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Do You Know Where Your First Love Is?
Gurl, Let's Talk!
I'm back to talk about your "first love!" Wow, for some of us that might have been a long, long, time and for others just a little while ago. However long it's been, your first love conjures up powerful and memorable feelings.
No matter how many times one "falls" in love, there will never be a "first" love. The newness, excitement, and exploring is unmatched by its wandering into the winding road of a love journey.
First loves endure a lifetime. The years don''t seem to diminish its impact on the heart, mind, and soul.
I remember having a crush on a boy in Junior High School. He never acted on it but it was my first peak of interest in the opposite sex. Crushes still come in second to your "first love" experience. The knots you get in your stomach when you're about to meet him/her. The sweaty palms expose your anxiety before your rendezvous. God forbid, you reach your destination prior to them getting there. You start eye-jogging through the crowd not resting until you capture a glimpse of the one your heart beats for!
Your "first love" encounter usually happens in your early teens into adulthood and is what makes "first loves" unforgettable. This a time of your life when your starting to come into your own. Looking to become an adult and "do" adult things. Learning to be independent from well-meaning but overbearing parents. It is your first "real" emotional attachment to someone other than your parents or caretakers. The emotions and memories tied to this experience are both vivid and long lasting, whether your relationship ended good or bad. To be 16 again!
I met my "first love" one night at church. Never met him before in my life. To say that it was love at first sight would be stretching it but there was this undeniable connection. We exchanged numbers, starting talking, and became a couple.
He went off to the service when he came of age and I simply thought I was going to die! LOL! Omigosh! I was a hot mess for a bit! Waited for every phone call, monitored the mailed, and treasured every momento that he had given me.
He returned from service, we were married, and had a son together. People were astounded by our closeness, connection, and love for one another. It was funny, he knew I was pregnant before I did. I'll never forget, he got up the day I gave birth to our son, called the doctor at 5:00 a.m. asking him why I wasn't in the hospital (I was past my due date). The doctor ordered me to the hospital, after being berated by my husband. Upon arrival, the nurse hooked me up to the monitors and said that I was in labor and our son was born at 1:01 p.m.. Didn't feel a thing! I have always been amazed by him knowing something was about to happen
He later died when our son was 17 but I met my second husband and and was blessed again with an overwhelming connection! I'm so thankful! I guess that's why I wouldn't try it again! LOL!
First Loves, Do They Last?
Because this is your first romantic experience it often will not endure into your maturing years. There are couples that fell in love, went through high school, into college, and married.
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end." -- Benjamin Disraeli
The odds are against first loves enduring the test of times. In most cases, these relationships end in an dramatic or heart-wrenching way. It seems, however, that young women have more of a difficult time when the relationship ends then their counterparts. Reason being that we women are emotional beings while our counterparts are cads...excuse me logical beings.
You can find young women moping around for weeks and needing emotional support of parents and girlfriends. Not saying that the young men in these situations don't feel the sting of the break-up, but they seem to be able to move on and get over it quicker.
"We always believe our first love is our last, and our last, and our last love is our first." -- Author Unknown
What Makes You Go Back?
I am always amazed how many people, even married!, think about that first love, that special person, the one that may have gotten away!
I find that when people have lost their present mate or are going through a tough patch with the partner that they presently have. Perhaps it simply wondering about what it "could have been."
There are even couples who have love, lost, married, divorce, or have loss their spouse and reconnect years after they first met!
Okay, send me a line or comment about your "first love." Whether it be good, bad, or indifferent. Unitl next time...Let's talk!