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Great Singles' New Years Resolutions

Updated on February 10, 2013
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It is a new year and along with a new year comes new goals. Everybody has been busy talking about resolutions, plans and mantras. The new year brings fresh starts, new attitudes and the opportunity for a "do-over." Many people give quite a bit of consideration to their new year's resolutions. They contemplate and concentrate. They pick and they prod. Some people go completely overboard by setting themselves challenges that not only can't be met, but weren't even necessary in the first place. Other people try to set realistic goals related to individual areas of improvement. I do want to emphasize at this point that what may be a realistic or worthy goal for one person could be entirely unrealistic for another. In this article, I will be talking about resolutions relating to finding love.

New Year's Resolution Statistics

Let's start with a few statistics on New Years's resolutions done at the University of Scranton. Journal of Clinical Psychology. Published: 12.13.2012

Of the top ten resolutions made in 2012, "Fall in love" ranked number nine, just ahead of "Spend time with Family." Not surprisingly, "Lose weight" was number one. Interestingly, almost all of the the eight resolutions before "Finding Love" can be instrumental in making someone a more desirable partner.

Examples of New Year's Resolutions for Single People

  • Lose weight/get in shape
  • Don't settle!
  • Get out more/join more activities
  • create a "wish list"

Types of New Year's Resolutions (statistics over 100% because of multiple resolutions)

Type of Resolution
%
Self improvement or education related
47
Weight related
38
Money related
34
reltionship related
31

Here are a few more interesting statistics:

While only 45% of Americans usually make New Year's resolutions, people who explicitly make resolutions are 10% more likely to attain their goals than people who don't explicitly make resolutions.

39% of people in their 20s achieve their resolution each year while only 14% of people in their 50s do.

And, finally, while 75% of people maintain their resolutions through the first week, only 46% maintain them through the year.

Ask the Universe

Many people look upon New Year's Eve as a magical, mystical time. They regard it as the stuff fairy tales are made of. The night itself is often accompanied with rituals and symbolic gestures. There are often fireworks which lend to wishing on stars and contemplating the universe. In her book, The Soulmate Secret Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction, Arielle Ford teaches us how to "order" our soulmate. For an interesting article about this featured in Oprah magazine, check out "How to Find and Keep the Love of your Life"

Get all your ducks in a row.

One of the salient points of meeting your soulmate through the Law of Attraction, is to make room for another person in your life. While many people verbalize their readiness and desire to fall in love, they don't always demonstrate it. We often push people away from us by our subconscious actions. These are actions that most of us are not even aware of, like having only one seat at our kitchen table. In Rhonda Byrne's The Secret, she maintains that by not providing another chair, we are, symbolically,not inviting another person in. Put simply, it is important to create a place for a new person to fit into your life before you go out and seek that person.

I almost have all my ducks in a row!
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Reflection

For some people, the new year allows them to take a step back and reflect on their current or past relationships. It gives them insight and allows them to evaluate what works for them. Whether or not you actually write a physical resolution, with a whole new year in front of us, most of us are not immune to the opportunity to reflect and imagine!

and....Oh the Places you'll Go!

"Congratulations!

Today is your day.

You're off to Great Places!

You're off and away"

by Dr. Seuss

Happy resolutions and Happy New Year!

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      Amanda 4 years ago from Camas, WA

      Great hub! I didn't make any resolutions about finding love but, for those who have, this is a great hub to get started!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good job Randi! No resolutions for me but some very doable challenges have started and will continue. Put a challenge in front of me and it's like a red flag in front of a bull. :)

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      SaffronBlossom 4 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Definitely enjoyed your Hub! I wouldn't have thought about "making room" for another person in order to open oneself up to love, but when you put it like that it seems simple and important. Happy new year! :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much LagunaAlkaline! It was fun to write!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Hey, Bill, thanks for stopping by. Some people may call these resolutions but for me to find a decent man, is more like a challenge!!!! ;)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, SaffronBlossom! I actually wrote a hub abouit this last summer and it does make some sense. Thanks so much for stopping by! I am really looking forward to getting to know you in the next 6 months! Happy New Year!

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for sharing. My only goal is to write till Christmas.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      An admirable goal, Martin! Happy New Year!

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Great advice on new years resolution's.. we really need to reflect on on past loves and whats in the present for us.. hopefully we can learn from our mistakes.

      many blessings

      love your hub

      Debbie

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you; Debbie for stopping by. Thank you also for your generous comments also. Many blessings to you, as well. Randi

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      Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Great hub filled with lovely and encouraging words. Congratulations on your 'a'. I had no clue! :) Happy New Year.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Congratualtions on this wonderful hub. Like Bill I have challenges and not resolutions !!!

      I vote up,across and share all around .

      Have a great day.

      Eddy.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Denise, that "a" is pretty exciting! I actually haven't known too long. Just before the holidays! Happy New Year to you!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Hi Eddy...thanks for the visit. Challenges are good! Sometimes, everyday feels like a challenge! Thank you so much for being such a great supporter by your comments, votes and shares. I so appreciate it, Eddy!

      You have a great day as well!

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      Bumpsysmum 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Yes, great Hub, I didn't make a resolution as such but I did agree with myself to try to achieve certain things this year, no time constraints though. Well done, interesting.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you for reading and commenting, Bunpysmum. I appreciate it. I know what you measn. I personally didn't write andy resolutions either but like you i have decided on certain goals I would like to attain.

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      Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Great job, Randi. I love the use of the stats, the link to the Oprah article, and the song. Rated Up/U/I & shared.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Denise, you are so my new best friend right now! Thank you! I truly appreciate it. I have a couple more in the works and I am taking the advice of another hubber and moving a couple of my zzzs to my other site. If you haven't heard her, Ingrid Michaelson is really good. In that same genre, I love Lenka and Regina Spektor is also similar!

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      Sunnie Day 4 years ago

      Great job on this hub! I like to call resolutions good intentions..lol. Wonderful Tips!

      Thank you.

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      Chris Mills 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      Thank you for this hub Randi. I'm a year behind on my resolutions, so I am now making them for 2012. I find that my success rate has skyrocketed since I've been doing it this way.

      And regarding making room for someone, I seem to be sabotaging my own efforts since my new job requires so much traveling. There is a downside to everything I suppose.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Sunnie, thank you so much! I love it! Good intentions! Perfect! Consider it coined!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Not to worry, Chris for I am the master of sabotage. It's nice to see you here! I didn't really set any resolutions either. If you check out my other site, you'll see how I really feel about this! Thankyou for stopping by! Happy New year!

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      Linda C Smith 4 years ago from United States

      Enjoyed reading your hub. I found the part about the chair interesting...never thought of that before

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Linda! It was in The Secret that I first read it. I never gave it a thought before.

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