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How to get a relationship without argues?

Updated on July 24, 2013

Ask yourself this:

Do you show your partner that you love him or her? Every day? If so, how do you show it? How would you want your partner to show you love?

Do you appreciate and show appreciation when your partner does things for you? If so, what do you say or do?

Do you often tell your partner how you feel about him or her?

Do you expect your partner to understand what you mean or feel without you telling him/her so? If so, how come?

Do you take your partner for granted?

The answer to the questions above is the key

When you answer the questions above, be thoughtful and honest with yourself.

It's how we treat each other every single day that is the most important key in a good relationship. We want to be respected, loved and appreciated. We definitely don't want to feel enoying, in the way, as everything we do set him or her of. And we would never want to be taken for granted by our partners.

If we start to snap and get angry everytime our partner say or do something that we disagree with, it becomes a pattern. It will make small things grow way bigger than they ever was. Why does so many couples make pointless arguments about things they can't even remember afterwods to a routine matter? It will definitely kill the good mood and does no good for your sexlife, that's for sure! Eventually it will probably kill the spark between you as well...

A very common thing among women is the "angry-for-a-reason-I-will-not-tell-you-cause-you-should-know-what-you-did" behavior. What's up with this? Really, how does one expect a partner to understand what you mean if you never tell him or her so? Do you really think he/she would do it over and over again just to piss you off? Many women seem to actually think it is like this. I believe it is becouse we think that it's all obvious, but clearly it's not.

If you ask me, it's always a win, if you just talk to each other. Tell your partner straight up what the issue is and you will spare yourself lots of angry energy, and you will not have the same problem again!

Put youself in the opposite position

What if you where your partner, and you had to put up with you and how you treat him/her. What would you say then? Would you like it? If yes, wonderful! If no, it's time to change your behavior right now! Your energy affects everyone around you, and if you change what you send out your partner will react to it and be calm if you are calm. It's your responsibility to make sure that your partner knows the love and respect you have for him/her. Because, if you don't tell people your feelings, how will they know? You are taking them for granted if you expect them to know these things right away. Every relationship needs tender, love and care. Make sure yours have.

Love your partner, show it, appreciate everything he/she does for you and be grateful for every moment you get to spend with this wonderful person.


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      5 years ago

      I want to appreciate for bringing my boyfriend back to me. I am living with my boyfriend now and we are getting married in 2 month time. I just wanted to thank you for all your help and support. You are wonderful spell caster......Barbara

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      Wayne Brown 

      6 years ago from Texas

      I read somewhere that a successfuly loving relationship would always be a contest between the two participants to determine who could give the most. As long as we position ourself in the relationship to give more than we take, the awareness of the person one loves will be at the forefront. Tit-for-tat, jealousy, etc. eventually erode that perspective and cannot be allowed into the circle. That requirement is always in play for both parties. Great advice and insight! ~WB

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      7 years ago

      Thank you Allen! I do have someone who I'm very pleased to be with myself and I do my very best to show it to him all the time! :)

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      Allen Williams 

      7 years ago from Pennsylvania

      Very good insight jeshon. I have been married almost 30 years and I know it would not have lasted if both of us did not treat the other with kindness and love. If you cannot appreciate your partner, and best friend in life than you won't have much of a life. With your good attitude toward a relationship, you will make someone very please to be with you. Great hub. Keep it up! I voted you up and beautiful.


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