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Important Reason Why a Man Walks Out of a Love Relationship

Updated on October 18, 2014
Intimate couple
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I was having few drinks at the senior executive club few days ago with the company directors from Belgium when a colleague said this words “It sucks to have a wife that makes you feel like a stranger in your own house” My colleague is a highly respected, admired and a reputable manager in Hargy Oil Palm Limited, a agribusiness company under SIPEF group of companies based in Belgium.

That sentence inspired me to write this hub. I have long tried to establish the single most important reason why a man walks out of a relationship. Of course there are countless reasons why men walk out of relationships. But we want to be very specific here so that you don’t get yourself confused.

Obviously one of the first question that comes to the mind of a women when a relationship breaks is “What did I do to make him leave?

Just like using SEO to search for an answer of your choice in goggle, you have to do specific search. Ok! Open up your goggle browser and type in the question -Single Important Reason Why Men Walk Out Of A Relationship - What do you get? Millions of websites that gives you millions of reasons why a men walks out of a relationship. The question is “What answer is correct? To be at least accurate in your search in the countless search engines in internet, you follow certain steps that lead to what specific answer you’re looking for or a few of them you combine to build your own knowledge base.

Men want to look important in front of their circle of personal or business friends
Men want to look important in front of their circle of personal or business friends | Source
Men want to be admired by all
Men want to be admired by all | Source
Men crave for admiration in sports
Men crave for admiration in sports | Source

Here is no different. Ask any single man living on this planet the question what is the single most Important Reason Why Men Walk out Of a Relationship? Again billion answers. Uh! Confuse and frustrated? Answers may vary from sex, finance, love, family, job, personal attributes, education, culture and the list is infinite.

The single most important reason that has been overlooked all this years is “Admiration”

You may be saying, Ok! What’s with the admiration that you are bluffing about?

I can prove beyond reasonable doubt that men crave for admiration in a relationship. We men long to have great sex life, better financial status, an adorable family, better education etc etc. Why? So that we can be admired not only those in the society but our wives or girlfriends.

A religious fanatic may tell me. We don’t seek admiration in the church. Great! I agree with you. But let me ask you this. The last time you delivered a great sermon and few members complimented “That was a great sermon” Did you feel anything at all or nothing? If you did feel a tingling kind of satisfaction deep within you? That feeling of satisfaction came about because of the approval you got from others. Why do they approve your action? Because they admire you or if not, what you did.

One wants to have some recognizable social status in the society. If not given that in the society, than that person will seek admiration from those very close to him. Be it close friends or family.

Attention and admiration is unquestionably the biggest need of a man in a relationship. How do you as a man feel when your woman doesn't appreciate what you provide be it sex, love, money and just about anything?

Read the conversation between the man and the woman
Read the conversation between the man and the woman | Source

You feel unappreciated right! So you have highest tendency to look elsewhere. To the women, if your men don’t feel appreciated and admired, what is it there for him to stay?

Small things count.

· Do you laugh at his jokes as you used to when you first dated?

· Do you tell him how great he looks in his new shirt?

· When was the last time you kissed him and tell him what a great dad he was for taking the kids out when you went to visit your girlfriends?

· Do you give him a passionate, steamy sex like the first time you were dating or just a quickie because you have to go to work?

This hub makes a women look a slave here but that’s reality. There’s no such thing as a good man. A good man and a good relationship is built and it’s not hereditary.

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      2cents 22 months ago

      I like this article. I'd like to add though, that I'd a man wants to be genuinely admired, he should behave in admirable ways.

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      Ian D Hetri 2 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Kelly

      Em true talk yu talk. Wanbel em i stap.

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      Karu Philly 2 years ago

      I agree with you Ian, that's what I expect from my wife. Am not selfish but that's what we deserve from each other. We have to be admired, because it gives that inner strength and confidence that we are important and respected.

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      Denmasjoyo 2 years ago

      Congratulations, Hart! Naked world dominance isn't the top pharse?And I had to redo my blog roll because yes, it got so long I couldn't make changes anymore. Broke it into three smaller ones and that seemed to help.

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      Ander 2 years ago

      Congrats on the hits. I love my flag counter, too. I have the bkcugroand of a mountain eagle, the icy wind ruffling its feathers as it stares first at me, then at the sky. I sometimes just admire the beauty of it. Only 147 countries, mind you. Nothing to comapare with you.My blog is gather cyber-dust. But I am happy with my friends who do drop in and chat and laugh. Sometimes simple visits are the best, right? Roland

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      jenny1015 3 years ago

      I definitely agree with what you have said. And I guess, it does the same for women who have also felt being neglected by their husbands. Admiration should not stop when a couple marries. Being too comfortable with your spouse might not always produce good results in your marriage.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      @Chris. Thanks for comenting. You made a wise choice for the kids. They need you as much as you need them.

      Best

      Ian.

      @et. Thanks.

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      chris 5 years ago

      only reason i have not walked out yet with the kids carnt find anywhere to get help.

      If, i left the kids as well i could go right now, so at this moment im doing what you should not, stay because of the kids but i carnt leave them behind.

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      et-81-ya 5 years ago

      i m impresd ;i

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      dotty1

      Hi. Thanks for commenting and I wish you best in your love life.

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      dotty1 5 years ago from In my world

      Great hub, as a woman that seems to get it wrong all of the time, !!!! I have read it twice :)

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Nwamaghinna

      Its is natural that it happens that way. Appreciate your comment

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      Nwamaghinna uche 5 years ago

      It is quiete uderstandable that some wome wants their husband 2 be working 4 them,it really cos the hand the man gave her.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      BrokenDreamer. If only I had the heavens in my palm. I'll give you million stars to you as you are my inspiring angel. Thanks so much my dear friend.

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      Ian, you are one of my favorite writers! I wish I could spend more time reading and writing, but the outside world keeps dragging me back into it again and again! lol

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      BrokenDreamer. I honestly hold you special in my heart..You have shown great supprt to me in my hubbing..Thanks a lot and I will be sharing your hubs in my social sites..

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      Joshua Pine 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Interesting hub. I think you might be on to something here. Womens needs in a relationship are much different than mens. I guess the kind of attention each partner wants is unique to them?

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      I guess I did not put enough emphasis on "right". Ahh, well... Live and learn. lol

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      Danny Chetram 5 years ago

      I am Indian man, so I will first address Shalini Kagal's comments. Historically, Indian Culture and Tradition was always in favor of men. Men are the bosses and women are the servants, in fact, there was a time in history in Hinduism when a woman cremates herself with her dead husband. In today's modern world, things have changed tremendously, and women are more independent, and they do not tolerate the double standards any longer, at least for the most part. I disagree with Shalini again that men are simple creatures and if you hang onto their every word, they are yours. Pull that stunt on me and you're gone. I think that any man with a decent intellect will pick up on it quickly and then the most important factor in a relationship is shattered - TRUST! We all have egos, men tend to be more egotistical, however, EGO IS NOT A BAD THING, it is what pushes us. It is like everything else in life, EXTREME is never good. There is a very, very important variable in a relationship that is very critical and that is PERSONALITIES!! There are four types of personalities, DISC. I will not going into all of them, but just as an example - D's like to kill a cow, skin it and eat it right away. Have two head strong personalities that thinks that it my way or the highway, and you figure out the rest. This applies to both men and women, it is not exclusive to men. LOVE is a great thing, never be afraid to LOVE. Be honest in your praises and compliments and everything else. TRUST, LOYALTY, and UNDERSTANDING WILL ALWAYS WIN THE MOMENT/DAY. "Love does not make the world go around, but it make the ride a lot more fun."

      Danny Chetram - Email- danny@chetram.com

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      BrokenDreamer

      Thanks for the insightful comment..Sharing your experience with other readers adds more value to my hub. Thanks for your time.

      Ian

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      I, once, dated a man who said, "I don't need admiration unless it feeds my ego right..." lol I guess he was right! I hope I can learn from all this experience I have as well as the experience available here on HubPages!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      You are spot on my dear friend BrokenDreamer...Thanks for commenting again.

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      I believe that admiration feeds the ego, therefore the two are tied together.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      SanXuary

      Thanks for giving a very insightful comment. For sure ego plays a major role in how men wish to be treated. I agree with you on that. Appreciate your comment

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      SanXuary 5 years ago

      Admiration does not go far in my book but the lack of it can be destructive. Trust me most men leave and have no admiration left inside. If admiration was so important they would have never allowed it to fall so far and if anything its probably more important to women then men. I think this is more about ego and personality then life and its realities.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Debbie,

      I am always blessed to have a friend like you. Regards all the way from the beautiful pacific.

      Ian

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Thanks ian...be blessed

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks so Debbie. I appreciate your comments. Had a read through some of your hubs. Poems are sensational. Great hubs.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      You are so right...we need to make sure we tell our men what we want to hear.....or they will find it somewhere else...great hub..I voted way up...debbie

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      Ian 5 years ago

      Hi BrokenDreamer

      I am glad you read both hubs. In the first hub, my argument sound like women are slaves. NO. That was not my intention. I just wanted to show how we men tend to thinks this days about the very we claim to love yet expect so much in return..Thanks for dropping by and commenting.

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      Jen Christopherson 5 years ago from Oklahoma, USA

      I read the women leaving article first. I left a comment there as well. I enjoyed it very much. I enjoyed this one just as much. I have read the books you mention. I find your explanations to be much better.

      Those books seemed to be slanted toward the woman holding onto the relationship and changing to make things work (my opinion only).

      I refuse to be the only one working at the relationship. If he isn't willing to do research, reading and discussing things, I am not willing to stay and work it out.

      I don't mean to sound argumentative. I am at a loss for how to say these things nicely.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      tracy imevbore

      Really true what you just said. You see, I am speaking as a man and from a man's point of view. This is something I myself find it it disturbing. What we understand is that relationship is is a shared responsibility. Fair enough but at the end of the day, man will still thinks he is the leader in the relationship. Why? Because he wants others to know that he can manage his relationship. similar situation in career, business or finance. That's the mentality we wan to do away with.

      Thanks for coming along and commenting. Cheers.

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      tracy imevbore 5 years ago from england

      there must be some truth in what you have said!

      i remember being told by a close male friend,

      champions go to where they are celebrated!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Shalini Kagal

      True comments there. Glad to know a bit about Indian man. I haven't been there but its good to have friends from India. You have of them. Thanks for commenting.

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks Eddy for the continuous support. Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate your wonderful comments. Happy hubbing.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      A great huh and thanks for sharing.

      Has to have an up up and away.

      Take care and enjoy your day.

      Eddy.

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      Shalini Kagal 5 years ago from India

      I totally agree - but then I'm Indian :) And let's face it - men are simple creatures. You hang on his every word and he's yours for life :D

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      jeanine

      Thanks so much for the great comments. You really said it all. What more can I say. I am working on my next hub and its quit interesting that you mention something in your comment that is my next hubs title. You are such a genius. Oh i will say you read my mind quit perfectly.

      Please come back right here and read my next hub. About A Single Important reason Why Women Walk Out of A Relationship. Cheers

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      jeanine 5 years ago

      I agree that men crave admiration... just as women crave security... it's the reason we all get together... He has security and women have the ability to praise more readily... as we all begin to mature though... each side has started to take from the other... and that's when it gets interesting... women who need admiration... true admiration not just to get her into the sack... and men who can give praise without needing anything from it... here's a note from my man.." I fall short, telling her how I feel...walking by... I can't help but notice her gate... I recognize her laugh in the crowd... her fragrance compliments each garden as she walks...there just ahead.... Her wisdom... although unconventional... is a place, for me to convene....I'm in forty years...I still sigh.. catching my breathe. .. clueless on becoming one...with the one...that's been the most beautiful one.... to me"...

      and here's my response..."he holds my weakness like it's his treasure... turns my tears to morning mist... lays me down a top his favorite mountain... made my son with one eternal kiss… shows me how to part the waters... tells me I should willingly try... he laughs... creates... I asked what’s most important ... he whispered softly... it's you and I"... love is truly a two way street... there is no walking out if there is communication... to much history involved to start a new... I'm in forty two years... how bout you...lol.... enjoyed the read...

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks izettl for giving your opinion. I totally respect that agree with you. But here I am not trying to blame the women here. We want to show the women a single important reason why Men Walk Away. Ok. If a men doesn't share what happens in men, women wouldn't know either. That's it. Most of the times lacking of proper understanding like what we talking about leads to painful heartbreaks. Lil things that can be avoid but because we don't know the true nature of men or women or we know it but we just don't want to teach each other, we end up in chaotic situations. I'm not a male commenter who blames women. Absolutely big no. What I do is to show the women dark sides of men that because of our masculine nature are kept as deep secrets. Men crave for admiration and that is undeniably true. Women are soft in and submissive because of their femine nature,. A good book by American Author and Counsellor R. M. Covey (Men from Mars and Women From Venus) is a must read. Cheers to all our lovely mothers, sisters, girlfriends and wives out there.

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      Lizett 5 years ago from The Great Northwest

      I was reading "ksha001" comments and I understand you are giving one side to this topic because women need their men to do certain things for us too.

      I think I had relationships figured out until my husband and I had kids then other needs overtake the relationship. It's all different then.

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      Lizett 5 years ago from The Great Northwest

      I think you are absolutely right. I don't care much what others think about me- I don't need the newest gadgets,etc but my husband does and I can see how right you are about this subject. Great article!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Yes that's exactly my point. We wait ans see what others are gonna say.

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      ksha001 5 years ago

      Ok...I'll be looking out. I can't wait to hear the male perspective on why a woman would leave. Should be interesting!

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      Ian D Hetri 5 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks kshaoo1. Ego is the issue here. man crave for admiration. As such women has to give. In my next hub, I will write about the reason why women walk out of a relationship. Again thanks for dropping by and commenting.

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      ksha001 5 years ago

      Mhhhmmm...interesting! I actually love this subject. However I must ask, why do you put all this responsibility on the woman to keep her man? I must disagree with you about there being no such thing as a good man! A good man is all that possess qualities that their partners deem "good", and a man must possess those qualities before entering a relationship. If not, he'll require all the necessary attention that your hub speaks about. However, I'm not saying a woman shouldn't pay attention to her man but I don't think she's the sole reason a man would wander.