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How To Cope With A Procrastinator

Updated on January 29, 2011

Is this you? A Procrastinator?

Are You A Procrastinator? Or Do You Know A Procratinator?

We all have different personalities and backgrounds. Why do some people know how to manage their time? It's plain and simple really. It comes down to responsibility. People who are severe procrastinators start a task but can never seem to finish it. Do you know or live with someone who can never finish a task? It can be very frustrating trying to cope with this type of personality. What I have learned is never bypass a procrastinator. I know it's hard because you want the task to be finished but trust me this is the worst thing you can do. This is the number one mistake because it makes the procrastinator less responsible and they will re lie on you to finish it yourself. The person that does bypass over time can become resent full.The only way you can get through to a procrastinator is to be kind and show affinity. Do not try to argue or nag to get the job done.

Example: My husband always keeps a messy unorganized garage. I ask him several times to clean it. He tells me he will. Several weeks have passed and the garage is still not cleaned and organized. I nag at him, tell him I am so mad and angry, why can't he just clean it???? Guess what no matter how much I rant and rave the garage still isn't done. Invalidating someone will not make them clean the garage.

Try this instead. Example #2

This is the first approach- Honey could you please clean the garage, we have family and friends coming over this really needs your attention. Do this in a loving caring tone. NO NAGGING! If it still doesn't get done we will go to second approach.

Second Approach-

I have been really thinking the weather is suppose to warm up and it would really make me happy if you could clean and organize the garage this weekend. What do you think? Make him think about it. This way the thought and intention is there. Your not nagging or getting angry. He will clean the garage because guess what you are telling him that it would make you feel happy. He is doing it not out of spite and anger. It's quite simple really. You can get through to any procrastinator with the power of affinity and good communication. You need to master on how to use this technique and be in their reality. Do not criticize them just plant the thought. It may take a few times but don't give up on them. I have two people in my life that are procrastinators. Actually they are both becoming more responsible. You do not need them to fall. Sometimes they may need your help and that's ok. You can still help them but do not try to handle it yourself. A complete bypass and doing it your self is not the answer. This will make things worse because over time a person will feel resent full. Why does this happen? The reason why is because you are out of exchange. It was making you more responsible and the burden was on your shoulders. It also made the procrastinator take advantage of you and become less responsible. Procrastinators will make excuses and get reasonable. You can make them more aware and responsible over time. I would love to get your stories and feedback in the comments. Please feel free and I will respond.

God Bless,


Procratination Advice

Tips For A Procrastinator

1.Set realistic goals for tasks.
Make the goals concrete, and view them as something you want to do and achieve—not as something to avoid. Nothing happens overnight. Exercising your self-regulation muscle strengthens your will power.

2. Journal your thoughts.
Write down any thoughts you have that prevent you from acting. Then challenge the irrational and unproductive thoughts. So what if you fail? At least you tried.

3. Use your social support systems.
Make an agreement with a friend or a family member to ensure that you don’t skip out of the task at hand.

Write down any thoughts you have that prevent you from acting. Then challenge the irrational and unproductive thoughts. So what if you fail? At least you tried.

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    • sandylongman profile image

      sandylongman 6 years ago

      Thanks very much! Yes I think there is a little procrastination in all of us, some more than others!!!

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      Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

      We all are procrastinators without knowing it. We want to do so much daily that many times, we end the day with a longer list of must-do's. Let's consider beforehand both the time expendable for a particular activity and a vision of good quality of work. This way, we will end our day satisfied with what we did. You brought up a good subject many miss to ponder upon. Thank you. Nice hub, useful!

    • sandylongman profile image

      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Your right I need to give a deadline. Thanks!

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      onegoodwoman 7 years ago from A small southern town

      As a procrastinator myself, I might be able

      to offer some insights.

      the MORE I have to do, the more I can do.......

      if I have all day to mow the yard, it takes me all day

      if I have to mow the yard, weed the garden, wash the laundry, shop for groceries, tag the car...I can get it all done.

      It is not always about 'time management', it is often about having too much idle time.

      Personally, I work best when having a deadline, even if it is self imposed.

      Put your procrastinator against the wall, instead of saying the garage needs cleaning, say, "WHEN" can you get the garage cleaned by?

    • sandylongman profile image

      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Yes some procrastinators just want someone else to do it!

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      Don A. Hoglund 7 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      For some people it is a technique. If you don't do a task, maybe somebody else will come along and do it for you.

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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Thanks for the comments!! You can get what you want with positive communication!!!

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      breakfastpop 7 years ago

      Very useful advice. I'll try not to scream the next time I am in the presence of a procrastinator!

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      Sam 7 years ago from Tennessee

      voted up and useful! Good subject and well written. Just goes to show 'honey will attract more flies than vinegar'...

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      quicksand 7 years ago

      More often people procrastinate on clutter clearing. Amazing how these two go hand in hand!