61 "When You Feel Lonely, Write"

You must've had your reasons and as long as you can both stand it with the phone calls hang in there. This is beautifully written.

Nice Hub and sad too. I hope there is sunshine on your horizon.

So sorry...I know this must be hard...I write many days as I have empty nest and hubby works odd hours..so I do know what you mean.. Writing feels my time and does help me when the house is too quiet.

great metaphors here-wow

So sorry...wish you could go see her...maybe she will be able to see you soon...blessings..debbie

I too know what you mean, only my man is in the room across the hall from me. we don't say very much after breakfast until much later in the day.

I now wonder how this no talking started.

Don't wait for her to call you. You can make the call to her.

I absolutely agree that writing can be a salve for a sad spirit. Voting this Up and Beautiful.

Loneliness can make you feel empty and you brought about the mood effectively in your hub.

Hi Gregas,

They say that solitude is different from loneliness. Can we also find solitude in writing as the mind is busy? I'm not sure but I can say sort of. Anything more? Thanks for this hub. Useful and interesting.

Lonliness can be bad but just keep in mind that you will eventually be together. When my husband has to take a business trip being used to him here all the time I take a long evening and get myself something I really like to eat and some red wine and soon I feel less lonely and just a bit happier.

My significant other, Tall Horse, and I have lived separately and at a distance for 20 years due to circumstances beyond our control. Although at times painful, I feel it's also drawn us closer together. As he said after one particularly long separation "There's no doubt our devotion to one another is real and forever." After all, one doesn't feel the lonliness for another over a period of time unless there's a very strong and abiding love. Take heart, Gregas, you are blessed and the loneliness, although difficult, will draw the two of you ever closer. Voted UP. Best, Sis

I like that your writing style in this piece is simple. Too often, people writing about love in all its flavors get stilted and Hallmark-y. Plain usage somehow amplifies the feeling of isolation and loneliness. Like you just didn't have the energy to put into making it fancy because of how much you missed her.

It must be tough, I hope you will be together again soon.

Writing does helps loneliness - and this is so beautifully written. Voted up, best wishes MM

Gregas, just remember how lucky you are to have that someone to miss. I find instead of words, I paint my loneness away and now I am finding myself drowning in an endless sea of paintings. I hope that someone, somewhere will throw out a flotation device before the sea dissipates in its entirety.

My partner will never come back, and that's good because he is dead. I told him I don't want to see him in that presence. Of course I did see him in a dream. Since I have started to really engulf myself into writing the loneliness isn't so bad anymore. The long cold winters here in Wisconsin are quiet. At least your partner might be coming back, you can look forward to that, me on the other hand won't have that luxury. I await no more for him, and am glad. I am moving on and look back at it as a growth experience, because his death changed me, well so did his life but his death had a more profound impact on me. Life is worth writing about. I do it everyday, at least 500 words to be exact. u can rite 2 ;)

Writing is always a good way to vent ones emotions into life. To connect and share, to feel release even from those pent up emotions we may not be able to share in person. Found your hub useful and interesting. I hope she comes back...so you don't have to feel so alone anymore.

Very nicely written from a lonely, honest and sincere heart. Solitude is good for reflection and better insight, but staying positive and forward focused is always needed. Life's decisions are not always easy and pleasant, but to hang out in 'second guessing'your past decisions only seem to compound the loneliness and emptiness around you!

Make the phone calls very meaningful and enjoyable to both.

That's really good advice. Anything that works, works.

Hi gregas

True love is worth the sacrifice. Hang in there.

Wish I had a man in my life that missed me.

Voted up and away!

Have a good weekend.

Yes, writing is great therapy...

Loneliness, longing for someone you love, is normal..an activity would take part of it away..preferably a physical activity..

As I am not an expert on matters of the heart, I can only wish you that which is best for you.

Well all is not so lost because she will be joining you later but this write is so sweet because I wonder if she is aware...really aware of how much you miss her and how romantic you are where she is concerned and are you this romantic with her in person because if you are she is definitely missing you too. Precious!

I have always believed in long distance relationships, depending on the two people, and I believe this is one of the sweetest declarations I've heard in a while regarding a man and his feelings for a woman. Good for YOU...WAY TO LOVE!

again writing is a theraphy nice hub..

Wish I could think of something to say that would make things better, but I know from experience that only time resolves some things. It's always good to remember that life is short and time can't be retrieved. Best wishes . . .

You have expressed your mind beautifully. But I can tell you, You will get along with this. May God bless you!

This is well written. I can feel the emotions you are going through as I read this. I also have experience with long distance relationships and they are so hard at times. Like you, I write about it and that seems to help, a little. Thanks for sharing and I hope things get better for you.

Great hub, great advice! And hubpages is the place where writing will bring you in touch with others who may fill that void created by lonliness - great way to enrich your life!

I haven't been getting warnings or even notifications when friends writing and it can be quite maddening at times. Gee I can't remember yesterday much less hundreds of friends. But is is good to know we do have them here and that has to help the loneliness some, no?

Short but sweet you seem to be my writer polar opposite lol at least with this particular piece meaning my work often is long too long and long-winded like its author ...I can learn a thing or two or err... three from reading your work gregas this was nicely written and emotionally impacting as well. I probabaly would have used 5 paragraphs to say the same thing and would have gotten less impact lol...voted up ty found it beautiful and touching.

Thank you very much for your Vote of Confidence and Welcome Aboard. Writing gives a new lease on life doesn't it!

At least you have someone to talk to and miss. It's much lonlier without anyone. Keep on writing.

Like reading a really good book, writing can tranport one to other places and times. It can bridge gaps and fill empty places. I love this hub. Voted up.

Totally agree with you.

Writing can be therapeutic. You lose yourself in it.

Writing is truly a therapy. Sometimes I write and it turns out t be nonesense - just words without meaning. But what really matters is that i was able to release everything inside through writing - regardless if it made sense to others or not.

Gregas and everyone here, thanks for sharing your hearts.

I have been alone most of my life, without ever having a partner or a companion. It's getting harder sometimes now, but I do have the strength to keep going, by and large. It's painful sometimes. Yet out of this often there comes a gem of a moment, which life was just waiting to happen, and I think, "Now I know why the past few days were so deeply lonely. It was waiting for this special moment which could not have happened any other way."

This is also a Sunday morning, 3.30am - must be something special about the early hours!

I hope everything works out.

Wow, you two are truly, madly and deeply in love with each other. With Valentine's day approaching, I hope you two can at least see each other online via webcams. Happy valentine's day to you both. :)

I got a new idea .Thanks dear gregas for sharing this

very beautifully written

Greg, I love reading hubs that come straight from the heart! Distance may be difficult, but Love can stand up to such a barrier! Voted up! Great hub!

Gosh it must be completely heart breaking to be separated from your loved one for so long. I find it difficult enough when my husband has to go away just for a couple of days. I hope you wont be apart for too long now. A phone call or a letter makes all the difference doesn't it?

hi greg :) what u said is very true. writing keeps loneliness some sort of company. ur still lucky tho' that despite of the loneliness u still have that special someone even when afar. another confirmation that "LDR's" does work anyhow. keep the lines (phone/emails) burnin' so as not love to fade. *wink

Voted up and Beautiful!

The impact of loneliness is very strong in your hub because your experience has made you write such effectively. It is very true that writing helps to curb loneliness as it allows you to pour your heart out. May your loneliness come to an end very soon!

that was so thoughtful of u Greg...thank u. loneliness has been a part of my existence i have endured all these years. no worries tho', i'm a strong woman who believes everything has its own proper time and that every person we meet along the way has a purpose. thankful we get to have encounters in here that supports & encourages each one in the process. hope u guys had a wonderful day as my morning begins to start again.^^

thanks greg...u sure bet i am (strong)! yet this time i think i'd rather not trust my heart too much anymore coz' it has always failed me. i know in time, i'll be fine.

I am so sorry--this must be a difficult time for you. Your heartache is palpable in this hub---

Oh my - a poem every morning. She must be a most wonderful person.

Hang in there-

All the best-

Patti a/k/a 34th

So lovely - you're other half probably misses you as much as you miss her. Missing her is making you write some stunning prose and poetry - keep up the good work. Got your email!!

I, too, started writing many years ago -- journaling, in my case -- to stay sane, to get in touch with my own voice. What a journey it is, and once the painful part is past, as it will be, then the excitement creeps in. Stay with it. Thanks for following me along on my hubpages journey. Sandra Busby

I regretted not keeping journals too. Good thing that I have a lot of old pictures of my kids when they were little.

You are obviously a writer, Greg, and it is "IMO" silly to say that reading is a prerequiste for writing! I wouldn't consider my reading habits terribly 'avid' either, but when I do read, I love 'True Crime' stories-not very high-fallutin' stuff-so I guess some would question my 'quality' as a writer and considered low class! ;) I really don't care about others' judgements because I ADORE writing and some folks enjoy reading my words.

This hub is obviously from your heart, and I found it very touching.

Keep it up!!

Electra "said" about 4,000 years ago: "Foolish is the child who forgets her parent's piteous deaths." (I think it's a play by Homer - I don't get out much.)

I understand what it means, though, and have lived it. I spent four years caring for my parents. I bitched A LOT. Now? I wish I'd done more...

beautiful hub, you will find your way to one another very soon ;-)

Beautifully written. Voted up.

hey greg, nice hub. loneliness certainly a bitter reality for you, me, and and a multitude of us. what to me is sadder is that we live in a society that actually chooses to continue to isolate itself from it's own species. i guess that's why hubpages, etc. is here. it is a good place for us lonelyfarts. i hope your separation is shortlived. love durango!

Be thankful you still have her in your life and your separation is a short one. I live on my own and have done so for some time now, yet it's my choice. I've been married twice and it just didn't work out. I found myself not to be the marrying kind.

I enjoy my solitude however with a handful of solid friends surrounding me I never feel entirely alone. I like keeping my own place and my lady friends theirs, visits and dinners together are just fine and great company. Hope you reunite soon.

gregas I posted this hub to my Facebook page after giving it another peek. I agree with the sentiment expressed by Vincent Moore as well. I waited until 35 to marry for the first time- after living with my spouse first for 6yrs (now together 11years.) A conservative type he pushed for matrimony hard I finally agreed with bohemian trepidation... it has been hard but rewarding at times. Like you when I am lonely I also write and my hubby is often in the next room. Again thank-you for a well-written thought provoking hub.

This Hub just keeps getting better! Kudos, Greg!!

Writing has always helped me when I'm lonely or sad. And if you send your words to the one you love, she will have them to treasure always. That's one reason snail mail is so wonderful. It brings words that can be stowed away and reread when the other is lonely, at all hours of the day and night. Words of love are never wasted.

Serial killers fascinate me as well, gregas. In fact my 'True Crime' reading is mostly about them and their motivations and such. I also 'enjoy' television treatments of these animals, like 'Criminal Minds' and some of the 'Law and Order' episodes.

Oh, and I do agree-let's spend the cash on troubles here on earth first!

Thanks again for a great hub!

YIKES! "Duh", I mean! The Butcher hub of yours was the one I was thinking of, and I should have commented there. Forgive me, for I really enjoy your hubs and read the Butcher one then went on hungrily to this one...confused reader, I guess!

Sorry, and take great care.

"The Butcher of Elmendorf" by JY3502! Lordy. You didn't even write it! For shame, Laurel-my name, of course. I believe you commented there and I loved those comments...I assumed-erroneously-that you'd written it.

Again, my apologies for all the confusion-it's not good for us old-timers! ;) Senior moments are exhausting, yes? ;)

;););)

I wrote letters to my friends and boyfriend every day when I was away from them for a year. That's many years ago now, but it felt really good to write. I like this hub, voted up!

Talk about Senior Moments..... I was on the sea front promenade in Ibiza, a few years ago. Had been sitting in the cafe having a coffee and reading the newspaper. Got up, paid the bill, walked out into the blazing sunshine. Folded up the newspaper to shield my eyes from the sun. Had walked a few yards and suddenly thought, "I've left my newspaper behind!"

Hello, Hope you and your love are together real soon.

Writting is therapeutic, and I can get lost in stories.

Thank you for following me.

This is so beautiful! Lucky lady, she is. ;-)

I too agree that writing helps a lot. I too write when I'm lonely or angry. (And of course when I'm happy!) You can spit out the tension by writing. It really makes you feel relaxed.

gregas You are a beautiful writer gregas. Thank you for sharing your heart. This was written a while back. By now I do hope that you and your love are together or as your hearts desire. Writing is like medicine for the soul. For me it helps clear out the cob webs for the light to shine on in. At least when I am feeling sad or despaired. My most favorite thing to do when I am low is talk to God. He is the great comforter. He rescues me every time. May God Bless you and yours gregas. Please do come over for a visit when you find the time. Love sunny's comment above writing, 'spits out the tension'!! That is for reals. Have to laugh that is a good one. Hugs to you my friend. Skye

Hi gregas, hubpages showed where you came on my hub, thanks so much. I appreciate that. I, looking over your hubs, saw this one and it intrigued me. I too am going thru something like this, and is very hard. He is in another country, but we are patiently waiting for the right time for me to go there to him. I am glad that you are closer to your love, and will be worth the wait I know. Take care.

Hello Gregas! I like that you wrote this in such a sincere, straightforward manner, like a journal or diary entry...it speaks directly out of that "need" to write. And you are so right---it does help to write and to reach out when we feel lonely. I am glad to read above that you are closer to the one you love too. Wishing you happiness and inspiration! :-)