Guide to Being Single in Your Twenties
#1 Don't sweat it.
Remember, most people don't get married and have kids until they are in their thirties. Some, not until forty! You got this, and there is no rush. Your twenties should be the time of your life, don't sweat not having someone to share it with. This is really the only time in your life that you can make it all about you and not have to worry about whether or not you're upsetting your spouse by staying at the club until 2 in the morning with your best friends. Live it up, it's your time.
#2 Use this time to discover your standards.
Use this time to discover yourself, what your standards are, and what you should and should not tolerate when it comes to being in a relationship. I don't know how many times I have had to be that shoulder by friends cried on because of what their significant other... or ex significant other did to them. This is exactly the kind of examples you should pay attention to and think about the red flags that you should not tolerate when it comes to dating. Start thinking in terms of who you would like to marry or have a longer term relationship with, not who you would like to sleep with. There are a totally different set of standards here. Remember, you got plenty of time to find the perfect mate,
#3 Don't sleep with everyone you date.
This is an important rule to follow when looking for a "real" relationship. If you put out on the first or second date the person you are dating will subconsciously think you have low standards, therefor will not work very hard to keep you around. If you make them work to get to know you first before you engage in a sexual relationship it will, for one, make the sex better and more meaningful, and two, cause less anxiety afterwards because you're already assured that person likes and cares about you. I wont say follow the "7 dates" rule or however many you deem necessary to still keep your self worth intact. I just like to follow my intuition. Rather, my head, not my groin. I'm not saying wait till marriage, but at least wait until there is genuine emotion apparent.
#4 Don’t base your self worth on whether or not you are in a relationship.
I don't know how many times I sat in the third wheel position feeling sorry for myself while out with friends and their significant other. But let me tell you what, that third wheel position seems pretty comfy when that couple is duking it out over something petty and ridiculous. I'm just saying, don't feel bad for yourself because you're single. You are spending time with yourself, you're not alone. If you can learn to be comfortable and have a good time with yourself, you are teaching yourself how not to be needy and be comfortable in your own skin.
#5 Learn to love yourself.
You're in your twenties, this means your hormones are mostly leveled out and you don't have to worry about acne (at least not as much), so use this optimum time of singledom to learn to love yourself, instead of wondering why you can't stay in love with someone else. How can you expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself. That's asking the impossible of someone else, not to mention it's completely unfair.
