Dealing With People Who Are Mean on Purpose
How to deal with mean People
As awful as it may seem, I used to be a mean person. I used to be a bully when I was in high school, I was the "bad girl" and people were afraid of me. The best way to deal with mean people, believe it or not is to stand up for yourself and tell them off. Sometimes it's just what a bully needs, somebody to tell them that what they're doing is affecting people in a negative way.
Everything you've heard about bullies are true, they do have underlying issues within themselves and they try to cover it up by acting mean to people. Mean people often think they are inferior as compared to others that's why they act all tough and mean, because they are compensating for the fact that they feel irrelevant and insecure.
Don't make yourself a target. Stand up for yourself when the need arises and don't back down when you know that you are right. Show these mean people that you are not someone to mess with, without compromising your integrity and without resorting to violence. You don't have to be a bully to beat a bully. Try talking to the person who is being mean to you. In private of course. Tell them how you feel about them, just be honest, but mind your words and choose them carefully. Offer to be their friend.
If all else fails, giving them a dose of their own medicine will work just fine. I don't mean get revenge, just let them feel how you feel when they make you the target of ridicule. Don't think about it as stooping down to their level, that's just what wimpy people think. Think of it as standing up for yourself and doing what is right. Let's be realistic, the more you ignore a bully the more they will push you around. Think about it, you can ignore them all you want, it won't stop them from picking on you. It's your choice, you can either let them push you around, thinking about how better you are as a person as compared to them, while they're having fun torturing you; Or you can do something about it.