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Single Motherhood and Dating PART 2:Casual Dating With Serious Intent
Part 2 in Single Motherhood and Dating
I am casual dating with serious intent at this moment. The definition of this is I’m not really looking for a serious relationship….but I’m not totally closed to the idea either. It is really in the guy’s ballpark if he wants something serious with me. I know I am ready for it; it is now to the guy is he ready too? Men are such sensitive beasts and I have totally given up trying to figure them out. I have become self assured now and of course how can I not be I am older now and a bit wiser. Still in this dating world we seem to play this game….this little flirting dance. I have decided none of that for me anymore for I am a self assured woman now and I know what I want. No more pussy footing around and giggling like a teen wondering if a guy likes me or not. I know what I like and I know he likes me too so lets get it on! Well… not get it on like that, but you know go on a date get to know each other. We woman are powerful only if we allow ourselves to be, plus there are hints and signs just don’t be so oblivious and wrapped up in ourselves that we do not notice them.
Different Guy Every Night You Hussy!
Ok so this is a little dramatized here because being a single mom you are not going to have a date every night, but you get the point. My casual dating with serious intent has kind of tugged at my good girl morals.
Do I seem like a hussy? I mean it is just one date so it does not mean I am currently in a relationship with this person.
If I do get asked out again by a different person is it okay to? Even if I went out with someone else like two weeks ago?
Does this make me less respected?
These are the thoughts going through my heard and this may well be what others are thinking too. After long talk with me and my faith I came to the conclusion of everything is fine. There may be others that maybe a bit uptight on the idea. An example is family; I even got a sex talk from my older sister to use condoms. I was horrified in that she would think I would have sex when I just met the guy. I JUST MET THE GUY!!!!! I know it’s been a long time since I have done that…still I think I can keep my 35 year old hormones in check.
Jump On In
In conclusion nothing in life is easy if it is you better double check and make sure it’s honest and legal. Dating is a chore to begin with, being a single mom and getting back out there is even tougher. It can be done though and we just have to jump back in. My faith taught me that life is about failing and learning from that failure to make ourselves a better person. We are not perfect and we are going to fail its plain and simple and something we have to accept. That does not mean it’s the end of the world. A lesson is taught in every failure, especially in love.