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Domestic Violent Behavior

Updated on August 27, 2012

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in a relationship such as marriage,friends,dating and family. Domestic violence is a serious and preventable public health problem that affects more than 32 million Americans and only about a third of Domestic violence cases are reported in the United States. Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of sex,religion,age or gender, and it can take many forms such as physical abuse,sexual,emotional,economic,and psychological abuse.

All forms of Domestic abuse have one purpose and that's to gain and maintain control over there victim. Abuser's use many ways to power over there partner or spouse by dominance,isolation,humiliation,intimidation,threats or denial and blame.

Physical Abuse

Physical Abuse is involving contact to cause feelings of pain,intimidation or injury. Any physical suffering or bodily harm such as slapping,hitting,choking,punching,pushing,or any form of contact that brings bodily harm to one.

Physical Abuse is also bringing injury to children,pets in order to cause Psychological harm to the victim. Also depriving the victim of sleep or any function's necessary to survive or denying them the right to seek medical treatment are all forms of abuse.

Bruises,broken bones,lacerations,head injuries and internal bleeding are effects of Domestic Violence and need medical attention. Health issue's that been linked to Domestic Violence are chronic pain,irritable bowel syndrome,arthritis,pelvic pain,migraine's and ulcers.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse is when a person is being forced to obtain participation in unwanted sexual activity even if it's by a spouse or intimate partner with whom consensual sex has occurred. Forced sex is an act of aggression and violence.

Emotional And Verbal Abuse

Emotional,mental and Psychological abuse include humiliating the victim privately or publicly. Controlling what a person can and cannot do. Doing something purposely to make the victim feel embarrassed or diminished, keeping the victim from family and friends. Blackmailing the victim by harming others when the victim express happiness or independence.

Verbal abuse is abusive behavior involving the use of vulgar language. The abuser may ridicule,criticize,manipulate words,falsely accuse,humiliate,threaten,place blame of the abuse on others.

Emotional and Verbal Abuse are behaviors that threaten,intimidate or undermines the victims self esteem, or self worth. Verbal threats are an abuser telling the victim if they leave they will kill them or there family. The abuser likes to name call and making statements that bring down the the victims self esteem making them feel use less or at fault for the abuse. The reason abusers cut off contact from family and friends is so the victim has no resources to leave. people who are emotionally abused feel like they don't own themselves and that there partner has total control over them and everything they do. Women and Men that are emotionally abused often suffer from depression which leads to eating disorders, suicide and drugs or alcohol abuse.

Economic Abuse

Economic Abuse is when the abuser has control over the victims money. The abuser witholds money or puts the victim on a strict allowance. Making the victim beg for there money. Preventing the victim from employment,misusing or holding communal resources. Making the victims resources sparse so they cannot leave.

Psychiatric Disorders

Psychiatric Disorders are some times associated with Domestic Violence such as Bipolar Disorder,schizophrenia,drugs and alcohol abuse. In the past untreated ADHD and conduct disorders in childhood was associated with Domestic Violence in adulthood.

Will There Be An End To Domestic Violence

There will probably never be a complete end to Domestic Violence. It will always Exist but the percentage of Domestic Violence has dropped dramatically since the 1970's and can continue to drop if it's reported by men and women, according to statistics women report domestic violence more then men do. If men also report the violence the percentage would drop even more because not only are women abused but men are as well.


Remember Once An Abuser Always an abuser.. If your in a relationship that's abusive then you need to get out of it as soon as possible. Even though the abuser may be apologetic and may make you feel bad the violence will continue regardless. Don't ever feel your alone and that you can't make it on your own because you can!!!! You only feel that way because your abuser killed your self esteem to make you feel what you are feeling, there is help out there for you..


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    • GlstngRosePetals profile image

      GlstngRosePetals 7 years ago from Wouldn't You Like To Know

      Pamela99: Thankyou and I agree it is still a big probleme in our society. Thanks for the vote up.

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      This is a very well-written article about domestic violence which is still a huge problem in our society. I fully agree with you that if you live with an abuser get away from them and don't look back. Promises are always made but abusers don't stop regardless of what they tell you. Voted/rated up.

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      Rhonda Musch 7 years ago from The Emerald Coast

      Children learn by sight. If they see their parents abused they will most likely be abuser themselves. Are they will with draw from society. I have seen it first hand with other children. The abuse can and will be never ending. Until a stop is put to it. Very useful hub. Keep up the good work writing interesting hubs.

      Sweet wishes Rhonda

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      GlstngRosePetals 7 years ago from Wouldn't You Like To Know

      Lester Lachappelle: Thank you for your comment and I'm really glad you enjoy my hubs and I agree with you I feel to put a stop to this vicious cycle we need to start with our children while they are young.

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      LESTER LACHAPPELLE 7 years ago

      GlstngRosePetals Very true, domestic violence should not be done by anyone. I think we all forget who it really hurts, our children. It affects all social classes regardless of being rich or poor. That is another cycle that needs to be broken because our children learn to become the abusers. I love reading your hubs... : )