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He Abused her throughout their Marriage
Boy meets girl, and everything feels sweet in the beginning of any relationship. When reality sets in, then everything feels a distant between most couples.
She was young, and had already given birth to a bouncy baby boy at the age of fifteen.
The young woman needed more than to sit at home at take care of her new born.
A teenage girl who enjoyed going out and meeting up with friends.
The teen did not care about the consequences.
At fifteen she wanted to hang out with people her age and have fun.
The fun days came to an abrupt end when she met her worst nightmare.
Little did she know of how her life would be affected by her new partner.
He was tall and handsome with a great body their thoughts went further from a hug and kiss.
It took her a few months to be with this man eleven years older than her. He put rings and charms around her.
She fell in for what at that time felt like love.
The teenage girl needed someone to hold her. To love and give her the attention that her family did not show toward her.
A moment for the young woman to feel loved by another.
They grew closer together and saw each other daily.
Time spent together made them think of a plan of eloping.
It was a secret plan and she did not want to be living with her parents no more.
One evening they escaped with the baby without anyone noticing their get brave away.
It was softly and quietly through an open window.
The well-planned escape was successful. It was devastating for the rest of the family. The empty home left sadness and lots of tears.
The concern of the young girl and her new born to be away from home was a problematic issue.
The girl wanted her freedom. A chance to be with someone who she thought loved her.
The young woman did not know much of this man's true behavior.
It was not long after the young girl had moved into an apartment with her much older man.
Only, then did she realize the temperamental behavior.
He started fighting and physically abusing her after many sips from the bottle.
His drinking habits was out of control. A side of this man she did not see from the beginning of her acquaintance..
She ran away from home thinking of how free she could be. The love of from a man blinded her of his true being.
His fast blows to her head and face made her look blue disfigured. After a week, or two their problems disappeared.
He often apologized for hitting her.
Not long afterward he would fall right back into the same old routine.
The violence continued and the woman stayed with this man.
Nobody wanted to hear of her story.
She left her family without even telling them of her whereabouts.
As a teenager she wanted to explore new avenues and experience life in her own way.
With poor parenting skills she did what she knew was right, and felt relieved from a not so lovable family.
Life turned around in a way that she had never dreamed of it would be.
The boyfriend abused her for years and still she married him legally to continue living together.
On certain occasions when the abuse worsened. She managed to escape for a few weeks in a secret hiding place.
Her concern was her two kids. The abusive partner did not find that to be of any concern.
He would often find his wife to get back home again. She believed him and went back home for the kid's sake. The same old apologies went on for many years.
Why do most partners feel the need to say with their abusive partners?
When an individual feels insecure in an abusive marriage they don't leave their partners.
The idea of their children being taken away makes them stay and live on.
They think love is keeping them together. It is not love, when treated like that.
Sometimes the person involved with an abusive partner is afraid of letting go of each other. Individuals become dependent on their partners. These partners don't know which way to turn
Often the victim feels guilty and blames them for all the wrong.
A kind of behavior that does not require much communication mostly fear and violence.
The foundation of such a marriage is not stable and more troublesome.
In this case she had no say to reason with her partner. He controlled her life and she was left with many scars.
Would you be afraid to leave an abusive marriage?
The abuse made her feel neglected, and less loved and not feeling loved by her family made her life very sad and unwanted.
The children witnessed their mother's physical abuse from their father, and cried about it this was a shame for them to see such actions.
A family with not many good memories.
The short lovely memories was taken over by the aggressive behavior of her husband.
Alcohol was not his friend it was his enemy and he did not see it that way.
Years went by, and still she stayed and battled his abusive ways.
One day she left and never returned.
Her grown up children now in their thirties are now living independently.
They don't need her help. Her scars remain and shows her that past abused life.
Deep down she was destroyed and lost her best years of her life with that man.
He showed her his best side to reel her in his life.
The fun days did not last long for a teenage girl who once believed in having good times, and going out with friends.
Now in her fifties she is all alone and enjoys her life with family.
Abusive men often show you their best behaviors.
When you have fallen into their web you are stuck. To get out is impossible.
An example of how a spider gets its prey.
The defenses don't work and the twisting and turning does not make it any easier.
If you want to leave, you got to do it right away after the first hit.
Both males and females can be abusive toward each other. The problem is when you choose to stay and not stand up for yourself.
Nobody deserves such hard ache, or fear from anyone. Some people have different behaviors and make that part of their partners’ lives.
The poorly raised children and less educated families with traumatic issues, allows for the troubled adulthood.
Love is what holds families together, and if this is practiced from childhood. When older the individual then knows how to love and feel for another.
In this case the man had no love for his family. As the girl did not have love in her family. Two people were looking for what they did not have in their families.
The abuse to the teenager was a great shock which led her to a different path.
The abusive man cried out to his wife, and apologized for all that happened between them over the years. Sometimes love is not all you need.
Relationships require more understanding. Communication is key.
Always know the person you are dating. Find out more about the other person you choose to spend the rest of your life with in all times.
It is easy to see only the good side of others. Look for all sides of that person.
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