ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Politics and Social Issues»
  • North America Political & Social Issues

Social Issues: The Children Are Our Future

Updated on October 13, 2014

Shattered Hearts

Another school shooting has occurred and our hearts are shattered. Finding words to express our grief seems impossible and yet many of us are compelled to write; to offer something, however small, that makes sense of something senseless. We stare frozen at the images on our televisions that no human should have to see and we ask ourselves, what is the answer for our children? How do we make them feel safe again? How do we stop this madness?

It is our nature to want to blame something or someone. It is our nature to scream for change in our laws or to limit the power of special interest groups that lobby to keep our constitutional rights intact. It’s a natural response to an event so horrid that we can’t wrap our brains around it’s magnitude.

Like so many others, I am compelled to write today. I don’t know what else to do. I can’t change what happened in Sandy Hook Elementary School on December 14, 2012. I can’t bring those beautiful children back. I can’t make the hearts of those families whole again. I am helpless to bring healing to a community that has been changed forever. But, I can write. I can ask questions and offer thoughts that may make a difference in the way another family is dealing with one of the problems that seem to be consuming the youth of our society.

Our children are our future. It’s not just a popular phrase. It is a fact. They will one day be our leaders and our caregivers. As adults living in a civil society, it is our responsibility to teach them and give them a safe environment to grow up in. We are failing miserably and there is no single answer. We are failing them in too many ways.

Parenting

We need to ask ourselves if we are really parenting our children or, are we letting society do the job? Our kids don’t need us to be their friend. They need us to be parents. They need us to discipline them, to teach them right from wrong, and, to let them experience the consequences of making the wrong decision. But many of us are letting childcare workers and schools do our job while we concentrate on being our children’s friend. Our children need to learn to respect authority and fear consequences. Those lessons need to begin at home.

How many of us have the guts to take away cell phones or cars when our children make bad decisions? Do we suspend social activities when grades fall below our expectations? Are we forcing our kids to participate in extracurricular activities (sports, dance, clubs, etc.) to satisfy our own social needs? Are we making them so competitive that the occasional failure destroys their self-esteem? Do we buy their way out of trouble with the money we’ve made working overtime instead of spending time with them and keeping them out of trouble in the first place? Are we afraid to spank them for fear that the courts will take them away?

Obviously, I have more questions than answers but I think we need to ask ourselves these questions. I know times have changed but it seems to me that some of the old principles of parenting worked a lot better than those being used today. As a rebellious teenager, I got my share of punishment for making bad decisions. My harshest punishment came when I didn’t respect the authority of my parents. I wasn’t allowed to participate in anything that interfered with having time to do my homework. Education came first.

Another priority in our family was religion. Until I became of age and could be responsible for making my own decisions, my parents felt it was their responsibility to build a religious foundation underneath their children. Sunday morning was reserved for a hot breakfast and church. There was no room for argument. Like it or not, we would get our Bible lesson on Sunday. Like it or not, we would sit quietly in church. Bad behavior in the church was not tolerated. Even if we didn’t pay attention, we absorbed my parent’s religion by osmosis. Prayer before a meal was mandatory. Meals were eaten together. In our family we ate and prayed as a family unit. This taught me from an early age to distinguish between right and wrong. I made some mistakes along the way but I knew the difference because religion played a big part in my childhood years.

Environment

Although there are many questions of how parenting may be failing our children, there are an equal number of questions about how our environment is failing them. We would be foolish not to consider how the quality of our environment may be changing the chemistry in the bodies of our children. With more and more children being diagnosed with personality disorders such as ADD, ADHD, autism, anti-social personalities, manic depression, and schizophrenia, how can we not look to our food sources for answers?

Our society is too busy. Everyone has too much to do and too little time to get it done. We rely on fast food or prepared food to provide sustenance rather than nutrition. The majority of foods that are packaged are also loaded with chemicals that preserve them or add color, texture, or taste. Our meat is loaded with hormones to make it bigger faster and now we are faced with GMO’s (genetically modified organisms) being introduced into our food sources. Unless we are actively seeking whole, organic foods, we are poisoning our children and ourselves. We are creating a toxic environment in our bodies.

If eating poorly wasn’t dangerous enough, let’s add some of the other toxic exposures to the equation. Scented laundry detergents, scented air fresheners, chemical dyes for our hair: they all end up in our bodies. Now, add the pollution that comes in the form of our water and the air we breathe and you cannot deny that we are living in a toxic world. And, if we are honest, we have to admit that we don’t know what impact that is having on he cells in our children’s bodies that are still developing.

Government

No discussion about the failure of our society to take care of our children can be had without also considering the government’s role. This section will not be popular with everyone but the questions have to be addressed.

Our mental health system is failing. It does not have the resources, either in personnel or funding, to take care of everyone that needs it. Case workers are overloaded and there are not enough programs to handle the load. And, we do not have legislation that takes away the stigma of mental illness or to provide protection for the mentally ill. The result is that many are walking our streets with untreated problems that medicine knows how to treat. We have to fill the cracks in the system and keep these kids from falling through.

Gun laws… yes, I have to address it. Our constitution guarantees us the right to own a gun and protect ourselves. Hunting and personal protection do not require assault weapons. Stiffer gun laws will not prevent the illegal trafficking of guns but, putting limitations on the amount of ammunition for assault weapons has to be considered. Would it prevent some of the massacres if only law enforcement or military personnel were allowed to purchase ammunition for assault weapons? I don’t know but I do know that we have to do something. Guns don’t kill, I know that. It takes a person to pull the trigger. But, there is a lot of money behind the gun lobbyists who influence our politicians and somehow we have to leverage that money and power with logic.

Personal Responsibility

Finally, we have to examine our own responsibility in the decline of our society. We can’t keep turning a blind eye, thinking it is someone else’s problem. We must be willing to speak out when we see a potential problem and reach out to offer help. It has to start in our own family but must also extend to our neighbors and associates. When we find ourselves concerned about a neighbor and having the discussion in our own living rooms, we have to take a risk. It must be our responsibility to seek the help of authorities who are trained to determine if a real problem exists. We can’t be afraid of the consequences. If one child is saved, it is worth the risk. If an entire classroom of children is saved, then again, it is worth the risk.

We also need to look at our own children’s habits and hobbies. Are they obsessed with the violence on television or in video games? Have we noticed a change in the way they dress or in their moods? These things, although a part of normal teen behavior, can be red flags for a problem. We owe it to our children and neighbors to seek professional guidance from those who are trained to recognize behaviors that exceed normal teen behavior.

Finally, our ultimate responsibility is to be role models for our children. We need to engage them in our discussions, show them that adversity is part of life but how we handle it determines whether the result is positive or negative. Out kids need to see that it is okay to have a difference of opinion and that problems can be solved with open communication.

We have to teach our children to talk about their feelings. We’ve all heard that it takes a village to raise a child. Never think that the child next door isn’t your responsibility. Never think that the moody kid on the baseball team isn’t your responsibility. Never think that the kid who tosses your newspaper just short of the porch isn’t your responsibility. These kids are all our responsibility. They are our future. They may be the kid with the bad attitude today but if we do our part, they may become the doctor that gets you through a surgery or the nurse that holds your hand through chemotherapy. If we do our part, they can become our city managers, or the scientist that develops a new method of capturing solar energy, or the next Rabbi in your synagogue.

Until we find the answers, we have to pray for healing and visualize love emanating from our hearts and enveloping the children of our society. We have to step out of our living rooms and give our time to our community. We have to be a beacon of hope or a friend that really listens. We can’t be afraid to give away a hug or a handshake.

There are new angels today and they will be looking at us to see what we’ve learned from another horrible tragedy. I pray we don’t disappoint them.

© 2012 Linda Crist, All rights reserved.

Read more of my hubs here.

Comments

Submit a Comment

  • Curiad profile image

    Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

    I agree with you Linda, The family has deteriorated, God has been evicted from society and schools, morals and discipline have been tossed and we are living the results.

    I just watched a couple videos on the Billions wasted on the F-22 Raptor Program. On the political scams between Lockheed Martin and the pentagon and congress. I just watched the people that live in this house I rent in, spend all morning playing violent war games on the Xbox (The 40 year old mother included).

    There is no easy answer, other than having faith in God and knowing he loves us all and has plans for us all.

    Mark

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Mark, what a day you have had. I recently watched a documentary on the latest and greatest weaponry being used by our military and sat there wondering why we don't make the same investment in human suffering. So, I know how you feel. There are no easy answers, as you have said, but we have to keep trying, don't we? Thanks for the visit and comment my friend. I am always happy to see you in my comments.

  • mary615 profile image

    Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

    You wrote a very touching, and very wise Hub. I have been upset all day about this event in Conn. I am hope this will become the catalyst to start some serious talk about gun control in this country. I still haven't heard why this mother needed assault weapons???? What ever happened to the Brady law that was passed some years ago to control the sale and use of guns.

    Oh well, don't get me started on that subject!

    I'm glad you wrote this Hub, and I voted it UP, etc. and will share.

  • billybuc profile image

    Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

    Hey Kindred!

    I couldn't agree more! The disintegration of family values in this country....the depletion of Social Services in this country.....the lack of personal responsibility in this country....all have to be addressed seriously or these horrors will increase at an alarming rate.

    Now, how do we do that?

    Well done my friend! We just keep trying...I don't know anything else to do.

    bill

  • marcoujor profile image

    Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Linda,

    This is a passionate plea for common sense, decency, a firm foundation, morals instilled and the time it takes to be present for our youth.

    I was raised so similarly to you. My parents were indeed parents. As I grew into a responsible adult, it was my pleasure to consider them my friends as well...but always with the respect a parent is due.

    This is a meaningful piece of writing that lays out the complexities of this societal ill. Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria

  • whonunuwho profile image

    whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

    Of all times, the need for parent, teacher, and child communication is of vital concern. We must emphasize this in our school systems and get parents involved in their classroom activities with their kids. Thank you for drawing attention to this matter now in a vital time in our history of education. whonu

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Mary, thank you so much for reading this and expressing your thoughts. Anyone who isn't upset over these events isn't human.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Kindred indeed! We are doing it, one hub at a time. Reaching...reaching...reaching...preaching...preaching...preaching...teaching...teaching...teaching. It's why we still breathe. :-)

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Maria, my friend, we were the lucky ones, weren't we? Thank you for standing tall with me on this. It will take all of us to make a difference and I am in good company with you by my side.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Whonu...I agree wholeheartedly. We have to start and keep the dialogue going. Thanks so much for weighing in.

  • tillsontitan profile image

    Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

    How lucky we were to be raised the way we were! When I started having children my mother said, "Remember Mary, you're their mother not their friend." I thought it harsh at first but as the kids got older realized she was right.

    Society has turned its back on respect and responsibility...both ours and theirs. I read this wonderful 'rant' and did pretty well till I got to the last two sentences, then I bawled....

    Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting. Shared too.

  • HoneyBB profile image

    Honey Halley 4 years ago from Illinois

    Very well written and I agree that we all need to take a stronger role in shaping the character of our children ... every last one of them. Thanks for sharing.

  • Jackie Lynnley profile image

    Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

    I agree so much with you. Surely this mother had a clue her son was dangerous or someone in his family, I just can't help but believe. Raising kids too I agree with you, children grow up so cold and unfeeling sometimes and why not? They keep their nose in a computer or on a phone and do so little communicating with anyone. Our government forces (or allows, whichever) doctors to offer them birth control when they are pre-teen. They know if parents lay a hand on them they can call the law. Most parents are too busy to even care. With a start like that it is no wonder we have some nuts. Many kids today remind me of robots, they seem so emotionless. So unconcerned.

    As for guns though the crooks will always get them and when they find out we can't, what then? Our own government put all kinds in the hands of criminals, enough to finish us all off probably. Another unsolved mystery.

  • profile image

    lovedoctor926 4 years ago

    I agree with your ideas on parenting and religion. The disintegration of moral values has gone down the tube, which explains why there is so much evil in today's society these days. I think you and me have the same upbringing. There were rules that I had to follow and that was it. I really didn't have much choice. As long as you're living under my roof type of mentality you do as I say regardless of age.

  • Mhatter99 profile image

    Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

    Good write! I can tell you are really touched by recent events. But let's put get another perspective. In 2010 something changed in my brain. No one is sure what happened. I am not the same. I could be a killer. My children... When they have met their needs, they will turn their attention to others. Keep the faith and bless you.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Mary, yes we were the lucky ones. The world wasn't so fast back then and our parents lived more simply and had more time to watch over us. The values were different then too. Thank you Mary, for reading this one and sharing it. I hope it touches people and moves them to action.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello HoneyBB. Thank you for reading this and agreeing that we all have a role to play in the future of the children.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Jackie. Gosh, you know, I don't pretend I have the answer to the gun issue. And I think there are sme amazing kids in the world. But, there are also many kids with troubled minds that are being overlooked, under valued, and under treated and many parents are too worried about what their friends might think to deal with it. Or, they are too busy to notice. It's sad and frightenng. I guess that's why it's true that it takes a village.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi lovedoctor. Thanks for reading this one. Oh, if I had a dollar for every time my parents said to me "as long as you are living under my roof, you will do as we say". It worked though. They taught me the difference between right or wrong and weren't afraid to let me pay the price for bad choices. Maybe I am naïve or have just forgotten but I do not think there was this much violence in the world when I was growing up. I think it is a complex issue but we have to start dealing with it. Thanks so much for adding to the discussion.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    MH, I don't even know how to respond to your comment. I appreciate your reading and that you are encouraging me but should I be concerned? Do you have support for the problem that occurred in 2010?

  • profile image

    JThomp42 4 years ago

    I TOTALLY agree with your observations Linda! Great Hub!!

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Thank you Jeff. I needed to write but found that my emotions were so off the chart that I couldn't capture them so I went rational instead. I just hope it helps somehow.

  • btrbell profile image

    Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

    Linda, I don't think I have seen this said better! You have stated what you would think should be the norm and cited worthy examples! Thank you so much for this all-important hub! up+ and sharing!

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Randi! Girl, I don't have the answer but some things just seem to scream at me saying "look at what we're doing". I saw an article last night about fluoride in the water that shook me to the core. Another toxin that we drink and brush our teeth with. I am really concerned about what the chemicals are doing to these beautiful young brains but I don't know what to do about it. So, I just keep talking and ranting and crying. Thank you Randi, for being here, sharing my fears, and for sharing the hub too. Maybe somebody smarter than me will see it and have the answer. Hugs!

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 4 years ago from California, USA

    This is a well-thought out article- full of common sense and simple logic.

    We HAVE to come up with an answer to the gun issue, and at the same time address the inadequacy of mental health services. I don't know how many more times that we can endure this heartache- I am having an extremely difficult time with this one as my almost 5 year old grandson sits next to me counting how many Starburst candies he has and at the same time, helping to type this. He is telling me the letters as we go. As I look at him, I think of the babies just one year older than he- GONE!

    Feelings go from anger to tears of sadness!

    Your suggestions are right on-anyone who thinks that we cannot solve these problems is wrong- we can! And even if we don't make all the right decisions, we can at least try...

    First thing is we must somehow rid ourselves of the NRA's absolute control of our politicians---prohibiting assault weapons is NOT a violation of the 2nd amendment! The NRA says such a prohibition would be a violation of those rights; they want to "maintain the integrity of our founding fathers". Our founding fathers were not talking about assault weapons--If the NRA wants integrity, then we should let them know that the founding fathers were talking about muskets.

    I am perfectly willing to allow citizens keep a musket or two in their homes...

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Oh Jillian, hug your grandson tight for both of us. How lucky he is to have a grandmother so loving. You are giving him such a gift. I wrote a hub once about my memories of my grandmother and what a precious gift her love and time was. I had one grandmother who I adored and one who wanted nothing to do with her grandchildren. I can't tell you how sad that was for me.

    Gun laws, NRA, it all has to change. I agree with you and think a musket would be just fine with me too.

    Thanks so much for sharing that your grandson was with you today. It gave me the warm fuzzies.

  • profile image

    SilverGenes 4 years ago

    Reading your thoughts here and the comments tells me one thing loud and clear. We have the message. We know what's wrong. Maybe we are making our mistake by looking at government and lawmakers for change. I think we have to do it just the way you said - at home, at our dinner tables, and in our communities. Maybe it has to grow and change from the bottom up - from the roots. You have inspired many just by writing this.

  • ARUN KANTI profile image

    ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 4 years ago from KOLKATA

    Mass shooting in a school campus in the US reminds us of the Virginia Tech massacre in 2007 leaving around 35 people dead.The disintegrated society and flagging relationship among the family members are the root causes.Soul searching should be done by every body to put an end to the growing menace in a civilised society.Thanks for the timely and touching hub.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    SilverGenes, thank you. I so hope that others are inspired to look at their own actions. I do think it has to start at the bottom and I think we need desperately to return to some of the old values. That concept is not popular with many but all this instant gratification and materialism and fast-paced living isn't working. Thank you for a great comment and adding more depth to this discussion.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello Arun. Thank you for reading my hub. I live in Virginia and was horrified by what occurred at Virginia Tech. I am equally horrified by the recent events. We are indeed witnessing the disintegration of a civilized society and the answer has to lie within each of us as individuals. Thank you for your wonderful comment.

  • profile image

    lovedoctor926 4 years ago

    Hi Irc7815,

    Society has changed for the worse. I agree that there is a lot more violence today and a lot of it has to do with people not being able to control their emotions and so they go out to the street and display their aggression on other strangers. Several years ago, I worked as a flyer for a retail store only for the Christmas holidays and I used to see this a lot. Customers would come into the store with all sorts of drama and issue. Being a good listener & empathetic as I am, I guess people can just tell and so customers would dump their frustrations on me, but it's amazing how they calm down immediately after they vent their feelings. You got to serve as a sounding board sometimes. Okay, I'm going off topic a bit here, but I am also thinking of the Connecticut incident. They're saying that this guy was a loner and that he suffered from some type of personality disorder. I just don't understand how parents can miss these red flags. Parents just need to be more involved in their children's lives and be there for them emotionally. One last thing is that the dating scene has also changed big time.. A lot of men these days don't want to be tied down to anyone. It's almost like a chore. All the benefits without any strings attached, which explains why I'm still single. lol

  • Jamie Brock profile image

    Jamie Brock 4 years ago from Texas

    Irc815- I was horrified when I heard about what happened at that school the other day. I do often worry about what the world is going to be like in the next 10, 30, 50 years. I am really afraid and afraid for my son who is now 4, almost 5. I try my best with him as I know any of these changes have to start at home. I think maybe there is a wide spread denial about just how bad things can get if we keep on this way. I don't know what it's going to take to bring the change we need but I agree with everything you have written here. Great hub! Thank you for sharing.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 4 years ago from California, USA

    Think the bottom up comment by SilverGenes may be the answer. If our lawmakers won't do it, we must nudge, push, force them into action! I am going to email all of my reps today and tell them enough is enough- Our gun laws must change now!

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi lovedoctor. It is a complex issue, for sure. I think that even when parents recognize problems in their children, it is difficult to accept or admit. We have a problem in this society with admitting failure or that we are wrong. It is perceived as weakness rather than strength. It is easier to deny and hope the problem goes away. Sadly, that doesn't usually happen. I do believe though that the solution has to begin with parenting and, community. I just hope this latest tragedy wakes us up. Thank you for a great comment and thoughtful discussion.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Jamie, I feel your concern and I would feel the same if I had a child that age. Still, you can't protect them from everything but you can love them and guide them and pray they will be safe. That's the best any parent can do, I think. Hopefully enough people are outraged over this senseless tragedy and things will change.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Jillian, I am with you. I have been writing letters all day. I think our legislators need to hear from all of us.

  • Angela Blair profile image

    Angela Blair 4 years ago from Central Texas

    Man's inhumanity to his fellow man has existed since time began -- and although thinking people would like to believe banning guns or blaming the NRA will help -- it won't. There's always been the mentally deranged and there always will be -- it's just part of living -- and those people like to hurt others whether with a club, gun or bomb. Just suppose U.S. citizens are banned from owning guns and/or using them -- what laws are we going to pass to ban people constructing bombs and using them? We can't legislate morality and that's the bottom line -- we've got some serious gun laws, bomb laws, etc. already in place that aren't enforced by a broken judicial system -- will one more law make a difference? We know we're a country that can't even protect our own borders from thousands of illegals but when we can't protect little kids in their own classrooms on U.S. soil. . . it's time to rethink some things my friends. Excellent Hub! Best/Sis

  • teaches12345 profile image

    Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

    "Never think that the kid who tosses your newspaper just short of the porch isn’t your responsibility. These kids are all our responsibility. They are our future. They may be the kid with the bad attitude today but if we do our part, they may become the doctor that gets you through a surgery or the nurse that holds your hand through chemotherapy." This is my thought when I teach. Look past the mask and into the heart -- you never know how much a difference it will make. Everyone needs to adopt this attitude -- all children need our wisdom and love. Praying for our nation as well. Voted way up!

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Angela, great addition to this discussion. As I said, I don't have the answer but I do know that we have to all start taking responsibility for the children in our communities. I know we have to fix the mental health system. And I know we have to stop turning a blind eye pretending our neighbor's problems don't affect us. These things we can fix. Thanks for your comments.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Teaches! Thank you. I completely agree with you.

  • bravewarrior profile image

    Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

    Linda, in addition to what you say here, I think a major contributing factor is lack of love. Parents today constantly push their children to be adults before they are allowed to be children. Parents are too busy earning status thru 'things' that they don't pay attention to their children or spend time with them. Kids today are pushed off to soccer leagues or dance class or any other area where someone else takes care of our kids. Kids today speak out in negative ways because it's the only way the can get their parents' attention and be noticed.

    I think it needs to begin at home with unconditional love and making our children KNOW they are loved. I believe the fix can be as simple as a hug and an 'I love you' every single day.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Shauna, you are so right on that remark. It does begin at home with love. A simple act with gigantic returns.

  • rcrumple profile image

    Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

    Linda - Sorry I'm just getting here. Still trying to get my eyes back. I'm amazed at the similarities in our thinking. I know you read mine, so there's no need to go further. I'm going to link yours to mine. If you don't want this, let me know. Really a great job and a great hub!

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Rich, I understand an no apology necessary. Honestly, I'm struggling to keep up too. Yes, we do think very much alike and you'll have to forgive me for not thinking about linking these two hubs. Of course I don't mind. I'm very happy you would want to and I will certainly reciprocate. It makes perfect sense.

    How are your eyes?

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    It really is about how we are raising our children and it does start in the home as soon as that child is born. People need to Wake up and see what their actions are doing later on. I am linking your article with mine as we share the same.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Lady Guinevere! Thank you for visiting and reading my hub. Raising children is the responsibility of all adults. I grew up i a neighborhood with about six mothers. None of them hesitated to whip my butt or rat me out to my parents. I respected them and even today, 45+ years later, I still appreciate that they cared enough to watch over me and make me behave. This is missing in our society today where neighbors don't even know each other's names. Thank you for the link. I will visit your hub and reciprocate.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    I was called a mean mom when I tell others that I would turn my own children in if they broke the law. How the heck else are they supposed to learn accountability, I told them that called me that. I wasn't being mean at all. Thanks for visiting and commenting on my hub.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Not mean at all Lady G. Just smart.

  • xstatic profile image

    Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    A thoughtful and comprehensive view in so few words, really, of the problems and some suggestions for solutions to the almost overwhelming problems we face as a "civilized " society. The mental health issues have been ignored too long, guns with no restrictions except against automatic weapons is craziness. I heard tonight that people are buying all the Bushmaster type military rifles and oversized magazines they can get hold of. They are a sickness within this nation.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    X - another insightful comment from you on an incredibly complex issue. I have been mentally consumed with this senseless tragedy and even after writing the hub, I keep coming back to one simple question. What...is the root of so much anger in these young people.

    I do think it's important to revamp gun control laws and our mental health system HAS TO be revised but even then, we still have youth on the extreme edge of anger. I keep thinking it has to be a chemical imbalance and over stimulation of some portion of their brains by this digital/electronic/high stress world we are living in. We don't allow them time to be children anymore and they don't deplete their energy stores as we did as children who ran and played outdoors until we were exhausted. Something is horribly wrong and we have to change it.

    I heard the same news tonight that you heard about the increasing sales of those weapons. It's pure madness.

  • xstatic profile image

    Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    And those super violent video games which, I suppose, are selling like hotcakes for Christmas are part of the problem too. You are doing a good service here.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    I agree X. Should we replace them all with Mary Poppins? :-) Thank you for the compliment sir!

  • xstatic profile image

    Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

    i love Mary Poppins! Julie Andrews as well...

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 4 years ago from California, USA

    Hi, lrc7815!

    Just had to come back! The comments inspire me- We have so many good people, don't we?

    My kids were so involved in sports as they were growing up that they didn't have time for too many video games. I made sure- but I didn't just drop them off and let someone else guide them...

    My son was into hockey, my best friend's son, and all their friends were as well. So, my best friend and I, both single moms, decided to take this rag tag group of boys, that all hung out together from the age of 12 or 13, and formed a traveling roller hockey team with 15 of them. Every weekend we were off to some tournament somewhere, throughout high school and beyond. They pretty much sucked at the beginning, but went on to win a state championship. It was hard, but so rewarding! These guys, now adults with their own families, are still together and still talk about the food fights, different places we went, the fun we had, etc. They formed such a bond and spent so much time together ---they actually policed each other, because if we caught them doing something they shouldn't, all hell would break loose. My friend and I had no problem disciplining them (we were pretty tough) ---there was only one young boy who had serious family problems and he left the group-he ended up in prison for drug charges, but is now out, back with the group, is married and has 3 kids, works hard everyday---Recently he told my son- "Tell your mom that those times we had were the best part of my life-Tell her thank you!"

    I know parents are busy- all working so hard just to survive--I did, too, but the kids are just too important! Left alone with video games and no real social outlet, and even a mentally healthy child can go off the rails.

    My best friend and I also talk about "our" kids and the fun that she and I had. We wouldn't have missed it for the world.

    By the way, these men now give back- they all coach youth roller hockey and are carrying on this tradition with their own kids.

    They always say that they want their kids to grow up the way they did.

    It is ultimately each parent's responsibility to care for not only their own children, but to realize that they are all our children. If a kid has problems, even if that child is not your own---if you know them, you have to help.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Jillian, you are so right. There are amazing people in this community of writers.

    Now, for your children. They were soooooooo lucky to have you and your friend. I grew up with a bunch of "moms" and I wouldn't trade that childhood for all the money in the world. You deserve a lot of credit for giving them so much time and attention as a single mom. I applaud you my friend. From your story, it paid off. You must be so proud of those grown men now.

    I'm so glad you came back and shared your story. Perhaps someone will read itthat thinks it can't be done and will find hope in your words. I sure have.

    Now, on another note, how are you? I've thought of you so often and check your hub for updates. I wish you and your family the very best of the Christmas season Jillian.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    Question: Where the ads on this hub disabled within the last 24 hours? Mine were on my hub. Funny thing that it passed the 24 hour notice if they accepted it and allowed ads on it and then they removed them.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Lady G. No the ads have not been disabled. There is one at the top and two at the bottom of this hub.

    By the way, I did hear on CNN last night that the father of the shooter was interviewed so he was not killed as you stated. Thought you might want to research and revise.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    This is what I got back from the HPteam and it is true censorship if you ask me: Hello Debbie,

    This hub contains content about violence against children, a topic that is too sensitive for advertisers. We want hubs that are well-written and important to remain published, even if they cover topics that are too sensitive to be advertiser-friendly. Therefore, your hub will remain published, your HubScore will not be impacted, and you may use Amazon capsules.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    That's a bit ridiculous Lady G. I wonder if you change the title and don't use the "M" word it would make a difference.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    It is ridiculous. I would love to know what kind of advertising agent they have that thinks this subject is too sensitive. Maybe they shouldn't be in advertising.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    I added more information about how to curb these shootings in schools if you want to take a look at it.

  • tobusiness profile image

    Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

    I attempted to write a poem about this sad loss of innocent lives, but whatever I wrote seemed so inadequate. One of the most joyful things on this earth is the birth of a child and the saddest is the lost of lives that will never realize their full potential. I don't know what the answer to this problem is, but readily available guns doesn't help, Why in the name of God, would anyone want to take a gun into a school and turn it on teachers and children? This is happening much too often, it has to stop. Something is rotten in the state of Denmark.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hello tobusiness. Thank you for reading my hub. There is no logic to explain how someone could walk into a school and destroy the lives of children or adults either. You cannot find logic where none exists. The best we can do is to fight for better mental health options and start talking personal responsibility for every child we have access to. And we have to keep the issue alive and in the media so that no one can forget.

  • shiningirisheyes profile image

    Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

    Linda - I am saddened to say that I am truly at a loss. This tragedy threw me for a complete loop. It hurts my heart deeply and, although I am ashamed to say it, I cam close to giving up on true good when I witness innocent children being murdered.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Hi Becky. Girl, you can't give up. Look at all the amazing things that came from this horrible tragedy. Look at he people who reached out to help; drove thousands of miles to lend support, brought comfort dogs in to help with the healing, or organized memorials or moments of silence in their own towns. This horror brought amazing people together and shocked us into a new reality. There is still far more good in the world than evil. We were horrified and heartbroken for good reason but to give up is to let evil win. We can't let that happen. Hugs bing sent to you this day.

  • Faith Reaper profile image

    Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

    My dear amazing writer friend, Linda,

    You have profoundly stated it all here. If you were here right now, I'd be giving you the biggest hug ever!

    I remember having to go next door to my former neighbor's house, and having to remind the mother that she is her children's mother, not their best friend! I could not believe my eyes. As her actions were affecting my children's welfare, as they were friends with her children.

    What happened to a parent, being just that, a parent? God help us all.

    We cannot allow evil to win. We must never stop fighting that good fight of faith----never!!!

    Voted way up +++ and sharing

    Sending lots of hugs and love your way, Faith Reaper

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Dear Faith, your hug was received over the miles of distance. You have that ability. You area dear, dear woman.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    I am writing it on another site andit is in approval stage right now. I will let you know when it is published there. I figured to write more on the importance of raising the children from the moment they are born. I am going into detail about their physical growth on them and then the other 2 kinds of growth they go through in the first 2 years of life. I am also writing about what and how they grow in the womb. I just wish that Zujava would hurry up and approve them.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Lady G, thanks for the update. Keep me posted.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    Here is the one that Hubpages took the ads off and said that it was violence against children and unpublished it.

    http://www.zujava.com/children-they-are-our-future

    I now have a set of articles that are in this series on there.

  • lrc7815 profile image
    Author

    Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

    Lady G, Ireally don't understand HP's decision. The article is excellent. I will look for others in the series too.

  • profile image

    JThomp42 4 years ago

    The very same thing happened to me Debra in a hub about child abuse.

  • Lady Guinevere profile image

    Debra Allen 4 years ago from West By God

    On Zujava, I think the other "leaves" are listed at the right. There are 2 others and I am working on another one to post in a day or so.

    JThomas Hubpages has hired or has volunteers that are under the age of 18, I do believe now. No worry now that I do have some place else to publish my work...and this is a lot of work and research that goes into these articles.

Click to Rate This Article