How Women could change the World if they just quit having Sex before Marriage!
That's right, you heard me...Women should quit, completely, utterly and without exception having sex before marriage. I know this might come as a radical idea or maybe even an old fashioned idea but please, let me state my case.
Having sex before marriage hurts women on so many levels. First of all, you have the tried and true risk of pregnancy and disease. The arguments for this are pretty obvious, if you don't have sex before marriage you will not have an illegitimate child, or acquire a disease...pretty basic and straightforward. However, have you ever realized that having sex before marriage is like a lose lose proposition for women? What do you get out of it? If you don't like the guy after having sex with him then, at the very least, you have just wasted yourself and put yourself at risk for pregnancy, disease and possible conflict. At worst, you are stuck in a deeper relationship than you want and could become pregnant and diseased as well. However, if you do fall in love with the guy and he doesn't respond in kind then you are left with a broken heart. And, broken hearts seem to be the ailment du jour these days. We are, in fact, a broken-hearted people. Just observing the countless numbers of people on anti-depressants, or who are drug and alcohol abusers should be evidence of that. By not having sex before marriage you could avoid all of these uncomfortable, life-altering scenarios. There is no downside to waiting, waiting until you have a commitment in marriage, until you have devotion and until you know him better. I wish someone had told me this when I was a young woman.
Do you agree with me?
Moreover, if the entire feminine population did this, we could change the world! Men would have to actually court us, they would have to make an effort to win us over ...otherwise they are stuck forever waiting, waiting, waiting for sex. Women's stock and value would rise exponentially, it's simply the law of supply and demand. Value is in the lack of supply!
When we, as women, sell ourselves short we are not only devaluing ourselves but we are devaluing our entire gender. We are teaching men to disrespect women. It seems to me that the feminist movement should be all over this. Instead, the feminist movement seems to foster the exact opposite when it comes to chastity. The modern message to women these days is that you are are "free" to have as many sexual partners as you would like, when all that does is drive the value of women down and degrade the female sex. Our power is in withholding sex until we have a commitment.
Furthermore, we would not have any children born out of wedlock, we would not have to worry about diseases and we would be in a position of power. Men would have greater respect for women, rising to a goddess-like status (OK, I got a little out of hand with that one!). In addition, the whole experiment would foster closer marriages thereby decreasing the occurrence of divorce. It would be a win win situation not only for women but for men, children and the society at large. It could, in fact, change the whole world!
Unfortunately the trend seems to be going in the exact opposite direction. In this age of birth control, abortion on demand and lackadaisical attitudes towards sex, we no longer seem to have any moral compass at all when it comes to chastity. The very word reeks of the Victorian age. But the problem, as I see it, is that we have lost all wonder when it comes to passion and love-making. No longer is romance a part of the equation. And marriage itself seems to be just another rite of passage, like getting a drivers license or something. I really think that the key to all of this is in the hands of women, we are the ones who could completely turn this around and make the world a better place. A place where romance, love, intimacy and passion are rampant and replace the uglier words of illegitimacy, disease, divorce, pornography, heart-ache and loneliness.
Think about it!
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