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Are You Dating A Jerk Or Just A Guy With Flaws?

Updated on November 2, 2014

Are you going out on a blind date or are you dating someone? Is there a guy who is making a pass at you? How would you know if you are with a nice guy or if you are with a jerk? Here are a few signs you may want to watch out for. While he may not be your boyfriend yet, it may be important for you to find out if he is a jerk or not.

Here are a few flaws a guy can have. It’s really up to you to decide if you are dating a jerk or a nice guy with a few flaws.

Flaw #1:

He introduces himself as a very successful investor of some sort (i.e., real estate investor or financial investor or any of its kind) or as an executive of his own company. Let’s face it, the title itself is very alluring for the new ‘friend’. Anyone will be fascinated for knowing someone who is very successful and very rich aside from the fact that he has a very glamorous career. While it may be true, how many successful executives are there, anyway? The only way to find out is if you will be able to visit him at his work. If you are forbidden to visit him at his workplace, then something fishy may be going on. If he claims to be someone yet he has nothing to show for it, it may be a sign that he is just inflating his ego. In fact, you may be lucky if he has a job at all.

Flaw #2:

When you talk to each other, how does he talk about the people closest to him? Are everything he says about his parents, siblings, and ex-girlfriends negative? If he talks about other people negatively at all times, then it is most likely that he will have nothing nice to say about you if you ever become a part of his life.

Flaw #3:

He eyes other women. Whenever he sees a beautiful woman, he can’t help but stare at her. Whenever he sees a sexy woman, he can’t help but stare at her body. If he does this behind you, it’s probably still forgivable but if he does this in front of you, it only shows you what kind of a person he is. The question is, are you willing to excuse this kind of behavior from your date.

Flaw #4:

He flirts with the women closest to you. He flirts with your best friend, your closest cousin, or just someone who is closest to you. He compares you to the one he is flirting with. He could hurt you by telling you that she has more qualities he admires in her. Or He could try to boost your ego by telling you that you are much better than her but that is not something you should feel better about either. Whichever way he tries to go, he is going to give you unnecessary stress if you continue to be with him. Imagine having to suspect him with every close girlfriend you may have in the future.

Flaw #5:

He will only date high quality women. What is high quality woman in his book? Well, she probably comes from a very rich family. She probably has a very glamorous job or a high paying job. She dresses glamorously. If she isn’t already famous in society, she at least is at par with society’s elite social circle. If he couldn’t get a woman like that, he might settle for a woman he can be proud of. That’s good news for you if he is the man of your dreams. The only problem is, if that woman is you, you might have difficulty keeping up to his level of expectations. Not only that, you may also have to keep up with how he projects himself in his social circle.

Flaw #6:

He makes sure you know he’s awesome. Yes, he has to tell you about that girl who made a fool of herself because of his awesomeness. He has to show off to you how he flexes his muscles at the gym to make sure you know he is awesome. Of course, if he really is your boyfriend or husband, a behavior like this may be tolerable but if he is just your casual date, I wonder why he shares so much information about himself.

Every guy has his flaws just like every woman has her own weaknesses. The problem is, you may never know if you are dating a jerk or a nice guy with a few flaws. It’s really not easy to find that out. Knowing him better might help you make a more accurate judgment about him. He may manifest some of the signs here one way or another but if he is really a nice guy, I guess, only you can tell. Just remember, a jerk will never treat you right and you will never be happy being with him. A nice guy on the other hand may have his flaws, but he is capable of treating you right. Eventually, you will be much happier with him when both of you become more comfortable with each other’s company.


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    • BeatsMe profile image

      BeatsMe 5 years ago

      Well then, if that's the case, happy "jerking around". Good luck. Hope you're successful at it. :P

    • quicksand profile image

      quicksand 5 years ago

      Well, the problem is, I won't be able to "jerk around" with anyone I forward this to! That's why the second thoughts entered the scene! If would be like putting the disclaimer in bold print and the main story where the disclaimer should have been! Ha! ha! ha! ha! ha! ha!

    • BeatsMe profile image

      BeatsMe 5 years ago

      lol. I don't know but I really would like you to point them to this hub. I could use a little help from friends to increase traffic. ;)

      Sure, discovering it by yourself is cool but reading about it can give a whole new experience. What do you think? :D

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      quicksand 5 years ago

      Great advice for females. I guess I should forward this to all the ladies I know. Would help them a lot!

      Well, on second thoughts I guess I shouldn't. Let them find out all by themselves.

      There's no greater pleasure than making a discovery all by yourself, right?

      What do you think?

      (: ------ smiling ------ :)

    • BeatsMe profile image

      BeatsMe 5 years ago

      Thanks for reading and for giving your thoughts. :)

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      Mellonyy 5 years ago

      You are right saying every guy has his flaws, so if you women can't notice it on the first or second date, then they have to reevaluate what they looking for in a man.