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How Can I Stop My Husband / Boyfriend Wearing Lingerie?

Updated on October 14, 2009

Is that a shrew I see before me?

So you have a husband or boyfriend and in many respects he is quite satisfactory. Unfortunately, you have discovered that he likes to wear lingerie, which is obviously unacceptable. Although you like to wear jeans now and then, and think you look pretty cute when you slip into his shirt, it's quite unacceptable for him to go so far as to enjoy wearing women's clothing. Women can wear whatever they want, but men need to toe the fashion line. We can't have them dressing in whatever takes their fancy, can we now. That sort of thing leads to communism, witchcraft, and the furthering of the atheist homosexual agenda.

But how do you stop him from wearing lingerie? Well, I advise women who want to stop their male partner wearing women's lingerie to act in the same way that they would stomp out any other harmless behavior which brings him pleasure. As every woman knows, a man's pleasure and enjoyment of life should rest largely, if not entirely, in the hands of his significant other.


Who doesn't respond well to an ultimatum? Nobody I know, that's for sure. If you want your boyfriend or husband to stop wearing lingerie, simply threaten him with an ultimatum, such as, 'If I catch you wearing lingerie again, this relationship is over.' This is sure to make him stop wearing lingerie and never want to wear lingerie again. You may have to comb the house for stashes of lingerie throughout the rest of your lives, as he takes to occasionally relapsing and buying the odd pair of panties or perhaps even a bra (gadzooks!) Don't worry about this too much, once you have firmly established an imbalance of power within the relationship, you should be able to terrorize and guilt him into giving up lingerie again without breaking so much as a sweat.

Whining and Nagging

Two major weapons in any shrew wife, or aspiring shrew wife's arsenal are whining and nagging. When you use the whining and nagging method, you should be sure to bring up the issue at least once a day. You should also ruin any moments of peace and happiness you two might mistakenly be enjoying by throwing the fact that he wears lingerie in his face. He must learn that if he does not do what you want, you will punish him with emotional blackmail until he conceeds.

Shame and Humiliation

If all else fails, why not try to shame him out of wearing lingerie? Tell your friends, your family, his friends and family. Laugh about it. Make sure that he knows that you think he is very silly for wearing women's lingerie. Emasculating a man is a surefire way to bend him to your will. He may be resentful for some time, but you can overcome his resentment by withholding intimacy.

Withholding Intimacy

I almost feel silly writing this here, as it is fairly obviously the first step any red blooded woman would take when trying to defend an indefensible position. Withholding intimacy deprives him of something he enjoys, and forces him to turn his desires elsewhere. If that's not a good idea, then I don't know what is.

Caveat / Warning

Please be aware that undertaking any of the courses of action listed above puts your relationship at serious risk of what some people might call failure, (divorce, breaking up, that sort of thing.) Don't let that stop you however, how are you supposed to get your way in life if you can't control and micromanage your partner all the way down to his underwear?

Next: How To Get Your Boyfriend / Husband To Stop Thinking Other Woman Are Attractive!


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      8 years ago

      I wish I could find a woman that is ok with me wearing Lingerie. I love the feeling of a good fitting bra and panties. I would love that woman. My starting to wear lingerie started at a very young age.

      I also agree with one of the statements, Women can wear anything of a Man's, But if a man wears a Dress or a Pair of High heels, Society says that's not right.

      I like to get in touch with my Feminine side. It gives me an Idea of what Women go through to look good.

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      9 years ago

      well the way i look at it wearing nighties i wear the babydoll nighties from the 60s and 70s i love the way they look and feel its fantastic when i put one on and wife does not mind at all. Now she will not say hey im doing the clothes in the wash let me wash your nighties no i do that myself or she will not lay out a nightie for me to wear that night. But we do like wearing them its just she is a tomboy and it took a while for her to wear them but she accepted me in a nightie after a few days.

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      9 years ago

      I'm so very lucky. My girlfriend knows, encouarages and assists me in my effeminate side. I decided to tell her early on in our relationship. She has never brought up my love for feminine apparel in a disapproving or condasending manner. She is always more than willing to help me with any womanly questions or feminine desires which I have.

      The first time I ever tried on a women's panties was when my ex-wife demanded that I wear a pair of her panties to work one day.

      However, I don't think she ever thought I would enjoy it as much as I did. My love for panty wearing continued to grow, only for her to degrade me about my effeminate side ever chance she got. Thank goodness she's gone.

      I can see both sides of the coin now and I am so very fortunate to have the love and approval of my current girlfriend.

    • Hope Alexander profile imageAUTHOR

      Hope Alexander 

      9 years ago

      Hey guys, so glad you enjoyed this article! I know that the reality of this situation can be a drag, but hopefully this does some good on some level. :D

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      9 years ago

      Hi Hope

      Love it, thanks for such a great read. I've only got limited internet access for a while so having something so good to read is just brilliant. Thanks!

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      9 years ago

      Well done! Just the right note.

      My wife has been most understanding, and I find intimacy and pleasure from wearing her castoff lingerie; when bras stretch, or when we both lost weight. As I type I'm wearing a pair of her high-cut cotton panties with a pretty flowers print.

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      9 years ago

      very sad, but true

      i am in a relationship for 10 years now, where my wife knew my 'hobby' from the firt moment, and saying she accepted this, but she wont be confronted with it (?????????)

      so she does the laundry and irons my clothes, but she wont see me as such. And yes once in a while she starts criticising me althoug she loves me very much...

      But what is the meaning of saying I can accept this, but she can not stand it when she knows i'm wearing a nice pantie ????????

    • Hope Alexander profile imageAUTHOR

      Hope Alexander 

      9 years ago

      Some, not all, women do have a very strange sense of entitlement to control their partner in ways which would be considered very negative if it were a male controlling a female that way. It's an odd vestigial idea which could do with a bit of stamping out, methinks :)

      Thanks for your comment, Gunnau :)

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      9 years ago

      Haha, that was awesome. Another Hope masterpiece!

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      9 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

      It's funny because it's true.

      I have heard and have chatted to many lingerie wearing men who are or were in that situation. The Women put their own agenda ahead of the relationship because what is normal in they're minds is not what they're partner was wearing. Given the majority of lingerie wearing men are hetro and are better men for it makes little difference. It's seen as not normal. I hate the fact that a woman would prefer a violent cotton undies wearing man than a loving lingerie totting one.

      Another wonderful insight and right on the money.


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