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Dating the Guy Who is Inconsistent

Updated on April 18, 2016

It is a wonderful feeling when the guy you always like finally asks you out. Things are usually great at the beginning. Then as time goes on people usually begin to see each other's true colors. What happens when someone's true colors are full of inconsistency?

It could be very frustrating dating the guy who is always inconsistent. He never calls when he says he will. When you do talk he leaves you hanging during a conversation. He always cancels plans on you and you feel that you could never count on him. What could even be worse at times is that he does not even know what he wants out of the relationship. One minute he wants to be with you and the next he feels that you are not a good match for each other. He treats your heart as if it is a boomerang.

One minute your so happy in the relationship asking yourself how you got so lucky to find a guy like this. He puts you on a pedestal and when you compare him to your past relationships you know no guy treated you this good before. The next minute he calls it quits out of the blue and you are in tears. It's not like you were even fighting or you did anything to hurt him. He just does not know what he wants and he is hurting you in the process.

Dating the guy who is always inconsistent could be a roller coaster. When it is good it is great. You are in love and you are smiling all the time. When it is bad you are crying all the time and all you want to do is get things back on track. Then you have times when you are scared that the conversation is going to come up and he is going to change his mind about you and him becoming a couple again.

Throughout most of your time with him you have feelings of doubt and the fact that you can't trust him. When another girl enters the picture you are scared and insecure that you are going to lose him to her. After all most of the time you are unsure how he really feels about you. He says he cares and his friends tell you he does. He has been there for you through thick and thin. Yet he won't call you, spend time with you or even commit to you. One minute he says it is going to happen and the next he says "We're from different worlds."

You are always jumping to conclusions with a guy like this because he is not open with how he really feels about you. You are unsure of his motives and you are always the one who is willing to do anything to make it work. Yes he was the one who originally asked you out and wanted to spend Valentine's Day with you but after that things became one big roller coaster. He was never the type of guy who would call you every night to see how you are doing. He comes around unexpectedly and always leaves you feeling disappointed.

People tell you to move on but you love him so you can't. You think of all his good qualities and all of the reasons to hold on. All of his good qualities make you wonder if you will ever find anyone that good because in the past you have always had guys who treated you really bad.

You keep putting up with his inconsistency. You keep crying and you keep on getting disappointed. You feel that you can't talk to people about it because they just don't understand how you feel or what you are going through. After all you love this guy and all you want is to be with him.

Dating the guy who is inconsistent is full of; disappointment, frustration and heartbreak. You are going to need a lot of patience and understanding to make it work. You are going to have to have faith that one day you will be together because anything can happen. Just because something is not happening now does not mean it cannot happen in the future. Someone can be inconsistent now but later on things could get better. So live your life and if it is meant to be the both of you will be together.


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