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Dealing With Jealousy

Updated on April 5, 2011
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Jealousy is a natural part of an intimate relationship, work relationships, friendships, even in the family and in any human interaction.

It is not a pleasurable emotion and it often leaves the person feeling it with emotional and physical stress.

The feeling of jealousy cuts communication in a relationship. It kills self esteem and elevates feelings of insecurity. Jealousy gives no room for freedom and fun in a relationship and it does not make room for new things to be learnt.

Dealing with Jealousy is very challenging and it takes effort and counseling to overcome it.

I have put together five tips that can help you overcome Jealousy.

  • Understand that you are jealous: confess to your partner about how you feel when you see them with others. Making them understand how you feel can make them control how far they go with others.
  • Know why you are jealous: understand your feeling. Accept it that you are mad at the sight of your partner in the company of others. Know your beliefs and what gets on your nerves.
  • Overcome your thoughts and feelings:distinguish between the truth and your feelings. Let the truth stand, do not allow your feelings overshadow the truth.
  • Avoid situations that trigger your actions: If you can, stay away from places that you know your partner likes to visit and what they are likely to do when they get there. Bear in mind freedom is one of the basic elements that sustains relationship.
  • Trust: Trust your partner. "People who choose to trust tend to be happier, better liked by others, and more ethical than less trusting people." Joy Cagil
  • Communication:Talk with your partner about how you feel. Let them know what you would have them do to make you happy.
  • Remind yourself of those positive qualities your partner has. Fill yourself with positive thoughts about your partner.

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    • youmeget profile imageAUTHOR

      youmeget 

      8 years ago

      Thanks for stopping by.

    • ladyfountain1 profile image

      ladyfountain1 

      8 years ago

      I agree. Communication and trust are two imperative components in any relationship. Great hub.

    • Anjili profile image

      Anjili 

      9 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

      Good advice. The spiritually inclined often try to cast out the spirit of jealousy. Keep up with it

    • Neil Sperling profile image

      Neil Sperling 

      9 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      good hub - communication is key... and ownership of another is a major problem for the insecure. love this quote you used "People who choose to trust tend to be happier, better liked by others, and more ethical than less trusting people."

    • Mr. Smith profile image

      Mr. Smith 

      9 years ago from Indiana

      Great plan!

    • dallaswriter profile image

      dallaswriter 

      9 years ago from North Carolina

      Great hub!!

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      Wooded 

      9 years ago

      Distinguishing between the truth and your feelings is always tough but oh so important. Nice hub!

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      Cathy Nerujen 

      9 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      The trick is to talk to your partner and communicate. Reassurance goes a long way in a relationship. Great hub. Thank you.

    • Genna East profile image

      Genna East 

      9 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Self-awareness and honesty are not only importnat, they are very freeing. Great hub!

    • Dexter Yarbrough profile image

      Dexter Yarbrough 

      9 years ago from United States

      Communication is certainly key to overcoming jealousy. I am sure you are a wonderful woman as your writing suggests. Great information!

    • acaetnna profile image

      acaetnna 

      9 years ago from Guildford

      I totally agree, especially about the person who cannot trust their partner. That is where, in my opinion, the problem stems from. Actually I wrote a poem about jealousy. The mistress was jealous of her man's wife!

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