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Teenage Intimate Partner Violence

Updated on June 25, 2010
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“Wrap It Up!”

When someone mentions safety planning for teens, one almost automatically thinks about the words, “Wrap It Up!” a well-known phrase for practicing safe sex. I know as a parent the thoughts that maybe going through your head when you see the words; teenage intimate partner violence. Your first thought would be, “Oh no, not my child!” Well let me set your mind at ease a little; intimacy does not necessary mean your child is having sex. Intimate partner can simply mean that your princess or prince has someone that she or he feels friendship with, cherished by, or loved enough to confide in, trust, with the possibilities of it leading to sex later on. While everyone is familiar with the slogan, “Wrap It Up!” and what it details; do you know what NDVH or ACADV means and have you discussed it with your children?

The Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence is a nonprofit organization established in 1978 as an organization dedicated to working toward a peaceful society where domestic violence no longer exits. Domestic violence is usually thought to be a family affair that occurs mostly through spousal abuse and sometimes the abuse of the children. However, the ACADV and NDVH (National Domestic Violence Hotline) have an entire webpage dedicated to teen dating violence. Have you discussed with your teenagers how to recognize and report violence in dating relationships?

Alarming Statistics

It is estimated that more than 3.3 million children are exposed to physical and verbal spousal abuse each year. Exposure in this case means that children are seeing or hearing the actual abuse or dealing with the aftermath of the abuse. Naturally a percentage of these kids in turn wind up being abused or the abuser in their own relationships. ACADV reveals statistics showing that one in three teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship. Dating violence occurs when one partner tries to sustain power and control over the other by way of abuse. This abuse can be emotional or mental, sexual, and physical, or a combination of all four. There are also some astounding statistics on just how bad a problem this type of domestic abuse is:

  • Women ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of intimate violence – nearly 20 percent of every 1000 women within this age group.
  • Approximately, 1 out of every 3 high school students and 1 in 5 college females has been or will be involved in an abusive relationship.
  • Every 40 out of 100 teenage girls between the ages of 14 to 17 know someone who has been hit or beaten by their boyfriend.
  • Between 30 to 50 percent of female high school students have already experienced teen dating violence.
  • In the homes of one of the partners is where teen dating violence occurs most often.
  • 60 percent out of a survey of 500 young women were involved in an ongoing abusive relationship.
  • 38 percent of date rape victims were young women between the ages of 14 10 17 years old.
  • 68 percent of raped young women know their attacker either as a boyfriend, friend, or casual acquaintance..
  • More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involve non-married persons.

The above statistics were provided via the Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence, May 2000. You probably found the statistics alarming as I did however; keep in mind that these statistics are almost ten years old, so the percentages most likely are higher now.

Re-enactment depicts Police Report of Chris & Rihanna Incident...

DoSomething.org

One thing you must know is that love is never ever abuse. It is just unfortunate that many times it is our loved ones that can hit and hurt you the most. DoSomething.org’s created a re-enactment in March ’09 of the police report filed after the Chris/Rihanna incident happened. This disturbing public service announcement highlighted the “1 in 3” statistic and told kids to send for “black & blue” bracelets. Within 5 weeks over 55,000 kids requested the free bracelets most citing that they were requesting them for friends they knew that were dealing with abuse. DoSomething.org is the largest national organization dedicated to teens and social change. If you are a victim to mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or physical abuse from your teenage partner or another loved one; you can get help.

Early warning signs that your date may eventually become abusive:

  • Extreme jealousy
  • Controlling behavior
  • Quick involvement
  • Unpredictable mood swings
  • Alcohol and drug use
  • Explosive anger
  • Isolates you from friends and family
  • Uses force during an argument
  • Shows hypersensitivity
  • Believes in rigid sex roles
  • Blames others for his problems or feelings
  • Cruel to animals or children
  • Verbally abusive
  • Abused former partners
  • Threatens violence

Common clues that indicate a teenager may be experiencing dating violence:

  • Physical signs of injury
  • Truancy, dropping out of school
  • Failing grades
  • Indecision
  • Changes in mood or personality
  • Use of drugs/alcohol
  • Pregnancy
  • Emotional outburst
  • Isolation

Stories Told by Other Teens...

Places to Get Help

Parents talk to your children or if you are in an abusive relationship get help for yourself and your children. Abusers use words, physical strength, and the power of manipulation through convincing you that they need to make all the decisions; putting you down in front of your friends; or pulling you away from your friends; threatening to kill themselves; stalking you; taking control over you; or forcing you to have sex.

If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, talk to your parents or another adult family member, a school counselor or teacher, or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). DO NOT believe the lie that he or she will never do it again…They will over and over again. Domestic Violence is a disease that is crippling individuals, damaging humanity, and killing way too many of our love ones! Hey, get the word out, “Yes, it is important to “Wrap It Up,” however, “Stop the Abuse First or Walk Away!"

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    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks Rose56! Teenage Intimate Partner Violence is a part of a series on domestic violence. There will be more to come as time permits. This is a subject that teenagers and adults really need to pay attention to because as you have written also too many are being hurt by such situations.

    • rose56 profile image

      rose56 

      8 years ago

      I really like this one. Thanks.

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for sharing your experience Crickette-w! I don't know if anyone has all the answers as to how or why some teenagers find themselves in such bad situations, but hopefully you can help your daughter to realize that she deserves so much more than what this guy is offering her.

      "True love, should never hurt anyone physically, emotionally, mentally, or in any negative way." If you can find a self-help group within your town, I would suggest that you attempt to begin to find some answers there. In the mean time I will be praying for your family. Again, thanks for taking the time to share your comments.

    • crickette_w profile image

      crickette_w 

      9 years ago

      I thank you for this, we are going through this with our teenage daughter right now. We don't know what or how she has decided that it won't happen again. She grew up in a family where even hitting for fun wasn't acceptable. She is a very high spirited young lady, she does well in every thing she does, she seems to have a high self-esteem, until this. I have to say her dad told her to call the police when she called him and she did. The boy is in jail. So young. Now she is being blamed for him being there by all of her friends. Instead of asking her if she is ok, they are riduculing her and telling her she is mean. It is a major problem today, it seems to be acceptable behavior amoung our teens for some reason. I know she didn't get it from our family. But, I can tell you, MG we didn't see any signs leading up to this, infact we thought he was wonderful. I will probably re-read your hub again. Thanks for the very useful information. Oh, I just love to read your stuff. Thanks.

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      You are right Shaz, the teenage years should be a wonderful time, that's why I felt the need to advise parents to teach their children how to recognize and possibly avoid domestic violence. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

    • Shaz123 profile image

      Shaz123 

      9 years ago

      Superb Man ... I really love that teenage ...

      And i missing alot that period of teenage .

      Thanks for sharing a wonderful hun

      Regards

      SHAZ

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for dropping by and commenting Gin!

    • Gin Delloway profile image

      Gin Delloway 

      9 years ago

      great hub!!very instructive...

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      You're right Sue that the combination of all three (kids, drinking, & driving)does become a volatile and dangerous situation. Thanks for commenting!

    • Sue Adams profile image

      Juliette Kando FI Chor 

      9 years ago from Andalusia

      We should not forget that alcohol is the real culprit. That is what turns Jekyll into Hyde. There is a ban on drunk driving. Similarly there should be a ban on drunk dating and drunk copulating (breeding children who will become victims of domestic violence).

    • Money Glitch profile imageAUTHOR

      Money Glitch 

      9 years ago from Texas

      Alright psychicdog.net! You got the point I was trying to get across - talk about teen dating abuse before it happens. Of course, it is never too late to discuss the matter.

    • psychicdog.net profile image

      psychicdog.net 

      9 years ago

      Very informative hub. I found the early warning signs particularly insightful as this is advice parents can give to their children when the dating starts.

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