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Give Me a Real Woman Any Day (Princesses Need Not Apply)

Updated on December 28, 2011

I’ll admit it. I love beautiful women. I will always love beautiful women. The fantasy of the princess dressed up in angelic fashion is always there. But I know it’s not real. And it’s time I grew up about all of this. It’s not the way the world works. Women have their own fantasies about a man on a white horse sweeping them away but so many times this turns into a nightmare. So why do we expect so much from each other?

For me I want a real woman. And that means a woman who is smart, understands a problem and lets the little things go (Tom Petty quote). I want her to be comfortable enough with her looks to throw on some jeans, glance in the mirror and put that hair in a ponytail (or a baseball cap which I love!) if it’s just a quick night-out to grab a burger and a beer. Hopefully you like a burger and a beer. If you’re high maintenance then keep on walking because I will turn on you. No doubt about it.

I know how to make a woman feel pretty and desirable. But it’s not just your looks. If you are a human being and not some agenda-driven person then we can get along just fine. If you can be reached then you can reach me. Somehow we have to figure out how to be a couple. You can’t be a Queen because I won’t be your subject.

I’m no metrosexual male that’s for sure. I have a swagger about myself and a Texas drawl. But I think very deeply in my alone time and am able to discuss any subject as long as you wish. In person I’m fun and don’t put on airs. I can go to a fancy restaurant but it’s just one night; it’s not a lifestyle. I can mingle in virtually any setting and hopefully so can you. For me a real partner does not have a wall in front of her or an aura of untouchability that implies she is still for sale or available. I think many men can be intimidated by a beautiful woman because we know she is constantly fielding “offers” from other men. There has to be some attempt to show your man that you are not looking to “upgrade.” And a sure sign of this is him having to “be under the hood” all the time.

I know things change when the kids come along and career stresses can make it tough on a couple. But if you start out with the right mindset then hopefully you can weather the storms together. It’s tough to give you a set of instructions on how to be a real woman but you know a princess when you see one. So do I. It’s a matter of compromise. I’m not saying you should put up with a slob or never having a dress-up night. Not at all. Because a real man knows that a woman likes to still be a lady on occasion and he needs to bring that out of her and not treat her like one of the boys. But a real woman knows the nuance of being one of the boys and also letting her man take the lead and carry her to the bedroom. Then you will see a real man….


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      Mark Lecuona 5 years ago from Austin, Texas

      @CloudExplorer - Hey! What a HUGE surprise and I'm very honored that you would take the time to highlight this hub. I truly appreciate it. I enjoyed writing it and I think this type of hub (like Tammy's) is always interesting as men and women alike like to know what we're all thinking in the game of love! Thank you again!

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      I just found yet another awesome hub nugget to share in my new 20 part series, known as the Hublove collection. You and Tammyswallow are 2 of fellow hubbers of mine to have been chosen, and your hub is coming right up.

      Thanks for writing such an inspirational hub here, I love your take on the who mate selection thing as well, as I enjoyed Tammy's. Nice Job! voted up and out!

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      Justin W Price 6 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

      i just want a girl who's smart, funny, beautiful, supportive, kind, loving, cute, and loves dogs.

      oh wait, I have that... :-)

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      Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

      Brilliant hub and thank you so much for sharing.

      Take care and enjoy your day.


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      Nellieanna Hay 6 years ago from TEXAS

      Well said, Mark!

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      V Qisya 6 years ago

      Well, Mark, you're so right about it. Great job!

      Up, Up and away!

      Best Wishes, Verita

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      Tammy 6 years ago from North Carolina

      Touche good sir. Very well done! Wouldn't be great to have a woman that changes her own tires, pumps her own gas?? Adorable..

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      smzclark 6 years ago from cheshire

      always nice to hear from a real man...who knows that even though we don't look in the mirror some days; doesn't mean we don't like to be treated like a lady most days and definately doesn't mean we can't behave like one or dress like a princess on the days that call for it. (funny the first advert below is, 'date a crossdresser :-P). thank you

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      Christina Lornemark 6 years ago from Sweden

      Very interesting and well said! The roles of genders are changing and sometimes we are a bit confused about how we are supposed to be and behave. I think part of the problem is that both genders want the same and a mix of it; princess/prince and natural self-confident man /woman but many times we expect what we don't get at a given moment. I enjoy reading this, voted up, interesting


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      pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

      I like . . bottom line a woman should be herself and that's the most important thing. Excellent hub, interesting subject matter. Thank you for sharing, voted up, marked interesting.

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      epigramman 6 years ago

      ...well you certainly have a swagger in your writing and I always like that in a man or a woman - it shows confidence, savvy, class, sophistication, wit and charm - and all great qualities one should (hopefully) possess

      in becoming a great writer (which you already are) and that's why all of the hub ladies love you so much ....

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      Eranofu 6 years ago from Europe

      May I ask why is this written? For a dating site or thoughts of life?

      It's kind of sad. I can understand why a guy would want to avoid 'hard to seduce women' when the success rate for whatever you want is better with 'low maintenance women' (less struggles and can brag that one is good with ladies, just stay silent that these are the easy ones) but what I can never understand is a guy willingly going for females that don't get attention from other guys because of all the struggle with putting on dress and make up (seriously? that takes like 10minutes for me and I'm clumsy with all these pencils and stuff) and, pray God her boyfriends self esteem doesn't go down because she gets attention from others.

      All women can be seduced, just some are a bit harder (it's much easier to label them 'high maintenance' or worse 'agenda driven person' than to reach in and touch their souls in a way they would never forget). True, some are not worth the struggle and fighting but one can truly value only the things one has worked for.

      Good look in finding the real woman for you! :)

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      Sondra 6 years ago from Neverland

      I agree with Mamadrama - swagger and a texas drawl. Those alone should get you a date for burgers and beer with the smart, down to earth lady of your dreams.

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      Mamadrama 6 years ago from Upstate NY

      Swagger and a texas drawl... niiiiiiiice. Great hub!

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      Cindy Murdoch 6 years ago from Texas

      A nicely written hub... great to see another Texan!

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      Kelly Umphenour 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      This is an awesome hub!

      I am so glad you told me you have a Texan drawl:) lol I am such a sucker for you Texans! lol

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      Linda Bilyeu 6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Nice...this cowboy knows how to treat a woman!!

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      Jessee R 6 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      great hub... sets me thinking for sure

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      Cagsil 6 years ago from USA or America

      Very nicely written. I don't think there was a single thing in here to disagree with. LOL! :) And, just like your title says- Princesses need not apply. Those are very high maintenance women and have more underlying issues than you could shake a stick at. Great hub! :)