Ending a relationship with a negative person

I really don't like to end friendships, but they do end when they are no longer positive or I let them die. I have known a number of "friends" that had to be let go. I love them still, but they don't seem to love me!

Great points to make, Marlo - I actually have 2 very negative parents coming for a visit...I shall have to retalk myself into doing these things! I love them but they can be so negative. Timely advice!!!

Boy, this is a real trick situation. Thanks for the tips on breaking off a negative relationship. Voted up, useful!

Hey MarloByDesign,

Really nice hub, well written hub!

This can be an upsetting situation, though you're right! You can't always let people put you on the negative side. I voted this hub - useful! Thank you for your vote Mario!

wow, these are some excellent tips! There's only so much negativity that we all can take, and sometimes we do need to end relationships. Great hub.

I have a friend who is almost more like a relative to my family. She is a nice person, but talking to her drives me crazy. It is my own fault because I was in the habit of calling her every day. Sometimes, I would slip and say what I was thinking which never, ever made her happier and only made me uncomfortable. I now limit our conversations. I know she wonders why but this way I still have a relationship that I value and my sanity as well.

Great article about how to deal with negativity. I have known a few in my life and they get old quick! Just walk away and keep walking. Voted Up!

"Walk away from the negative person and take a relaxing walk, even a short one."

I have done this before and it works wonders! Just try not to ruminate on the negative interactions while you are doing it!

Excellent strategies for dealing with the negative people in your life. It is hard enough dealing with the general negativity in the world without having to cope with close friends. They certainly can bring you down.

I so agree with you and I felt guilty before and have some relapse sometimes but since I learned about life, love, and positivity, vibrations and faith...there is no reason that I would let anything or anybody stop or slow me on my journey. I do realize that I used to be one of those toxic friend in the past, at the time of the great darkness. LOL SO, I dealt with a number of people and situation last week... close and demanding. Some I had to avoid because too aggressive but for the most, I let them talk and try to give them a positive outlook and help them realize that they need to take responsibility in the situations so they can really change their lives and be happy. Thanks for the hub, I will definitely pick up some tips. It is always cool to read somebody else who sees things and understands the many layers of our universe. Life is wonderful, let us be able to see, enjoy it and share it.

Love and peace upon all.

I look forward for more articles like that. :-)))

Marlo,

So true. I have recently allowed a family member to break off our relationship. Does it hurt, yes but is it better for me in the long run. The bottom line, is that sometimes if you love someone you need to let them find themselves on their own. And to see what effects their negativity has not only on themselves but others as well. Thank you for your hub you made me feel better about my decision.

Fantastic! I've really come to realize the power of positive attitude over the last few years. Love this article!

Thanks for your anwser friend, I actually was absent because overwhelmed what the big N again: too much work and not enough time to meditate relax and organize the best way. Now, I optimize and move on. Shifting is the best thing that happened to me since.... birth!!! my senses report to me differently when I remain aware... live is so precious. being able to appreciate it is just wonderful...and make the best of it too!

My negative relationship was actually with my significant other. It became overbearing. Very quick to get riled up, over reactions. It's hard to give up what started as a nice relationship. Those true colors cannot be denied and walking on egg shells gets tiring. Besides, it seems that he did not recognize his behaviors and felt like the victim. Frustrating. Thanks for this hub. It is inspiring and gave me some very useful tips:)

I totally relate to your hub. I did end a friendship because this person constantly was bringing me down with their negativism. It was so draining and there was never a positive comment. Ugh!

Dwelling in the positive because life is too short...

Yep, I am going through some quiet time and have decided. I have been overwhelmed by vampires and I really can't take it no more... I need my me time, my kids time, my couple time...and to enjopy myself, appreciate life... and let the vampires go. Frankly, sicking for hours on phone and then, I am tired, down and unproductive.

I am refreshing and I am definitely encouraging people to take some time out...silence is so healing sometimes. Love to you all.NiaLee

My healing really took off when I began to look for more positive relationships and either ending or decreasing contact with negative or toxic people. Although it's great to step away from positive people because they affect you in a negative way, the opposite works as well. if you remain positive around these same people and not let them command the relationship, you can help them become more positive.

A smile and laugh goes a long way.

Oh... I think is right .. I used to have a negative friend, It was very unhappy. I remember that one day leave her alone and go for walk with another friend, Just only per day , She was angry me , And she said If she were me, She wouldn`t do like that , hmmm.. what should I do.

It's true it's better to be alone than be with people who bring you down.

Great article. I am actually planning to write a new Hub on this very subject, about a friend I had to let go because it got so toxic, and the toxicity came out of the blue!

I realized that negativity happens from time to time and from person to person, especially those who are introverted!

Also there is a ripple effect henceforth be sure to consider carefully whether you should end the r/s if you have been real good and mutual friends for a long time!

Reason is that sometimes your good friend can feel down and out due to having subconsciously received negative words/discouragements from other people (either family or friends or working colleagues) or happen to be unwell and spilled over to you... remember to be gracious as you can also be in that same spot... when one is down, the other should lift him/her up... that is what friends are for...

Unless you do recognized that you are in a toxic r/s because the person is always critical and abusive thus causing you to feel downcast most of the time! Then i say call it quits for health reasons and for the sake of your well-being!

Some useful tips, and yes, negativity definitely affects us. Peace.

Great advice. If it's not a temporary phase they are going through, it's important to examine what you're getting out of the relationship. Bad moods and 'tudes can contaminate others. It's a little trickier when the Negative Nellie is a close relative, but you still need to concentrate on your own health.