5 Reasons an Introverted Person May Not Want to Socialize
1. Being Deep in Thought
When an introvert has a lot on his/her mind or is deep in thought about a topic or situation, that person may not be in the mood to socialize. Introverts tend to withdraw from crowds and even other individuals when they have a lot going on emotionally. Don't worry, though! Once some internal processing has gone on, and that person has had time to think and be alone, he/she will come back out and commune with the outside world (including friends and family!) again.
2. Not Knowing People Very Well
If you invite an introvert to a party, for example, he/she may not stay very long (or show up at all) if they do not know anyone there very well. It can be very overwhelming and intimidating to meet new people if you are not in the right mood, when you are an introvert. That's because socializing with people, especially new people, can often times feel very draining to an introvert. Being around people the introvert knows well is much more relaxing and peaceful, although there are times when introverts are in the mood to meet new people and make new friends.
3. In the Middle of a Project
Projects an be all-encompassing for some people, and introverts can get so focused on what's going on in their own world, internally, that it's easy to shut everyone else out until their goal is accomplished. If you find an introvert dab smack in the middle of a pressing deadline for work, a creative project, or the like, you may have to wait for them to join you to catch that movie or get that cup of coffee.
4. Lots Going On in Life to Process
This sort of goes along with the first point. If circumstances are busy or overwhelming for an introvert, or especially challenging or stressful, that person will most likely have to find a time to retreat and recharge their batteries. It's nothing against you personally. Introverts just need times of solitude and reflection to process and regroup. Once they are rejuvenated by that alone time, they will be more than happy to spend time with you!
5. Not Expecting Company
If an introvert is not expecting company, it can be difficult for that person to get into that frame of mind. Not all introverts are this way, but some may need advance notice to get together, and might not necessarily appreciate "pop-ins" like a more outgoing person might. It's just the way they are designed, and there's no right or wrong to it. So consider calling or texting an introverted person first, instead of just showing up on their doorstep unannounced!
