How do I over come Social phobias, and find decent people to be friends with?

Jump to Last Post 1-9 of 9 discussions (9 posts)
  1. days leaper profile image77
    days leaperposted 7 years ago

    How do I over come Social phobias, and find decent people to be friends with?

  2. ChrisIndellicati profile image81
    ChrisIndellicatiposted 7 years ago

    You have to go beyond your comfort zones sometimes. Try meeting people at work or school. Observe people, notice things about them. When your in a room with people look around for conversation starters. Once in a while if an article of clothing someone is wearing catches your eye, compliment it, ask them where they got it. These are just off the top of my head, I'm sure one can come up with infinite ways to make friends.

  3. Faceless39 profile image93
    Faceless39posted 7 years ago

    FACE YOUR FEARS.  Period.  Do it baby step by baby step.  Do a little each day.  Even if other people might not think you've accomplished much, do a little each day and You'll know you're making progress.

    You can't get good at something until you mess up a lot.  We're all here together though, and we've all been in awkward moments.  Laugh at it and move on.

    Make yourself do things you don't want to do.  You can do it.  The more you face things and accomplish things you didn't think you could do, you'll gain confidence and people will notice you.  Good luck!

  4. NotPC profile image56
    NotPCposted 7 years ago

    This probably sounds cliche, but you should always be yourself! You are most comfortable and enjoyable to be around when you are being the wonderful person you are. Only then will you find your true friends. Best of Luck. NotPC.

  5. Jarp profile image59
    Jarpposted 7 years ago

    Push your limits and face your fears. You needn't be an extrovert but sometimes you do need to get out there a little more than norm. Icebreakers and a huge smile (not a creepily huge smile)

  6. Attikos profile image73
    Attikosposted 7 years ago

    Confront the things you dread. Face them down, and they'll flee before you. It takes courage to do it, but that's a quality in every one of us. Bring yours to the fore and exercise it to strengthen it.

    As for getting into a better circle of friends, it depends mostly on where you're looking for them. If you hang out in low bars, you'll meet the people who make them what they are. I'd suggest joining a church if you want to be with a better class of folk.

  7. Romian1 profile image62
    Romian1posted 7 years ago

    Do you have hobbies you are really good at?  Find social events, clubs, shows, or any gatherings where you can show off and share your passion for your hobby.  I'll just name one example but there are infinite.  If you like remote controlled flying model planes, you can find events where RC plane hobbyist can hang out and fly their planes together.

    If you are not into hobbies, you must have at least one interest that you enjoy.  Meet other people that share your interest.  Suppose you like civil war history?  You can visit civil war sites or be part of re-enactments. 

    You get the idea.  When you are into something you like - you will also be liked.

  8. kgc-66 profile image60
    kgc-66posted 7 years ago

    I think it's easy to say "face your fears,"  but first you must determine why you are afraid.  I think many times people are afraid of rejection, so they isolate themselves to avoid it.  Accept yourself, as you are right now, for the unique and special individual you are!  The world is full of all different types of people, and it's unrealistic to force yourself into any particular mold.  You are who you are - and that's that.  Next, realize that if you are comfortable with yourself, quirks and all, others will be comfortable with and accepting of you - and if not - that's okay.  You can't please everybody all the time, and everybody is entitled to his/her opinion.  Lastly, think about what interests you - what you are passionate about - and seek the company of people who love those same things.

  9. Marturion profile image60
    Marturionposted 7 years ago

    One of the biggest obstacles that face people with social phobias is separating fears from personality traits.  Being introverted is not the same as being socially afraid.  Work on breaking out of your shell, but also embrace your personal need for alone time.  Find comfort zones of conversation and social interaction, and begin there.  As far as trusting people, give them small opportunities to prove themselves to be trustworthy, then as they demonstrate good intentions, give them larger opportunities.  True friends will prove themselves out.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)