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Divorce Alternatives ... You Need To Consider
What's At The End Of Your Rainbow?
Getting Divorced? OK...Hand Over ALL Your Money To The Lawyers
This is a Stick Up! You Two can't get along? OK No problem, hand over all your money, so we can go fight publicly in a Court room, about how the two of you are choosing not to get along anymore. Quick flip of the Love Switch. On again, Off again...Let's Turn It On Permanently!
We are the Prey, Lawyer's are the Vultures on stand by...watching. They specialize in liquidating Marriages. Especially ones with Lot's of cash, and assets. Prepare your Financials, and expect to be shredded fairly quickly...before you realize, and wake up.
Life basically stops abruptly, and there's not much left of your marriage to fight about. Vultures do pick the bones clean. So not to worry, they'll make it real easy for you. Everything will be tied up, and frozen.
You joined forces with a counterpart, you felt you would be spending the rest of your life with them. Something changed, occurred, or crisis broke out. Your attitude changed, and now you feel you cannot repair what has happened. You actually can, and will...if you would be willing to consider a Mathematical Solution to the problem.
Statistics on this subject are quite alarming to say the least. I have seen the most horrendous Divorce situations in the Legal industry, and it really made me wonder why people who at one time were madly in love with each other, and today they are willing to hand over that life they worked so hard for...to Lawyers.
A Lawyer is the only one who benefits from a divorce. It's a constant cash machine for them, and it doesn't look like it's going to stop any time soon. It's a perilous path for people to "choose" to take, and there are no Warning Signs on the way. You think it's the right move, because you're so angry. The problem is the anger is intensified, and not put into proper perspective. It's actually blown out of proportion.
All situations have a resolution, and it usually starts with Love. People change, and grow, and suddenly find themselves liking different things, than they did before. It's called growing up. Nobody stays the same. If you thought it would, then surprise!...Welcome to the ever changing planet of Humans.
Nothing will ever be the same as yesterday, there will be the slightest ever so subtle change by tomorrow, and the next day. Just like a marriage. Every day marriage, and life change. Our older generations have an even more difficult time adapting to the change. People who are young are more able to want change, and adapt easier.
We are at the stage of consequences for actions, and non-actions taken by Patriarchs in charge. In our society Lawyers are prevalent for the purpose of mediating a fight of some kind. As if people couldn't work out problems amongst themselves, they proceed to create fee's for themselves, with the objective of obtaining as much as they can from the other side. Whatever that may be.
A Marital Liquidation is an opportunity for a Lawyer to step into the situation and obtain many fee's for navigating this conjured up fight. The one, or many fights you could have resolved with a different approach. Love usually works pretty well, and has a very lasting memorable effect.
I have yet to see a Lawyer settle any case with the approach of Love. The lawyer will actually intensify the situation to the negative side. Then it's time to play telephone. All communication will go through 2 lawyers, and be certain it will not be relayed with Love. It will be a automatic thrust into the world of Hate.
Day by day, your money will become depleted, your credit will become useless, your life will equal nothing, while you were thinking it was going to be better. The facade of evil, and temptation lures you in, and feeds on your negativity, for as long as you allow it to.
It's like this: Two people decide they cannot get along anymore. They both part, and hire Lawyers. Each Lawyer gets paid from your assets. Doesn't matter which side, it's all from the same pot. The Lawyers know in advance, what fee's they can, and will create in lieu of those assets. The more assets, the more fees. The longer they will drag it out in "The System".
Once you decide you can't get along with this wonderful person, (who shows a glowing smile in the wedding pictures) you married, and now have changed your mind? You now realize you were wrong about this person? You can't seem to communicate to each other? Now you are in hatred vs. Love? You want to part, and hand your money over to Lawyers, because they deserve to have your hard earned money?
You can actually back track, and find Love again. Even when you're mad, you can still get past it. Obviously there are situations in which nobody can get past, such as criminal. However the vast majority of the population can indeed get along, if people desire to get along.
I can take you to a place where you may have never been before. It's a place of Love, and beauty where you can be yourself, feel loved, and develop lasting relationships for your life time. There is a right way to conduct a life, and a relationship, whether it be with one, or with many.
Starting back at square one. The moment Love set in, and certain feelings deep inside began to stir. You felt that inner feeling that this is so right. You visualize yourself already with this other person, and you know it can work. You have the utmost confidence, and certainty that this is the one. It could very well be.
Now suddenly, or over time you have come to the conclusion you think you've made a mistake, and you're both going separate ways. First in consideration of the pocket book line up is the Lawyers. Sitting on the high fence, waiting, watching for you to falter. You say the word, they swoop in, and off you go to the land of publicly created hatred. Hatred that will be seen before a Judge, and executed upon accordingly.
Now you have invited the State in which you live...into your life. What was a personal situation with a personal life, is now on public display, and your Attorney gets paid by you, and your soul mate to exploit all of it. This is now time for the slaying of the good soul. You are to watch your soul mate, be slayed before you. You too will pay for that slaying.
This is what you've chosen. To depart, and hand over your assets to a total stranger, and be thrust into the procedure of Hate. The system will help you right along with the Hate process. It's the norm to lose everything, destroy your family, give up your home, and have a stranger supervise your visits with your completely dysfunctional children.
This is what's acceptable in society today. There is a very abundant supply of Divorce cases to be had by the vultures. You can step into this arena any time you like, they're always ready, and waiting. As soon as you make that critical decision to make a departure from your current life, know one thing for sure...it's going to cost you big time.
Read the Statistics on Divorce, and Marriage...before you make the leap into Hate. Educate yourself on what the consequences will be, if you should conclude you are going to make the leap into Hate. It usually brings unexpected results, you hadn't thought possible.
The leap into Hate continues, while you search high and low to find your next stupendous family. The one you had, was Not perfectly good, and wonderful. Now you are a statistic, that is in search of. Joining the ranks of the lonely, the seeking, the 2nd time around'ers. The tainted souls, a product of routine conditioning by the patriarch system currently in place.
Branded, and tagged with public records, that you just couldn't get along anymore. Now you have a whole new routine, the one that was supposed to be better.
Mathematically you initially had chemistry for your mate. Possibly the chemical balance in both of you has changed. This will definitely affect your functioning ability. The first place to start is asses you Chemical balance. This in itself can be the whole problem. Correcting it, you may suddenly find yourself feeling very differently. When chemical balance is where it should be, appropriate feelings accompany it.
Once you have corrected the chemical balance, you can asses things more openly, and with proper firing of brain cells. It's quite possible this may be the solution for many. I have been privy to many situations involving couples, and I have found the majority of them to be in a state of improper balance.
There are other options you can try as well. Many seem to work just fine for many people. There are open marriages, where people continue to live together, but also have involvement with other people. As opposed to giving up everything you have to "The System", it could be a potential solution to reaching a compromise.
There are communities, communes, and groups you can join as a team, or alone that are open settings, and you are one of many. Many people have joined groups like this, instead of getting divorced. I have read, and seen cases of East/West wing arrangements. Living separately, but together. That is a sign there is still hope, and Love present.
Love doesn't just go away, Hate replaces it. Negativity thrives constantly. It's our duty to reverse it, and turn it into positive results, and solutions. Humans are problem solvers, it was meant to be a challenge. People change every day, so don't ever expect anyone to be the same as they were yesterday. There is no exact science, and everyone is individual.
No matter what you think, what you look like, or how you feel...if you have a heart, and it's beating then you have Love. You just need to switch to the flip side, and work it from the angle of Love. It will work, because that's exactly how it started. You have to think back, and recapture what is still there, just covered up with mud.
Once you shake the mud off, and you have the remaining core, then you apply love, and work from there. Everyone involved is responsible for making an effort to repair, and replace negativity. That is a path one takes to implement a plan of Love. Love is a feeling, a method, a style, a trait, a warmth, and something worth dying for.
Living to Love, is how people...all people function best. Feeling Love, giving Love, and being Loved is what makes people happy, productive, assertive, and motivated to move forward. Aspiring to achieve outstanding goals, and dreams.
That is the right way to proceed forward, embracing Love, and allowing it to lead you down the path appropriate to a quality life, with whom you really want to be with. What ever the situation is, there's always room for improvement. Making that effort brings positive results back to you.
Are you 50% Angry? 75%? 100%? No matter what, you can resolve it, because it is "all" math. If you eliminate all the emotion for a moment, and boil it down to the bare facts of the entire situation, (which usually ends up being a lot smaller, than originally thought), you have the math, and numbers.
Math has no feeling. It's cut, and dry. The equation of your relationship breaks down to each action/non action and can be deducted to your numbers either way. Writing down the numbers you come up with is a help to install it in your brain. Were you 40% wrong, or 60% right? Did you Scream 75% more than your mate? Are you 80% Honest, and your Mate is 20%? What is your equation?
Cheating can be dealt with by joining a group or society that has an open setting. There are many today. Verses Divorce, and departure of what you have, and would like to keep. It's a matter of money, with the public, and Lawyers.
Everything is money, and you can resolve the issues yourselves. You are perfectly capable of this, and the solution will be much more satisfying than handing everything you own over to a total stranger, who really could care less how you'll be left feeling. They will drive off in their fancy car, with their fatter pockets, and you will be left holding the empty bag. They prey on plight...it's how they make money.
The moral of this hub to explore other options before you jump in bed with the public Court Rooms, Judges, and Lawyers and invite these people of the State you live in...into your life, and control everything you do, and everything you own. It's a form of Cryogenics effect, you are frozen.
When you thaw, reality hits, and you're no longer the same person you were, or thought you would become. You are the altered version, the new you. It's usually not what you would expect, or anticipate. You are officially now part of the Hate sector of life. You've been processed.
Just Another Divorce Case...What's Your Value?
I actually know many very good, honest Lawyers. I work with them every day. It's no secret how I feel about many things presently in place controlling our lives. Many of the Lawyers I work with, also feel the same way I do, about "The System", and about other Lawyers.
The Divorce process is an opportunity for them make fee's off your situation. More often than not, they are huge fee's which basically deplete the future. Your future, and your future history. Major shift in plans, and lives.
One of my plans in the near future is to form a "Marriage Troubleshooting" service. Call it a prep for divorce. The test to see if you can hack the waters. The Brutal education on the horizon of what you think is the answer, based on pure anger, and hate. Will the test of the future be sweet, or bitter?
Many of my close friends are lawyers, some for over 20 years. They know my quest, and zest for life, and are hoping many of things I've presented for many areas of life are implemented. I work with many entities on developing fraud prevention strategies, identity theft, and social security fraud, as well as other types problems.
When you step into the world of Hate, this is what Lawyers do. They cash in on the process, and you pay twice. Once for giving up the relationship, and life, and then second to the attorney. Not to mention any monthly arrangement that will be part of it too.
It's called: The Attorney Employment Act. An insurance of future fees.