work because the obstacles are too great. How do you turn back the flood that is upon us? How do you beat back the wolves when they are the ones who are organized and determined?

EMPATHY CAN BE A CURSE

The struggle of my life created empathy - I could relate to pain, being abandoned, having people not love me.
Oprah Winfrey

You see, to have true empathy for another human being, one must relate to the pain that the other is feeling. That is, in fact, the definition of empathy, and although it is one of mankind’s greatest virtues, it is also painful. How do you shut it off? If someone can give me an answer to that question I would be very grateful.

Or would I? How does a person blithely go through life not feeling for those who are suffering? I don’t know how to do that, and thus my reality hangover is pounding my skull right now.

I woke up yesterday ready to tackle the new day, and then the assault began, and within two hours I was depressed and feeling at a loss. There is just too much pain, too much bitterness, and too much sadness. One only has to log on to Facebook to see the truth in that statement. One only has to turn on the television or read a newspaper to see the truth in that statement.

And for those of us with empathy for our fellow man and woman, it is sensory overload to the extreme.

Sit with me awhile

SOLUTIONS ARE NOT IN SIGHT

So what do I do? I can’t flick a switch and stop feeling. I can’t turn my head and pretend I live in Shangrila, and I can’t do as others seem to be able to do and ignore it all.

The only thing I know to do is continue the good fight. I was raised to not back down from a fight, and I see no reason to change that philosophy at this point in my life. I gain strength from others who feel the same way. There is a great deal of goodness in the world, and there are dedicated, compassionate people who are trying to help others, and they are my companions on this journey.

I suspect they understand quite well what I mean when I say….

I have a reality hangover!

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)....dedicated to my good friend Leslie

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nancy, I love your attitude. It will serve you well your entire life. Thank you!

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      Nancy Yager 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      You know how I choose to treat my hangover. I actively choose to see the good in everything and every situation. Even watching the evening news, you can find the good in every story if you try.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I'm over it now and re-energized. I'll go through down times just like everyone else. I'm not immune to being human...thank God!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, you are the Pied Piper of today's social environment. Take two hugs, several deep breaths, relax for a bit and tackle it again in the morning. You are making a tremendous effort and creating a tidal wave that began as a ripple. You can't do it all in one day, but, believe you me my friend, you are making a huge difference!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Graham, I hope you are right my friend! This society needs to start down a new path and I hope this movement will show them the way. Thank you my friend!

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      Graham Lee 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Another brilliant hub to make us all think again Bill. Your new campaign is growing, more people are becoming aware of the wrongs and inequalities of our civilised society. Keep high your Banner Bill for many are watching.

      Graham.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS....no, we can't fix everything. I have to be patient, and resilient, and grab hold of the thought that we are changing things, even if every so slowly. :) I appreciate your words,as always, and cherish your friendship.

      The angels are doing their job; hugs coming right back atcha!

      bill

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      But, Bill, the good news is there are many of us who DO care and caring will give us an inroad. We cannot 'fix' everyone, change everyone's world view but we can make a difference one person at a time, at the grassroots level, every day.

      Whether that changes the big picture remains to be seen but just on the offside chance that it might, we can keep on plugging away, through H.O.W. showing empathy where there was none...

      I believe...

      Sending you some Angels all the way to Washington to remind you what an important part of this puzzle you are...

      :) ps

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, you are oh so right; the only thing I can control is me. Thanks for the reminder my friend!

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Yes, Billybuc, I think many of us have a reality hangover. Honestly, when it gets to me too badly, I just remind myself to be the change I want to see, for I know the only thing I can control is me.

      Loved reading your hub.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      dwachira, you can rest assured I will not give up; there isn't an ounce of quit in me. :) Thank you my friend!

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Hi Bill,

      The Hangover can be stopped, in fact you are already doing it. I see you with all the strength to do it, squeezing that writing between a paper and a pen and hammering that on a keyboard is all the fight you need Bill. Don't give up because i see you being crowned. Voted up, awesome and more.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, I am feeling better, thank you! I get like this from time to time. I feel too much! When it happens I just need to vent and then move on. My HP friends help a great deal, as does Bev. She has a way of bringing me back to reality.

      Thank you for your friendship and wise words.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I get this way too on occasion. The levels of homelessness, drug abusive, crime etc. can be so overwhelming you feel paralyzed. It's times like these that I have to remind myself that one person cannot save the world. Especially a world that seems determined to self-destruct. All I can do is try and save my little corner of the world. Then, perhaps, others will be inspired to do the same. Naive? Perhaps. But sometimes naivete is the only thing that keeps me going.

      Hope you're feeling better, Bill.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Healthylife, I hope I continue to inspire....that is, in fact, my goal. I just need to find balance so my emotions don't fall overboard during the journey. :) Thank you!

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      Healthy Life 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      I get reality hangovers often. I think sometimes you just have to give your mind breaks and give yourself permission to do so. I know that is easier said then done and I'm often not successful. Making the world a better place also helps and I know you will never stop doing that and will continue to inspire all of us.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wise words, Mary, and I thank you for them! No, we can't fix it all, and it is rather foolish of me to think that I can do more. I'll just keep plugging along and see if I can't make some small difference in the years remaining.

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      Mary Merriment 4 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

      We certainly can't solve all of the problems in this world. I've fallen down that deep dark spiral staircase trying to do so myself. Small efforts do go a long way and one person can make a difference. But one person can't do it all and it will make you insane and depressed thinking of all the problems that one person can't fix. Even larger organizations can't fix it all, so... one thing at a time Billy. You're probably doing much more than you realize.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sarah, I do believe you are correct. I'm going to relax this weekend and get away from it for awhile. Thank you and enjoy your weekend.

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      Sarah 4 years ago from USA

      The reality is that there will always be suffering sadly. The trick is to do what we can to be compassionate and help out in anyway we can. I have also learned that sometimes people need to do things on their own and I just need to step away. It sounds like you just need to step away from it for a little bit, whether it is just taking a walk, reading something spiritual or even watching a funny movie.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Onegreen, I'll take a hug from a friend of Bill any old time, and you are absolutely correct. I think I'll go read that passage right now. :)

      Thank you!

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      Carol 4 years ago from Greenwood, B.C., Canada

      Sometimes when I feel beaten down and tired I go back to the basics. Chapter 5, pg 58. I often find myself in that chapter that begins: Being convinced....

      I know, I know. Don't you just hate it?

      We only have to worry about taking the next right step. Everything else will fall into place.

      Big Hugs from a Friend of Bill.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rajan! The weekend will be mine to rest and re-charge my personal batteries. Much appreciated and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Honey! I took a look at it and I can see why it is helpful. Thank you for sharing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, I think a vast majority of the nation is definitely a puppet to the media, and I agree completely about writing to politicians. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      girishpuri yes, we are all the same.....an important fact to remember as we go about our lives. Thank you!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, I can relate to the pain and anguish you are feeling right now. In fact, anyone who is human will be overwhelmed by such a reality. But we must not let such feelings overwhelm us if we need to keep striving to eliminate such negation from our surroundings and the world at large. Realities are harsh, my friend.

      Take a break, so that you can come back recharged to continue the crusade along with your brigade of followers. We need to be strong to put an end to such activities.

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      Honey Halley 4 years ago from Illinois

      Billy, I do understand what it feels like to have a reality hangover. I found this Paying it Forward page (to which I just shared with you on your facebook page) a couple of months ago and I realized that when the woes of the world get me down, reading a few of those tend to pick me back up. Give it shot next time your world starts to spin. I hope it works for you as well as it works for me.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this.You brought out some good points. Here is a reality hangover: It is one thing to write a hub and another to write a political leader. Here is another: are we puppets of the media?

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      Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      I thought, I was one of a kind,

      Till i looked around,

      at my friends,

      and realized,

      they are just as,

      distorted i am,

      Bill, this is my understanding of society, and i realize, beginning has to be initiated from us only, A very much thought provoking hub, Congratulations.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bill, and I do; this was just one of those days when the ugliness overwhelmed me. This too shall pass, as it always does.

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      Bill De Giulio 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Bill, I have to admit that sometimes all of the depressing news gets to me also. I am amazed at how much misery, greed and meanness there is in this world. But I am also heartened by the good that I see daily in the small things that good people do. There will always be evil and greed in this world. We just need to continue doing the right thing and fighting the good fight as you say. You have many people behind you who are doing little things everyday to make this a better world. Rejoice that you are making a difference.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, you speak the truth...it will all be here tomorrow, and the next day, and the next....maybe that's what has me so upset. :)

      I'm taking your advice; thanks Sis!

      bill

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      "Sensory overload." Sure to cause pain, in some form. No doubt. Sometimes, in order to keep going forward (as in this case) we humans need to rest. In sheer self-preservation, maintaining mental health, we have to take a break. Renew our strengths and refresh our intentions.

      As they say, bill....."Don't worry, it will all still be here, when you get back." And quite tragically, if THAT isn't the truth!

      Kick back with a cup of herbal tea...no noise, no computer, no radio, no newspaper......just for a while. Peace......Bill....UP+++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michelle, you speak true words. This country is as divided as I have ever seen it in my lifetime, and that includes the Sixties and Vietnam. Scary! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, I read a ton too....maybe not quite as much as you, but i'll go through a book in three nights....I don't allow myself to read during the daytime or I wouldn't get any work done. LOL By the way, I love your idea for an experiment....like that would ever happen! :) Thank you Nell!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      When people and politicians just serve themselves, therein lies the path to divisiveness in society and hence, destruction. Much to think about here.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi billy, I totally understand where you are coming from on this, earlier today I was watching the news, same old evil, same old downright anger and depression, and I actually said to my friend, why can't they just get rid of the violent programs, keep the hard news until late at night so kids don't see it, and make everything nicer on there, tv is reprogramming our kids into violence, if it works that way, then why not try the nice approach for a few years and see if the kids today grow up better? now that would be a great experiment, by the way, I have an addiction,reading! seriously, I could read anywhere and everywhere, it stops me doing stuff i need to do, I actually do believe its an addiction, whatever I read i have to read every word, every line etc even on the side of packets! lol!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Message received, Deb! Shutting it off now....for awhile. :) Thanks for caring, Deb!

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Billy, you MUST shut it off, or it will consume you. You have followers and everyone is doing what they can. Just one action each day is more than what there would have been. Multiply that by 1,000 people and it will reach the multitudes. We don't need government to create a loving hand in the orb of life.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Carol; once we give up our honesty and honor we have pretty much forfeited our good name. :) I appreciate you taking the time to stop by; have a great evening.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      One does not get through this life without pain..one way or another. it usually stems from personal issues and spreads out. The world is one giant pain..and no one is williing to give aspirin to ease the pain. The government with all these plans and taxes and giving and what have does not work..Like you pointed out. We live in a divided country...The solution ..don't know except we just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Well written with your sense of honesty and honor.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jillian, I like your style. I suspect you are right. I have never understood that kind of meanness and hatred. It seems so illogical to me, which I suppose it is. It comes from the very core of a person, and it is branded on their soul.

      Thank you for the visit and great comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosika, thank you for visiting and leaving such a meaningful comment. I agree completely; the good fight awaits and I'll be back stronger than ever.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, you can visit any old time you want and as often as you want. You are firmly entrenched on my "favorites list."

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, I agree with you; Leslie is the best.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Doc, it's funny, but when people attack me it makes no difference and hardly registers on my "caring" meter. But attack a friend and I'm rolling up my sleeves and heading into battle. Always been like that; don't mess with the people I care about. :)

      Thank you for caring; your compassion towards me is noted and greatly appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rosemay, you make an excellent point and I thank you for it. I never give up; unfortunately, sometimes I take on battles that have no end in sight, and I get frustrated. I'll settle down soon and be back stronger than ever.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Damn, Jo, nobody told me not to grab the whole moon before. LOL To think of all the time spent trying to do that. :) I know you are right my friend, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I just needed to vent and get it out of my system.

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      Jillian Barclay 4 years ago from California, USA

      Dear Billy,

      Mean is mean. They are louder then everyone else and they are bullies. Their mission in life is to get those who disagree with them to be silent, in whatever way they can. The one thing that you can be sure of is that there are more good people than mean people. Their shrill, incessant blabber just makes it seem as if they outnumber thinking, rational people when they don't.

      The back and forth that took place was one or two people who would just not stop. They are not reality; they just want everyone to think that they are. Reality is good people coming together to make a change, in spite of the loud-mouthed, buffoonish crazies.

      The key to defeating the bat-sh**t, crazy nuts is to stay strong and never allow them to intimidate you.

      I suggest that you don't have a reality hangover. What you had was a hangover caused by an overexposure to blind hatred.

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      rosika 4 years ago

      You have written about the real issue here again Bill....Sometimes this kind of thoughts surround me and I do have a feeling of giving up seeing the reality hangover but then I cope everyday thinking I am not in control of everything. I can only do what I can do and if I try to stress over things that I cannot help with, I will again not be of any help. As you have written I follow the same principle of continuing the good fight!

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      I wouldn't call neither one of them bullies, just a couple of troublemakers who have nothing better to do with their time. Sorry for leaving so many comments.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      ImKarn's hubs are awesome. In my opinion, her facts are accurate and she provides enough evidence to support her claims. doc.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Billy, I'm sorry that you're feeling down. In my opinion, I think you should take a break from writing maybe a few hours away from the computer. Practice yoga, go for a walk, listen to jazz, which is very soothing and then come back to writing. There's no way a human being can shut off empathy unless he or she has a very cold heart. I agree with tobusiness too. I don't understand why so many people get upset and react so defensively when others don't agree with their views. Billy, I have also been attacked as a writer on this site too, but I chose not to approve the comments and just deleted. One of my bullies, I killed him with kindness and the other one didn't stoop down to her level, just ignored her.

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Bill it will take a good strong dose of love and a look around at all the good that is being done in the world to ease you through these hangovers. If we just focused on the bad things that happen then we would all go insane. The only way forward is to be positive. Look at what you started and what others have done because the of HOW movement. They may only be small acts of kindness but remember 'baby steps' The world won't change overnight, it may take generations but it starts somewhere and you have been one of those starting points.

      Yes many of us suffer from those reality hangovers, but you don't give up, there is a new day to begin, a new day of trying, of giving hope.

      The person that attacked Eddy probably did it out of pure jealousy. He deserves to be ignored, it is only a big deal if we make it a big deal. Like a truculent child attention seeking the more attention they get the more they are going to play up. Once they realise that this behaviour gets them nowhere they begin to curb and improve their behaviour. They cannot argue if there is nobody to argue with them.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      The winter months seems to bring out the very worst in us. Don't let the b......ds get you down.

      Billy, there will always be evil in the world, but I know there are more good. Life is never just black and white, we all have the potential for good and bad and every shade between. With voices like yours and imkarn's the bad guys don't stand a chance. Some people are so entrenched in what they believe to be the truth, they become irrational, and nothing will change their thinking. Let's concentrate on the people that matters, the young, the future. Billybuc, keep doing what you do best, shine the light, illuminate, teach my friend. Don't try to grasp the whole moon, take a little at a time.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, on that same day Eddy was attacked by some guy who had nothing better to do than spread hate about one of her poems. I'm tired of it; I need a short break but I'll keep talking about the issues that I believe are so important. Thank you Ruby and have a great weekend.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I read the remarks made on Leslie's hub this morning. It made me sick and mad at the same time. People DO NOT care about saving our country, all they want is their guns and spew hate toward anyone who disagrees with their twisted logic. Thank God there are still people who see the suffering and shed tears. Write on Bill, the country needs people like you and Leslie...

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      That's what I plan on doing, Mark; don't know how to quit so I keep moving forward. Thanks buddy; keep up the good fight and I've got your back.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your opinion, Relationship! It will always be appreciated and valued on my site.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Bill, you are not alone, I live with that every day. I care so much about people and society, about the children, about morality. I live everyday wondering if I will have a roof next month, and I feel bad having to accept the charity of a brother and a friend to survive, and yes I too sometimes cannot see an end to it all.

      I guess all we can do is keep punching!

      Mark

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      Kari 4 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Reality is always there; however, there is a lot of good reality too. I find that focusing on what it beings done, the good people, the good events, and the unity that is out there is much better than focusing on the negative side of things.

      Personally, I think focusing on the negative adds to the negative. Yes, we can see the negative and take note of it so that we can come up with solutions to make it positive, but we shouldn't focus our attention on 'what isn't' but rather 'what could be'.

      Not sure how many will agree with me, but this is my opinion on the issue. I'm not turning a blind eye but rather allowing optimism to lead my through life.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      OMG, Leslie, I have family members who quit talking to each other over politics....Bev's dad disowned her last year because of the election. When the hell is the craziness going to end? How can politics be more important than family? Of course, we have a rich history of this...in the Civil War brothers shot brothers, so why would this surprise me.

      You've got my back...I've got yours....it's time to rock n roll.

      Thanks Sis!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Yes, my friend - we share this Reality Hangover - and - unfortunately - unless the world opens it's eyes and starts (as Beckie says SOO well) to work together to heal itself - we're gonna have much more than a headache!

      I got a note this morning from a fb friend - a political activist not on the hub. He was telling me how he's lost family members over politics and gun control issues..

      Listen - if we can't keep our families together - how in HELL are we going to keep the country together.

      People need to stop - and LISTEN. Maybe - just maybe - they'll hear the children - yesterdays, todays, and tomorrows - sobbing in despair!

      Thanks for the shout out my friend - great message, as usual!

      Unfortunately - i got no cure for ya yet!

      people like us - we have reality hangovers every single day: WE CARE - and it hurts! Keep fighting the good fight, Bill - I got your back, bro!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Debbie, that was just what I needed. Thank you! I'm not going to write more because I can't add to what you wrote...a simple thank you will have to suffice.

      blessings and hugs coming your way,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, I hear the message, and you are absolutely correct. I'm back on the horse, and this weekend I will act on your suggestions. Thank you Sir; let the good fight continue!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      David, that is a very kind thing for you to say. I'll keep writing my friend; there are just some days when the meanness of this world seems too much. We are, indeed, who we are.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Christy; I think I just needed to re-charge my personal battery. I'll keep at it and hopefully it will do some good.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, LOL...thank you! I'll take all the angels you can send my way. Just tired right now; there are days when it seems like an impossible battle, one that can't possibly be one. Then I wake up re-energized and decide maybe it's not impossible after all. I'll get back on the horse soon my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mike, surrender isn't in my vocabulary, but tired is. :) I just need to take a break from the serious and morose and the pick up the sword again. Thank you for your friendship and support.

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      Debbie Pinkston 4 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Bill, I completely understand your reality hangover...I have been there and felt exactly what you expressed. I think my way of coping is to live in a bubble of denial, for short stretches of time. I know that while in happy denial I'm not helping anyone, but maybe I am, because I'm giving myself a tiny escape in order to charge my batteries again. We all need rest from all the stress, in order to get back up and get in the battle again.

      People like you and I feel things deeply, which is a sweet & sour kinda thing. We care so much that it hurts. We want to solve world problems, we want to ease the pain of so many and we feel rotten when we can't. I think God wants us to focus on our little corner of the world, and sometimes that corner can grow and have a very broad impact.

      I'm sure that even if you WERE President, you would feel the same feelings-wanting to help more, wanting to reach more people, wanting peace in the world, and you would feel frustrated that even with all the power and authority that is inherent in such a position, it is not possible to change every person's heart.

      Ultimately each person on the face of the earth has to have a transformation, the kind that you and I and so many others have had. We can pray for that to happen to more and more people, and spread the love and joy.

      Well done Bill!

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Take this in the loving manner it is meant: Watch out for the pity pot!

      You clearly need some human interaction with someone who needs your help. Even just a dollar to the poor guy on the corner, where you look him is the eye. Writers must be careful to engage on a personal level often. Alcoholics must engage newcomers and give help on a personal level, it is part of recovery. Isolation is not for you.

      Thanks for this great hub. It made me take a look at myself and to remember even the greatest of guys, you, have issues.

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      David Warren 4 years ago from Nevada

      Your writing has truly given me inspiration. You are a beacon of light here on HP. I look forward to opening my email now as I can always depend on seeing "billybuc published....". So hang in there, please keep writing, and I sincerely hope your day improves! I've spent many hours thinking how nice it would be to bounce around without a care in the world oblivious to everything, unfortunately just not possible. We are who we are.

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Your words about continuing to fight the good fight and be compassionate to others are wonderful. Day by day... well written Bill.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, I think maybe the Aliens have something to do with this! The last 2 days I have just felt so fed up with everything that is going on in the world. The menacing, mean-spirited people are out in force it seems and ready, willing and able to take us all down if we don't agree with their particular agenda. If I had a cave, I probably would have crawled into it. Then I read Irish's latest hub and I began to feel better!

      Just like you I am empathetic to the nth degree. It is so hard sometimes to get out from under all the hatred and pain and hurt. I just wish those old Aliens would leave us alone!!

      My best ally is Prayer and plenty of it. And when pstraubie sends me Angels I gladly accept their help as well.

      And so I send you Prayers and Angels, my friend, to banish all those Aliens! Voted Up and Awesome.

      Pearl

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, I like your approach.....and I have no doubt it will work out for you. Talk about good people...you are the best lil' Sis!

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 4 years ago from Western NC

      I admire what you're doing - you're a good, good person. Yes, I have had to limit my exposure to things like Facebook and TV and concentrate on those things that make me happier, and surround myself with positive. Only then can I blossom and hope to make my own difference in this world. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rich, it is an interesting situation; I hate to say it, but it's nice that some other people feel the same way. LOL Sorry, but I think you know what I mean. There are times I think I'm surrounded by idiots....how can they not see what I see? I should write more humor but it's like the life has been sucked out of me by this Black Hole of reality.

      Maybe I need a break.

      Thanks buddy; I hope things work out for you soon...hell, for both of us.

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Bill - You write of what I've been enduring. Since writing my last hub (almost a month ago) the comments have been fantastic. Yet, the more I answer, the more I'm sinking into the realm of "if the answer's so damn simple, why can't everyone see it?" I've reached that crossroads where I don't want to continue along this line of writing, as I've said what needs to be said. Yet, my humorous side has been tainted as life's realities and the stupidity of mankind continue in droves. I gave myself a two week break from HP's to see if I could shake it, as I also needed to get my own life in order. Yet, I return today, answer a few comments, and find myself at the same point I was two weeks ago. I, too, have the hangover. Great job, my friend.

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      Mr Archer 4 years ago from Missouri

      Bill, do not surrender! Do not give up the good fight! Our cause is just, and we will overcome those who defy us! When I am down, or depressed, I turn to music quite a bit. One of my favorites is Carman, and his song "Fear Not My Child". Here is the address for it on youtube. Listen to it, and fill that need inside. It will help with the headaches, and the heartaches. Look forward to that which we will make better, not back at the failures of humans. Be strong, my dear friend; you are most assuredly not alone!!!

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3M8Jq9NIKc

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, I think we both reached the same point at the same time. That was a tough day....between Leslie being attacked and Eddy being attacked.....it was just too much. I've spent time thinking about that day, and I realize there is very little I can do to make mean-spirited people change. There are bullies in every walk of life; I face them down when I can, and live my life as best as I can, and just hope for the best.

      Thank you my dear; you are a blessing in my life.

      love,

      billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine! You are such a kind person....I really do appreciate you greatly! We'll just keep doing what we do and try to make things better one person at a time....it's all we can do I guess.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jeff; the same to you buddy!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Keeley! I appreciate your praise.....I hope you are right. I"d hate to think I was doing this and nobody was listening. :)

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Billy - I reached a moment of utter hopelessness while reading the attacks on some hubs. I was so disheartened at the name calling, personal insults and attacks by those who did not agree with the hub subject or the writers point of view. It is a blatant bullying tactic that our schools are attempting to teach youngster to stand up to. My heart goes out to these youngsters and I truly hope they learn how to practice (as you so eloquently wrote in your other hub) critical thinking at a tender age. They will need it the rest of their lives. I have never been more disappointed as an adult as I have been when reading some of the downright nasty and infantile personal attacks. I not only refuse to take it lying down, I refuse to interact with an individual whose low mentality dictates to yell, scream, bully and sling names rather than participate in a "constructive" debate.

      I am so thankful for this hub. I am also blatantly aware of those who should be reading this and choose not to. Sometimes the reflection in the mirror is truly a nasty one and it must be quite difficult to see that bullied reflection staring back. I have sympathy for the life occurrences that created such a mean-spirited and narrow-minded attitude.

      Many blessings and I hold great gratitude for your continuing to speak out.

      Leslie is a strong, confident, articulate and intelligent lady. She tries her darnedest to approach subjects with "critical thinking" and I commend her for continuing to stand strong through the constant attacks. Her diligence allows a huge mirror in the face of those who choose "bullying and intimidation" as an alternative to a fair minded discussion.

      Billy - great job. Thank you for instilling my faith in my fellow hubbers. I have to go and take two aspirin to fight my "hangover".

      Love xoxo

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      Keeley Shea 4 years ago from Norwich, CT

      I agree with JThomp42. You are truly a leader of "the good fight!" You raise important points that make one think and that is the most important step...Recognizing that there are problems with our society...big ones. It can be overwhelming to think about how to solve or fix them one person at a time. GREAT HUB!!!

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      You are not alone and many of us feel the same way, as you, including myself. I will tell you this once again it is sad how our society is at this point and feel this way many days, too. But then I remember it starts with one and it may not seem like we are making any headway, but I have to believe that I am making a difference somewhere and making headway just by being me and trying to make my own world around me a bit better. Thanks for sharing and please know you have made a difference even if it may seem so at times. Have as always voted up and shared all over!!

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      JThomp42 4 years ago

      You are very welcome my friend. I know TOO MUCH about these feelings. Praying for you Bill.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jeff, I hope so my friend! It is tiring and depressing. Thank God I am not prone to length fits of depression. :) Thank you, Jeff; your compassion is appreciated.

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      JThomp42 4 years ago

      My friend Bill. I totally understand what you are saying. As I suffer from these quite often. This is the world we live in, and it is a cruel one. It is what we do to try and make a difference, in which you do more than you will ever know my friend. You are truly a leader of "The good fight!"