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Give Me a Real Woman Any Day (Princesses Need Not Apply)
I’ll admit it. I love beautiful women. I will always love beautiful women. The fantasy of the princess dressed up in angelic fashion is always there. But I know it’s not real. And it’s time I grew up about all of this. It’s not the way the world works. Women have their own fantasies about a man on a white horse sweeping them away but so many times this turns into a nightmare. So why do we expect so much from each other?
For me I want a real woman. And that means a woman who is smart, understands a problem and lets the little things go (Tom Petty quote). I want her to be comfortable enough with her looks to throw on some jeans, glance in the mirror and put that hair in a ponytail (or a baseball cap which I love!) if it’s just a quick night-out to grab a burger and a beer. Hopefully you like a burger and a beer. If you’re high maintenance then keep on walking because I will turn on you. No doubt about it.
I know how to make a woman feel pretty and desirable. But it’s not just your looks. If you are a human being and not some agenda-driven person then we can get along just fine. If you can be reached then you can reach me. Somehow we have to figure out how to be a couple. You can’t be a Queen because I won’t be your subject.
I’m no metrosexual male that’s for sure. I have a swagger about myself and a Texas drawl. But I think very deeply in my alone time and am able to discuss any subject as long as you wish. In person I’m fun and don’t put on airs. I can go to a fancy restaurant but it’s just one night; it’s not a lifestyle. I can mingle in virtually any setting and hopefully so can you. For me a real partner does not have a wall in front of her or an aura of untouchability that implies she is still for sale or available. I think many men can be intimidated by a beautiful woman because we know she is constantly fielding “offers” from other men. There has to be some attempt to show your man that you are not looking to “upgrade.” And a sure sign of this is him having to “be under the hood” all the time.
I know things change when the kids come along and career stresses can make it tough on a couple. But if you start out with the right mindset then hopefully you can weather the storms together. It’s tough to give you a set of instructions on how to be a real woman but you know a princess when you see one. So do I. It’s a matter of compromise. I’m not saying you should put up with a slob or never having a dress-up night. Not at all. Because a real man knows that a woman likes to still be a lady on occasion and he needs to bring that out of her and not treat her like one of the boys. But a real woman knows the nuance of being one of the boys and also letting her man take the lead and carry her to the bedroom. Then you will see a real man….