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Abusive Relationship's: The All too Famous questions you ask yourself.

Updated on April 22, 2012

The Question is, "Should I stay or Should I go?"

Well the answer to that is, you should go, why? well let me put it this way, love, it's a beautiful, prosperous thing, it keeps you in check and reminds you that every day is worth another smile or affection to your spouse, well, Abuse on the other hand, let see what that is, it's mental torture, nerve racking, endless maze of violence, hate, lies, physical attacks, and most of all, it's your well being.

It doesn't take a blind person to notice when abuse is out of hand.

Abuse comes in many ways, figuring out what way it is, is easy, but the one you have to, and need to is Physical and Mental, let's look at them seperately.


  • A threat to your well being
  • Nasty Scars, Bruses.
  • You feel weak.
  • Useless.
  • or the unthinkable, Death.


  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Mountain of Emotions all at ounce
  • Self Esteem pushed beyond repair
  • State of Unconciousness within your own mind.

So, you ask, what does this mean, this is obvious.

Well, if you the abusy, or the abused, you wouldn't be here.

So why I am doing this?

For a sane logical answer, I don't do it for money, fame, fortune, or any self benifit's I do it for the people that need help, and I've been in many relationships that involve some kind of abuse and let me tell you, it's a road that's dark, cold, and scary, almost like the road to hell.

Now, let's get onto solving your problem.

Step 1. Get a chance to call your local Police Station/or go up there and file a report, and request a retraining order against said spouse.

Now this is the hard part, I know, you love them, and it's hard, but you have to think with the "Rules of the Jungle", not the, "Law's of Love and Devotion", In the Law's of the Jungle, it's, "Eat or be Eaten", and hunny, or hommie, you have to, it's your life, you take control, you do what best fit's your sanity and put your plan into motion because, eventually you won't have the chance.

Step 2. File for DIvorce

Again, I know it's hard, but it's for the best.

Step 3. Take him to court and press charges.

Step 4. Move to a Woman's Shelter or a Family member that they do not know about, you can even get your name changed for a price.

The motivation to do these things are what will keep you safe and out of harms way.

Now as to say if it were you boyfriend or girlfriend, let me tell you now, now you have more power then you'll ever, do what you need to do now, don't let it get worse, and mess you up more.

Love is like a river, flowing down a stream, but when it flood, the banks bust at the seem. -Your's Truely.

Please feel free to ask any question or if you need further assistance, let me or your local emergency hot line know.


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