yes, once my best friend betrayed me by stabbing behind my back, caused me to lose my job
Betrayal is also one of those "in the eye of the beholder" things.
Most people view making promises or exchanging vows and then abandoning them behind one's back as being a betrayal.
Sometimes one may share something about themselves with someone and "assumed" this person (would know) it's a "secret" or it is not anything (they) want told to other people.
However they themselves never told the listener: "This is just between us" or "Please don't share this." It's a misunderstanding.
Communication trumps assumption every single day!
Another may view it as a betrayal if they dislike someone and learn their friend is still on speaking terms with this person.
Their mentality is: "You have to hate everyone that I hate!"
(This is oftentimes an "unwritten rule" for a lot of people.)
Either way when someone does not live up to (our expectations) of how we believe they should conduct themselves in matters concerning us we're likely to feel betrayed or slighted.
They however may not share our same view or did not consider their actions to be an actual betrayal. Perception is reality!
Clive....Sadly, I have to say I've been betrayed several times, some, more painfully than others. IMHO, very few if any individuals can slide through life without ever having experienced betrayal to some degree . Once again, we're dealing with human nature.
The vast majority of times that someone will betray, the motive is ultimately discovered to have been severe selfishness (putting one's self before anyone & everyone).
In an effort to cover for a mistake, flaw or intentional action, one will "betray" another. In slang terminology, we have heard this described as "throwing someone under the bus." It's all part of the blame-game to make someone other than yourself responsible for a situation. It's also considered the age old "Stab in the back."
Unfortunately, "trust" and respect are not valued by all equally. It would be difficult to ever betray anyone if we all valued trust & respect of all.
As anyone who has dealt with a betrayal situation can attest, this is a painful, often devastating blow. It is very difficult to understand, remains an open wound for lengthy periods of time and nearly impossible to forgive until fully healed.
It's tough to admit to experiencing betrayal more than a couple of times. For me it was a hugely rude awakening, not only about the betrayer, but myself as well & my tendency to believe, trust & perhaps be a bit naive.
I can safely say that it has been a long time since this has happened. I'm sure this is due to the lessons I learned well and being more protective of my self. I strive to not leave myself at risk of betrayal. It requires experience and wisdom to do this. Paula
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