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Dating 101 for Men
Author: W. K. Hayes
Dating 101 for Men
Today is a great day to meet that special someone but meeting that someone takes three things: Calm, Confidence, and Casual or, the three C’s to getting it right. You really want to talk to her but avoid making her nervous at all costs. Make a girl nervous by staring at her while, trying to muster the courage to approach her and you will fail most of the time, if not, always.
Calm: Notice her, quickly come up with a way to stand, or be, near her. The best way to approach a woman is indirectly. Walking up to, a woman at high speed will make her nervous and she will quickly move away before you can even say, “hi.” Instead, notice something around her to help you. For example, you happen to run into this dream girl at a grocery store. Notice which direction she is going towards in the aisle and get ahead of her. Grab a can of whatever and look them over until she gets close…then ask her, which one she thinks, is better. Most women spoken with feel that men do not care what they think or how they feel which, unfortunately is very true and downright silly. A woman’s intuition and intelligence are to be, admired and asking her opinion is the best way to let her know you care about what she thinks. Fact is, she might look at you with a weird expression at first, but this is certain start things off on the right foot.
Confidence: Build her confidence more by asking why she likes the one over the other, if she has not already offered an explanation. Tell her you are trying to cook a nice dinner for yourself and ask her if she has any advice. Doing so will give her confidence in herself that a complete stranger not only wants her opinion but now he wants her advice.
Casual: Once you’ve learned her tips for making a great dish, tell her you’d love her help again with more recipes and ask her if you could trade numbers. At this point, many of you might be shaking your heads and thinking, “Why not ask her out?” The answer is simple…if a man is straight-forward about asking a girl out on a first encounter, the girl will instantly know he is after sex and that will make her defensive. Remember the number one rule: avoid making her nervous.
I hope that you took the time to read this. Although the scenario probably will not be the same, the important part is that you got a better feel for how you should treat a woman and the best way to approach a woman.