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What is Your Attachment Style?
People have different attachment styles. Some are anxious, avoidant or secure (or more rarely, a combination of anxious and avoidant). The relationship styles can predict the long-term success of a relationship.
Some characteristics of the anxious are when you partner is away, you feel afraid they might become interested in someone else. They often worry that their partner will stop loving them.
Their partners often want them to be more intimate than they feel comfortable being. They find it difficult to depend on romantic partners.
They have little difficulty expressing themselves for their needs and wants to their partner. Sometimes people see them as boring because they create no drama.
Our intimate relationships are the most important aspects of many people’s lives. Good, solid, fruitful and fulfilling loving relationships not only provide us with great joy and happiness, they also support our careers, inspire us towards the achievement of our deepest and most cherished goals, and provide a deeper sense of both physical and spiritual well-being.
Attachment principles indicate that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are satiated, they usually turn their attention outward. This creates the dependency paradox. The more effectively dependent people are on one and another, the more independent and creative the become. The challenge among adults is the prevailing notion is that too much dependence is a relationship is a bad thing.
Elements of Attachment
Some of the attachment styles are it is easy to get close to others, being uncomfortable being close to others and being reluctant to get close.
How Can You Improve Romantic Relationship?
The first step is determining your own attachment style. Then you need to learn how identify the attachment style of those around you. How? Effective communication - the ability to satiate our feelings and needs in a simple, non-threatening manner beginning early on in the relationship - is the quickest, most direct way to find out whether your prospective partner will be suitable for you. The first five minutes of effective communication you will learn more than others learn in months of dating. If your date demonstrates a sincere wish to understand your needs and puts your well-being first, your future looks great!
Mismatched attachments styles create unhappiness in relationships. Relationships should not be left to chance.
Bank of Relationships: Get out of it what You Put into it!
Good relationships are a result of treating others the way you want to be treated. They do not just happen. A good foundation is to take responsibility for yourself and to have an attitude of gratitude. This is one of the most important choices to make to improve your relationship!
Sure, burning candles, taking a bubble bath, and doing special things helps, but the power of empathy is the heart of the relationship. What about a date night? Have you taken the time to determine what you want your relationship to be?
If you can dream of a good relationship, you can achieve it – with your partners help!
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