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5 Things Women Shouldn't Say On a Date
Ladies, some of us talk too damned much. We tell Mr. Maybe things he doesn’t need to know until he becomes Mr. Probably. Maybe it’s genetic, I dunno. But whatever it is, it’s something that needs to be controlled during a first date. I know, I know. It’s hard to keep track of everything once the butterflies start moving and the wine starts flowing. But if you want to see Mr. Maybe a second time, you need to avoid the following conversation blunders.
My Biological Clock is Ticking.
Even is this guy is Mr. Right, he doesn’t want to hear this on a first date. And there are 2 major reasons you shouldn’t let him. One, it makes you sound desperate to have a baby. Two, it makes you sound desperate to have a child with any man who’ll have you. Neither is going to work in your favor – store this conversation for Mr. Probably.
My ex is a raging psycho who wants to kill me.
Even if this is true, don’t share this on the first date. Mr. Maybe might turn out to be the knight who slays your dragon, but that’s too much information for him to process on a first date. He might be willing to champion you after he has time to fall in love with you – but no one in their right mind is going to toss themselves into soap opera like that for a stranger.
How much money do you make?
I’d like to think I don’t need to explain this one, but I actually know women who’ve asked this on a first date. Let me put it simply – ask him about his salary and he will label you a gold digger. And it will be very hard to get that notion out his head once it’s in there. Besides, it’s just rude to ask!
How many sexual partners have you had?
This question sometimes comes up during the course of flirtation. Men tend to not ask this one, because they rarely like the answer, no matter what it is. But I’ve known a number of women who felt compelled to ask in hopes of determining whether or not the man was relationship-minded or just a male slut. Ladies, don’t ask this question! You will probably make your date uncomfortable, and it’s unlikely you will like the answer, anyway!
I’m great in bed.
Even if this is true, keep it to yourself. Why? Because, if Mr. Maybe knows he doesn’t want to date you, he’ll probably still try to get into your pants if you claim something like that. If that’s what you want, go for it – but realize he probably won’t be calling you the next day. If you’re not in the market for a one-night-stand, save this information for a future date.
There are other things we shouldn’t say, as well, but these are the ones I hear abused most often. Don’t add yourself to the long list of women who regret having said these things! If you need ideas for good dating conversation, see my next article.