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Dealing With People Who Are Mean on Purpose

Updated on September 23, 2020

How to deal with mean People

As awful as it may seem, I used to be a mean person. I used to be a bully when I was in high school, I was the "bad girl" and people were afraid of me. The best way to deal with mean people, believe it or not is to stand up for yourself and tell them off. Sometimes it's just what a bully needs, somebody to tell them that what they're doing is affecting people in a negative way.

Everything you've heard about bullies are true, they do have underlying issues within themselves and they try to cover it up by acting mean to people. Mean people often think they are inferior as compared to others that's why they act all tough and mean, because they are compensating for the fact that they feel irrelevant and insecure.

Don't make yourself a target. Stand up for yourself when the need arises and don't back down when you know that you are right. Show these mean people that you are not someone to mess with, without compromising your integrity and without resorting to violence. You don't have to be a bully to beat a bully. Try talking to the person who is being mean to you. In private of course. Tell them how you feel about them, just be honest, but mind your words and choose them carefully. Offer to be their friend.

If all else fails, giving them a dose of their own medicine will work just fine. I don't mean get revenge, just let them feel how you feel when they make you the target of ridicule. Don't think about it as stooping down to their level, that's just what wimpy people think. Think of it as standing up for yourself and doing what is right. Let's be realistic, the more you ignore a bully the more they will push you around. Think about it, you can ignore them all you want, it won't stop them from picking on you. It's your choice, you can either let them push you around, thinking about how better you are as a person as compared to them, while they're having fun torturing you; Or you can do something about it.


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    • Ahydz profile image


      9 years ago from Philippines

      When mean people gets on my nerve, i make it a point to avoid playing their games as it will just satisfy them.

      When you don't play by the rules of the game they created, they will feel defeated. If i can ignore them, i would, and if i can't hold back my temper any longer, reverse psychology is what i do. Just like a mirror, i let them see the ugly side of them. As much as possible, I invest in good Karma. Those who plots the destruction of others will perish in the attempt. @_@

      Great hub! Voted up!

    • Jangaplanet profile image

      A James Di Rodi 

      9 years ago

      There are people in the world who bear ill will to almost everyone. But we can't make our own life miserable by trying to please them all. When people treat me unfairly, I'v learned to just let it go. Some people simply lack the empathy to recognize they're doing anything wrong. For them it's simply an ego problem.

      I enjoyed reading your hub thanks for sharing :)

    • profile image


      9 years ago

      I have been bullies at work ,everydays i have to face those bloke, and i can't get riff of them.especially

      I'm a only who was working there.

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      10 years ago

      im in college nw and im being bullied nw at this stage wen v r all grownups..and the worse part is its a group of 8 girls and im all alone nobody will help me,i really wana leave dis plc but i cnt,wat shud i do?im really depressed and they wnt care if i tell them tht

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      10 years ago

      dont even give the satisfaction of crying to a bully, just be a man ignore them and be on top, because if you do that they will soon realise that it dosent work on you and they;ll lay off

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      12 years ago

      If they are out to get you and you are a victim, maybe nothing you can do can change it, and you could check out mobbing and gangstalking on the Internet and see who is in on the bullying, you might be surprised. If you are one of their targets they will continue to harass you, even tell your neighbors lies about you and get them in on it. The cops and firemen do some of the bullying.

    • ane fallarme profile imageAUTHOR


      12 years ago from Baguio City, Philippines

      maybe they aren't aware that they are hurting someone, if so make sure to let them know...

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      12 years ago

      what do you do when the bully doesnt care who thy hurt.

    • Lifebydesign profile image


      12 years ago from Australia

      good hub- and so honest!

    • marisuewrites profile image


      12 years ago from USA

      wow!  This is really good advice.  I've known some grown up bullies who need to be told a few things!!  They were allowed to get by with it for many years probably.

      My two most irritating types of bullies:  One who pushes kids around; An adult executive who uses money and power to make others feel power"less." 

      Thanks for the insight!  I'm glad you're cured - =)  You chose to change and it's all good.

    • trish1048 profile image


      12 years ago


      Excellent advice, and well written.

      My mom was born with a speech defect, and was teased all throughout school, so bad that it forced her to quit school in the 10th grade.  I can only imagine how painful her childhood must have been.  Children, because of sheer ignorance, can be extremely cruel.

      It's nice to hear you overcame whatever caused you to be the 'bad girl', and that you can now be a positive influence for so many.  Be proud, and thanks for sharing,

      Welcome to hubpages,



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