ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

6 Conversations You Should Have With Your Partner Within the First Year of Dating

Updated on April 28, 2020
Kerrian mcmahon profile image

Kerrian is a professional relationship expert and analyst. She loves to write on her observations and research concerning relationships

The beginning of a relationship is always sweet and magical because most people put their best foot forward when they are getting to know each other. Due to the euphoria of the new relationship, it is not unusual for people to ignore or overlook some important topics and conversations.

Conversations reveal a lot about your partner’s thought process and interests. Even when important life topics come up for discussion at the start of a relationship, some couples would either lightly gloss over it, so as not to pop the fantasy bubble or completely ignore it due to fear of heavy topics and potential deal-breakers. Regardless, there are still topics that couples should discuss within the first year of dating to avoid hurt and heartbreak down the road after emotional investments.

It would do you much good to end a relationship you feel won’t work out well as soon as you can than to continue on for a long time and realize you made a mistake or do not share, understand and intend to compromise your ideals.

Here are some conversations to consider having if things are getting serious and you want to continue to improve the relationship;

1. Family

Family is one of the most important aspects of everyone’s lives. Discussing the meaning of family and your ideals when it comes to your family or building a family together is important at the start of a relationship. This is the time to discuss any family baggage or family dynamics, how to balance your role in your family with being in a relationship. You might have to be able to decide if they intend to go the long haul.

This is also an important time to discuss children. Do you have children? What role will your partner play in their life? You need to talk and understand if you both want the same things. Do you or do you not want children together? Does your partner’s choice align with yours? How many children? What is your idea of an ideal family? What is your stance on adoption?

There is always room for compromise or change of mind but it’s good to discuss it so you know and prepare for where you are headed.

2. Money and Financial Obligation

You would be surprised by the percentage of relationships and even marriages that have ended either gradually or abruptly due to money issues. Money is one of the most difficult topics to discuss in any kind of relationship, even a professional one. It is important that you get in front of it and discuss some areas as it concerns your relationship.

This is necessary so you can both understand each other’s money management techniques and financial expectations. It’s not really about discussing account balance, but it is expedient to at least discuss each other’s income, debt, and future plans. You should also talk about financial responsibilities, lifestyle, and support you would render or expect from each other, especially when you live together and have to pay bills.

3. Commitment

This might seem strange to you but a commitment has a wide spectrum of meaning to a lot of people. What does commitment mean to you? Living together? A marriage proposal? A happy relationship? Public display of affection? For some people, commitment involves signing legal papers and making it official while some others are okay with living together and having a stable and happy relationship.

You should discuss your intentions because this would tell your partner what level of commitment you are ready for and establish if you both want the same things and if ultimately they would be getting what they want or not.

4. Sex and Physical Affection

You probably already had sex several times already, however, that doesn’t guarantee that you know what your partner likes. It won’t be a bad idea to actually talk about it with your partner. It doesn’t necessarily have to be in a serious, matter of fact sort of way but in a light casual discussion. According to experts, sexual capability can make or break any relationship.

Sexual intimacy moods and expectations are different from each person, so you should have a discussion with your partner about this as your relationship grows. When it comes to sexual intimacy a lot of people have different desires as to what they are comfortable with or enjoy in bed. People also have different ideas about who should initiate sex, what your sex life should entail or what they like sexually. What are you most comfortable with? How do you both connect?

5. Long Term Expectations and Personal Goals

There are several expectations and responsibilities in a relationship but couples are sometimes reluctant or dismissive to discuss these. Assuming that your partner shares the same ideologies about life and balance as you do, could lead to conflict later on in the relationship. It is a good idea to have these types of discussions as soon as possible to avoid resentment and complaints of lack of support or understanding by you or your partner. Discussing the reasons for people’s ideologies and viewpoints makes a lot of difference in understanding them.

You also have your own personal goals and dreams, it is a very good idea to tell your partner about them and understand how you both feel about individual goals, employment, and stay at home partners. Are you planning to quit your job and follow your favorite band on tour? Are you applying to Ph.D. programs soon? Make it clear what the future holds for both of you.

6. The communication conversation

This is very important in dealing with conflicts and misunderstandings. While you might have studied and observed your partner when it comes to their ability or lack of communication skills in the relationship, it is also good to have a discussion about it. To prevent fights and miscommunications, try to analyze and understand each other’s communication styles, approach to situations, and reactions to issues.

If your relationship is new or old, you should have this discussion and come to terms with each other’s ideas. Insight is always helpful for relationship growth.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Kerrian McMahon


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)