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Faces of Domestic Violence - Pt. 2

Updated on July 18, 2011
Changes: You and Me
Changes: You and Me

Familiar Faces that Has Overcame Domestic Abuse and So Can You...

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Pamela Anderson - Survivor of Physical AbuseHalle Berry - Survivor of Physical and Verbal AbuseAnne Heche - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a ChildWhitney Houston - Survivor of Emotional and Verbal AbuseMacKenzie Phillips - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a ChildMariah Carey - Survivor of Emotional AbuseRihanna - Survivor of Physical AbuseRobin Givens - Spokeperson for NDV Hotline - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Pamela Anderson - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Pamela Anderson - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Halle Berry - Survivor of Physical and Verbal Abuse
Halle Berry - Survivor of Physical and Verbal Abuse
Anne Heche - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a Child
Anne Heche - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a Child
Whitney Houston - Survivor of Emotional and Verbal Abuse
Whitney Houston - Survivor of Emotional and Verbal Abuse
MacKenzie Phillips - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a Child
MacKenzie Phillips - Survivor of Sexual Abuse as a Child
Mariah Carey - Survivor of Emotional Abuse
Mariah Carey - Survivor of Emotional Abuse
Rihanna - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Rihanna - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Robin Givens - Spokeperson for NDV Hotline - Survivor of Physical Abuse
Robin Givens - Spokeperson for NDV Hotline - Survivor of Physical Abuse

Intro

If you came to Faces of Domestic Violence - Pt 2 for the rest of Sara and Eli's story, I hope you will not be disappointed, but I decided to tell parts of my story instead. Sara and Eli went through quiet a few changes throughout the years, and the rest of their story will require a little more research and time to complete. Changes: You and Me is a poem of my personal story of a marriage that went bad that involved the domestic violence of verbal and emotional abuse. Most women or men in these situations will justify themselves staying because there is no physical pain.

But, ladies and gentlemen, we all know that the tongue is the most powerful sword there is; and the mind can remain to be an open sore for years after the event has occurred. Whomever, created the sayings, "Stick and stones may break your bones, but words can never hurt you," obviously was never subjected to daily abusive words and the feeling of being emotionally drained. Years later after having read numerous books; I've learned that for every negative word that has been said to you it requires a replacement of at least 7 positive words to ease away the thoughts deposited by that one negative word. And many authors believe it takes a lot more than that to regenerate a positive thought about yourself.

Regardless to whether you are a victim to mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or physical abuse from your spouse or another loved one; you can bring about change.  You are thinking that you can't make it without them and they are the love of your life, and probably some of it is your fault, and on and on. Now take a moment, breathe, and think about where those thoughts came from. Are those your thoughts or some other person's words? Now for the next 30 days try replacing those thoughts with, "What if you can make it on your own?" I have been divorced now for many years and never once regretted walking out of that door... Hopefully, by the time you finish with this hub, some of your excuses will be taken away. If you think there is no way out; I want to inform you there is. If you think that you can not make it without him or her; I'm telling you that you can.

It's time to stop the abuse...
It's time to stop the abuse...

If Someone is Hitting You - Leave

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Love does not hurt like this...Don't be embarrassed millions of others have experienced it...Confusion delays reaction to take action now...Get rid of the denial and face reality...There is no justification for abusing someone...Stop the vicious cycle now...
Love does not hurt like this...
Love does not hurt like this...
Don't be embarrassed millions of others have experienced it...
Don't be embarrassed millions of others have experienced it...
Confusion delays reaction to take action now...
Confusion delays reaction to take action now...
Get rid of the denial and face reality...
Get rid of the denial and face reality...
There is no justification for abusing someone...
There is no justification for abusing someone...
Stop the vicious cycle now...
Stop the vicious cycle now...

Changes: You and Me

I sit, and I think of the past;

and I can’t help, but wonder why,

it just didn’t last.

I wonder what happened to you and I.


It seems we were in a play on stage;

being directed by the people who sit and stare.

You placed me in a box-like cage.

And no one seemed to care.


You’ve taken me, through a lot of changes, boy.

And now that we’re not together,

I no longer feel like a wind-up toy.

My tense, warped, mind even feels better.


You pounded thoughts into my mind,

until you thought you had corrupted my soul.

You know that within time;

your words would have me completely under control.


You made me not believe in myself.

I felt like I was ugly to every man.

But now, I know you didn’t want anyone else;

to take away your hard working woman.



Yes, you’ve taken me through a lot of changes.

You used my underprivileged imagination,

to make all the necessary rearranges,

in my mind, for me to resist temptation.


Then, you got so mighty that nothing was wrong.

You felt like you could treat me like dirt.

And I would stupidly continue on;

like a race horse, running, and not realizing its hurt.


There’s only one thing you forgot to do;

and that was give a little affection.

Yes, as long as you live, you

will remember when you stepped into the wrong direction.


And now, you find that you,

are having hard, unexplained times.

And the changes you put me through,

are just about to blow your mind.


You’re seeking a safe, purple fantasy.

But, you must come to realize,

that these changes, you and me,

will never be the same, for the rest of our lives.



Changes, you and me.

Isn’t it a damn shame,

how it turned out to be.

But, we both know who’s to blame.


It seems we’ve traveled through time

but, we didn’t find a pot of gold.

We only found a state of mind

that makes us both just feel cold.


Written by - Meme T.

Change is Hard..

Especially when an individual doesn't have a desire to endure the effort it requires to change.

Yes, change is difficult and it can be frightening; that is why I've attempted to share my experience and show you others that have taken one step at a time to pull their way out of bad situations. You can too! And the best thing about it is that you do not have to do it alone.

You are one decision away from a new life free from domestic abuse and violence.  You can change you can stop being the victim and win...

 


You Can Overcome Domestic Violence...

Pick Up the Phone - Call and Just Talk to Someone!

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    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      Thanks rmcrayne, I wrote this poem shortly after I left and had tucked it away with my poems from that decade.

      Reading it now, I shutter to think how it would be to have remained in that situation. Obviously, emotional scars heal over, but the remembrance of what happened lasts a lifetime.

    • rmcrayne profile image

      rmcrayne 

      9 years ago from San Antonio Texas

      Your poem is really illustrative of the issues of emotional abuse. Thanks for sharing.

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      Me too Anath! It was the best thing that I have every done for myself. Thanks for commenting!

    • Anath profile image

      Anath 

      9 years ago

      I agree that verbal abuse can be even more powerful than physical abuse. The body heals but the soul takes longer to recover... Glad you found the strength to walk out!

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