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Best Ways To Stay Positive in Your Life

Updated on March 8, 2013
Your mind, are you in control?
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For many of us life is just a joke. It can be disheartening when we have to face our daily problems, that seem to amount to something and never slows down. We have this mental tunnel effect, and we want so bad to see the light at the other side. People around us might not even understand us, and that makes it worse. Here are some ideas and tips, that might help us to be better and get to go in life as never...thought of before.


You know that person in front of the mirror. You know is hard to deal with the issues and the backlash. Yo can call it perfectionist and critical to death. But you have to take this bull by the horns. For some reason is keeping you and holding you back. You've ever seen how a movie takes momentum and you know is coming, and you know the outcome is going to be good? Well use that strength that is keeping you on hold on your favor.

Write in a piece of paper what are your attributes and qualities. And of course, in another piece of paper write four words that could describe the reasons of being negative. Maybe is a chemical reaction that has been going on since birth, who knows. Perhaps a trauma that keeps haunting you. You write those four reasons and go in the backyard and burn that piece of paper, or throw it far away from you. Take a deep breath and say to yourself, "you are free now. You are completely free!" If you cried, that was good and honest. Some adrenaline was released, and a load was... left behind.


In order to see changes, you have to make your own changes. Paint that corner that you wanted to paint. Get rid of negative memories and feelings. Go to Salvation Army and do some charity, by donating clothes that can help the needy. That gardening in the backyard. Check around. Do you need some seeds from your local Hardware store? Do you want to move the bed around? Do you need to change things around your living room? By doing this you are bringing positive thoughts around yourself: Your mind has been working and every now and then, you will be smiling. That's how the Creator sees us, even though we are like small creatures with just earthly comprehension.



Talking about the House. Did you ever wonder how Adam never got bored, apparently, in Paradise? Well, he was wrestling with Mr. Lion and having a ball with Eve. By ball, we meant to say fun. We don't need to get banned.

Whenever he got bored, he went down the road like 'George of the Jungle,' to check the animals and so on. For this 21st Century, we have so much going on. You figure it yourself and then let us know. Do you like sports? Bowling? Bingo at that Church? Do you jog with a female friend? Do you go to visit a friend and probably cook together? There are so many reasons to get out of the house, or "out of those four walls," like my mom used to say. Forgot to tell you. There are some specials at the Shopping Center after those hectic hours. Or use AEvans cyber stores to get rid of things you do not need anymore:



Whatever your beliefs are, you know you need to be in peace with yourself. The way we were made out of love, makes us ponder about... humm, our own reasons to be here. Our cells were created to do good. You have an alternator and use it in your car. If you want to mess it up, just sprinkle some water on it. The minute we do something wrong, we will feel bad. So, to make this philosophy of life simple, be at peace with the big boss, therefore yourself.

How could you??
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No matter how ready you are to take that daily task, just hold on for a minute and think. The Universe around us is infinite. I give you one example: You are at the red light and you know you are waiting for that green to go. Next to you, by chance, parks this crying woman. You start wondering what's wrong with her, or whatever happened to her. Behind you is this guy who just broke up with his wife and his feet are not really following his mind. You have to think in advance what is going to happen in one second. Just be ready and think in advance. Life is not what we really see from our point of view. That's why guys turn around to see that miniskirt. We are from Mars, and we barely think.

You are in control of your mind now..!
You are in control of your mind now..! | Source


We all go through this. We all have been around failure and the past. We certainly are prone to make mistakes. Can we forgive ourselves for stupid things? Of course we can. You might say, 'yeah, is easy to say it,' and you are right. But you have more tools after spending your five minutes with us.

Negative thoughts are useless. Would you pay 75 dollars for a night gown and never wear it? Would you let an old man die on the street, knowing yourself that... you took CPR last year and certainly are aware of the procedures? Negative thoughts are like the eggs that have got rotten, and you want to keep them in that freezer. Are you smarter than this? I know you are!

Tomorrow is another day... to make it better
Tomorrow is another day... to make it better | Source


Period. The good thing is that we are not in XVI century Europe. Back then there was no control over your life. Medicine was empirical, and you could not survive childbirth if that 'surgeon' didn't wash his hands. We are in this very 2012, and help is just a phone call away...better said, a click away. If the past keeps staying in us, which I suspect happens more than we think, you need to trust in others and get help. Either a physician or a nutritionist should get a visit from you. Probably Menopause is already signing in by the door, and you didn't even think about it. But if that past stays with you, then there is an issue. You'd better get a thorough check up and ultimately take care of yourself. Who else better than you.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Lol! Melovy,

    The cat was there until it ran away in pain. actually he wanted to google the meaning of his screaming, but it was too late!

    Chris Achilleos,

    Sharing and meeting need friends is a phylosophy that can bring rewarding experiences, Thanks my friend for those kuddos!


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    Chris Achilleos 6 years ago

    Very informative hub, Voted up and useful! I'm definitely sharing this :)

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    Yvonne Spence 6 years ago from UK

    Some very good ideas here, and in a way the cat photo says it all. It made me laugh and laughter is a great way to let go of negativity!

    Thanks for the hub.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago


    Thanks for stopping by myn friend. I appreciate your comments. You were so kind in taking your time and check our hub.



    Kelly, you always make me smile. Seems like you are a sweet person. I don't care what Dave tells me... when he feels like nagging about those 18 yrs. Lol!


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    Kelly Umphenour 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

    Lord - why! How did I miss this one? Such a great one - I needed those reminders to wear my blinders! Lol

    Up and awesome just like you!!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 6 years ago from Chennai, India

    Very inspiring and thoughtful hub! It is important to ban negative thoughts and do things that one enjoy in life. Life is short and need to be enjoyed to its fullest. You nailed this 30/30 challenge very well. Keep up the wonderful work. All the best. Way to go!

    Thanks for SHARING. Useful & interesting. Voted up.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    @Hi AudreyHowitt,

    Certainly, being negative brings an unwanted extra load. For some is easier to overcome this state of mind, and for others is not that easy.Thanks!

    @JS Mathews, We win togethere and in my case, I feel good when a friend is doing much better. Is an action reaction felling. Take care JS!


    Nice and positive inspirations you have in here. Thanks for the adding. Hope you are having a nice day!


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    Follow your heart

    to the path of greatness

    that lies within you.

    The secret of life

    is to have something

    to look forward to


    Find a dream that excites you

    and make plans

    of how you are going

    to achieve it.

    Feed your mind daily

    with positive energy

    and words of inspiration.

    Take your life to a higher level.

    Stay focused and go forward

    with your eyes on the prize.

    When you run towards your destination

    with passion in your heart

    you will see your dreams come true.

    © Bernard Levine

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    Look for the beauty

    in everything you see.

    Walk in peace

    showing kindness


    The secrets of success

    are motivation

    and dedication

    Happiness is

    what you make happen

    for yourself.

    Caring is

    going to the ends of the world

    for a stranger.

    Be useful with your life.

    Whatever you are doing

    put your whole

    being into it 100%

    Loving is

    pleasing your loved one everyday

    in a 1000 different ways.

    Control your mind

    you are its master

    Be in control.

    Live your life

    without hurting or


    Believe in yourself.

    Have respect for yourself.

    Walk through life

    always with a song.

    © Bernard Levine

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    JS Matthew 6 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

    This is awesome! I really enjoyed reading this! I have been reading stats and news and research and blah blah blah! This was refreshing and uplifting! I am getting rid of negative thoughts. I needed this Boost! Thank you lord de cross for bringing up my spirit!


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    Audrey Howitt 6 years ago from California

    Well said! So important to have ways to rally our thoughts and emotions! Thank you!

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    You are welcome Ardie. You go girl!!

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    Sondra 6 years ago from Neverland

    This is JUST what I needed to read right this very moment. Thanks Lord ;)

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Good Morning Mary,

    Happy to see you again my friend. This hub was made from our heart, and we think we did our best. Thanks again!

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    Mary Hyatt 6 years ago from Florida

    I really enjoyed reading this Hub, Lord. You put a lot of thought and wisdom into writing this one. Goodnight.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi Pickles&rufus,

    was going to ask you if these are your puppies names or what. If it was a good read for you, then we can take a break after those 30/30, just be careful of those Mac Donalds around SC. Last night I was having the runs for 8 hours, and I blame it on me...Sorry I gotta go!..

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    You are welcome Gypsy Rose,

    This tips come in handy around spring time. There might be the change of weather or more people is out there. Take care my friend.


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi Jamila,

    Is sickening when you get surrounded by negative people. Some might not take this kind of Chemistry for so long, so, this might help a lot of folks.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hello HappyBoommerNurse,

    This is not funny matter. More than 65 million of Americans, have experienced negative thoughts, add recessioning and lack of confidence. The number of suicides have risen since 2007, and there is a connection in all the statistics.


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi GeorgesScifo,

    We try to stay busy in here, and stay out of trouble. Welcome to HP buddy!

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    HI Marcy Goodfleisch,

    Wow! Did we write that? You make us blush! holly! Thanks for your words of appreciation.Have a nice one.


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Oh Boy Barry Rutherford,

    reminds me of Enrico Fermi, I don't know why..!

    Thanks for coming in here and gives us some 'hub-mpany.' I created a word, So HP, I just copywrited the word. Any permission, you have to ask in writing.


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi Tammy,

    We have fun in our lives, and gotta be careful when that fun joke is too dangerous to get us in trouble. The tips are here for grabs. Curiously there was not script and we wrote them by heart.

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    picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

    Thought provoking hub Lord! Really enjoyed reading it and totally agree with what you say. Vote up!!

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    Gypsy Rose Lee 6 years ago from Riga, Latvia

    Voted up and useful! Thanks for the pep talk. Came just in time for my usual spring blahs. Now I'll do as you suggest and think positively.

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    jamila sahar 6 years ago

    thank you for sharing all of these positive ideas, i have had several difficult years and suffered losses, so this hub was particularly meaningful for me. thanks for sharing

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    Gail Sobotkin 6 years ago from South Carolina

    Great hub with useful suggestions. I particularly like your advice for getting rid of old emotional baggage from traumatic events or bad experiences.

    We can't move forward until we release the past.

    Voted up across the board except for funny.

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    georgescifo 6 years ago from India

    really inspirational hub, keep the good work..

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    Marcy Goodfleisch 6 years ago from Planet Earth

    You managed to be practical as well as inspiring and uplifting, all in one hub! I like the solid points you made on what we can do to climb out of negativity and why we need to make that climb. Outstanding piece of writing!

    Voted up, useful, interesting and beautiful.

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    Barry Rutherford 6 years ago from Queensland Australia

    Oh Boy

    Brilliant! Voted up & shared on my networks

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    Tammy 6 years ago from North Carolina

    Well written! It takes a strong mind to avoid negative thoughts and not giving in to a bad mood. I find that exercise helps.. and playing practical jokes on people. Great words from someone who is positive, upbeat, and a fun soul!

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Good Day FennelSeed,

    Inspiration and a heart, are the best antidotes to write on topics that seem to be, at times, far away from us. Glad didn't read the answers to the thread. Thanks for stopping by.


    I came out with some answers, that when I got finishing writing it, I was surprised. Wrting is a way to let things out...and discover too.

    @Hi Kelley Ward,

    Was just kidding about winning or not. But If it wins, will be fine. Always a pleasure to see you around. That time boxing did really help.

    @Debby Brooks, You got me worried sometimes. If medicine is there, then we cannot let it sit. Hope you had a nice sleep. And always thankful for having you around like a bee.Lol!

    @Flora Breen Robison, You got this one right. Bieng sick and not having much sleep, can diminish your mental awareness and productivity. Been there at times, and is not a good scene.

    @Vicky Stephens,

    We are humans and as such we are prone to make mistakes and let our minds overcome our actions. Sometimes if inspiration is not around, you just need to walk away from this screen. Negativism is like politics, you know is around, you know you hate it. But a simple 'no' can stop it from causing you harm. The thing is. The final decision intrinsically depends on your mind, who was all along being decieving. So that's the challenge.


    The cat is fine, after a few stitches, but next time he will know that being stubborn and trying to get your way, even if you know you are getting hurt, has consequences. Being negative sometimes is like a drug too. You know is bad, but you hold its hand and let it take you away.

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    jenubouka 6 years ago

    Wonderful and inspiring! I just loved the picture of the cat, in a metaphorical sense this sums up my way of learning....Voted up and awesome, you inspire me to start the challenge with an incredible array of hubs...

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    Victoria Stephens 6 years ago from London

    Hi lord de cross, Nice write up. I find the thing that keeps me positive the most is looking at other people and saying 'well if they can do it so can I', they are as human as me so why not! x

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    FloraBreenRobison 6 years ago

    I find it easier to stay positive when I've gotten adequate rest and am not sick.

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    Deborah Brooks Langford 6 years ago from Brownsville,TX

    wow I was getting ready to go to bed and I saw this.. I am so glad I read it. You made me think what do I want out of life especially when i look in the mirror.. I want to be able to sleep at night.. thank you .. I don't want to be negative.. this helps me see that.

    good nite for sure. I voted way up my friend and I hope you win the $50.00 too.,

    Be blessed


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    kelleyward 6 years ago

    Great hub Lord always willing to read what you write. Thanks for sharing! Hope you win!

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    Joshua Pine 6 years ago from San Francisco

    Great article! Thumbs up! I totally agree with moving furniture around and "shaking up the house" so to speak. My girlfriend and I did that last week and the energy is renewed.

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    Annie Fenn 6 years ago from Australia

    I like the tone in this hub and you use examples that really push your point like - "Negative thoughts are like the eggs that have got rotten, and you want to keep them in that freezer. Are you smarter than this?"

    I like this heaps and am bookmarking it to come back to. Thank you and good luck with the challenge.

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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Good to see you Tarajeyaram,

    Geez had to cheat, just to spell your nick right. Jokes aside, this was a solely inspiration that was haunting us since last night. We said, okay! You can leave me alone now inspiration! I will write about this topic okay? Then, the other problem..the pics!!! meouww!

    I was reseaerching for the pics for about 2 hours. I was getting sick...but eventually pushed the publish button.


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Hi there Curiad,

    Nice picture you have my friend. I see a great guy behind those glasses. You have shown courtesy toward my persona, and that is a lot for me. Take care amigo!


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    Joseph De Cross 6 years ago

    Oh My goodness I went for a sandwich and came back to see ladies complaining about this new feature. I never said Catty. okay?

    Thanks! Victoria! We think we can win on this. I'm very positive after reading my own hub! Lol! Thanks for your words and I hope to see you around for a long time Vicky! So many respectable ladies and gentlemen that make our days. We don't even worry much about the money. This is a fun ride. Thanks Vicky!


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    tarajeyaram 6 years ago from Wonderland

    Wonderful hub. Voted up and awesome.

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    Victoria Lynn 6 years ago from Arkansas, USA

    Thanks, Curiad! I hope so, too!

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    Mark G Weller 6 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

    Great Job Lord and good question Vicki! I hope you both win!

    Voted Up!

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    Victoria Lynn 6 years ago from Arkansas, USA

    Lord--I HOPE you win the $50, because that means I will win $10! I have received so many great answers on this question I asked but you are the first to write a hub about it. Good for you! I loved it! I like how you compared negative thoughts to rotten eggs. They are useless and ridiculous, right? I have been taking a look at things in my life. Circumstances have changed, and my emotions have been up and down. I am taking charge of my surroundings, as i'm home more, and taking care of doing things around my house that I've wanted to do for a long time. I think I'm getting myself together. Thanks for writing this hub Going to bookmark to remind myself later. Voted up and all the way across of course, and Sharing with others! Thanks, my Lord!