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20 Years and Counting

Updated on June 6, 2012

Today is my 20th anniversary. It is hard to believe I made it this far. I was married in 1992 at the ripe "old" age of seventeen. Definitely too young to be married, I agree. Such a big commitment is difficult for older couples but exceptionally so for a teenager. The expectations of marriage and the reality rarely match. That is hard for anyone but at seventeen it is doubly hard because you are still at an age where every little disappointment is the end of the world. ( Remember all the teen drama).

My beautiful daughter (age 18)


Hard Beginning

My daughter was born before my first anniversary. She was the most beautiful, precious thing I'd ever laid eyes on but life was not so good at the time. My husband was recovering from an auto accident, we were living with his parents, and I was deeply depressed. Not exactly the ideal environment for a new baby. The stress of having no income while at the same time adjusting to parenthood in someone else's home was overwhelming. Those were some hard times but we moved forward.

My handsome son (age 16)


Less than two years later, my oldest son was born. We still had very little income but atleast we had our own place. Granted it was tiny and not in the best condition but it was ours. The following years were filled with many challenges that we sometimes faced head on and other times we attempted to turn our back on them. Those were the worst because the problems we tried to avoid were the ones that kept coming back.

cutie patootie baby boy (age 5)


Later Years

Since then, we have moved three times and had another son. Each move was an upgrade from the last. Our children are healthy, safe and happy. I myself have gone from high school drop out to college graduate and have tried be make myself better everyday. My husband has attained a better position that has provided us with enough income to live better than when we started. Although our lives are not perfect or even ideal, we are a family. We love each other, we support each other, and most of all we strive to make it even better everyday.


So here's to twenty years of getting better everyday. I hope for many more years of the same. Who knows, at this rate , in twenty more years we may be too good to be true.


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      Lisa Palmer 5 years ago from Attapulgus GA

      Thanks teaches for your kind words.

      hairbender..I do live in a tiny town but I like it that way..and actually people don't really know my business because I keep to myself and all my neighbors are respectable people that mind their own business but are extremely friendly and always helpful,,How much better can it get?

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      hair bender 5 years ago

      And I thought where my mom lives in MO is small? But your population is 449 from the 2010 census. Everybody know your business? Small towns are great because you know everyone and they can be your family. Continue to write!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Congratulations! You have a beautiful family and a wonderful husband. It is always good to hear how a marriage survives the many tials life puts it through. Inspiring words for future generations.

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      Lisa Palmer 5 years ago from Attapulgus GA

      @fpherj48..Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. I am appreciative of your warm wishes. Over the last 20 years we have encounteredmany bumps in the road but I think we are better for them. We are so proud of our beautiful children and they are our greatest reward. Bless you

      @ hairbender..Happy anniversary to you and I wish you many more wonderful years. It doesn't matter how old you were when you married, as long as you're with the ONE you were meant to be with. Thanks for reading and commenting

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      hair bender 5 years ago

      Today is my husband's and mine 9th wedding anniversary. We are looking forward to many, many more although we were older when we married. So we may not make it to the 50th year but we will have fun trying!

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      slackermom....OMG... honey, you have just gained a Number One Fan & champion.....your story has genuinely moved me. I don't even know you and I feel as proud of you as though I was your Mom!

      Your children are gorgeous and just looking at their happy, healthy faces, tells me they have been raised in a home of love and perservearance......

      Went to college while raising 3 kids and dodging the crap life can sometimes throw at our feet? Amazing.

      Congratulations on 20 years to you and the obvious love of your life. I am sending you virtual hugs and champagne and applause. You deserve the very best.

      You simply must change your name from slackermom to RockStarLady!!!!! Bless you all! UP+++

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      Lisa Palmer 5 years ago from Attapulgus GA

      Thanks billy. It hasn't been easy but I guess anything worth having isn't

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Congratulations! You seem happy and you have beautiful children. What a great testament to determination and the power of love. Hooray for you!