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How To Get Out Of Abusive Relationships For Good
Are you being abused or know someone who is?
Abusive relationships are notorious for the deaths and injuries of women all around this country. Many people think that abusive relationships only come in one form, physical. This is very far from the truth. Abuse comes in many shapes and forms. From experience, I find emotional abuse to be the most painful. It takes a big toll on your self-esteem and makes you feel like a nothing. A person that you love, and look up to is degrading your self worth. Brainwashing is the most common act of Abusers. Brainwashing really makes you trust everything this person is saying, and they may cut you down so much that you believe its true. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than what you are.
Every woman deserves love, compassion and respect. If you are not getting this, do not stick around for when it gets worse. I can speak from experience that abusive men only get worse and they do not change. The abuse cycle is almost always the same. The abuser will hurt you, and later apologize and promise it will never happen again. He lies, and abuses you again and it becomes a never-ending cycle. He promises to get help, and he will change. But did he ever do anything to get help? Abusers very rarely ever change. Many abusers use the excuse that they have anger problems, but this is unlikely because abusers act on their manipulations, not anger. Anger management will not save an abuser.
So many girls stand up for their abuser when family and friends try to help. It is ok to admit you are not in a perfect relationship. There will always be those women that you just cannot help because they are stuck in this trap and do not want help. A lot of friendships are ruined by abusive relationships. It can be embarrassing to tell others that you are being treated badly. No woman should ever have to stay in an unhappy relationship, let alone an abusive one. Abusers are out on a hunt for vulnerable women they can manipulate and control. It can be very hard to spot an abuser, and most of the time it is too late.
Most victims find that they want to leave, but cannot because of fear. What will he do if he catches me? What If he tries to kill me? Many abusers threaten their victims that they will hurt them if they try to leave. If it wasn’t bad enough that they had to lose all their friends and family. Leaving an abuser takes bravery and a good plan. If you know someone that is in an abusive relationship, try to help them come up with a plan. Remember that you can only help if they want to be helped. You cannot just walk out and leave, especially if there are children involved. When the abuser is not around, that is when you have to talk to outsiders and get a plan. You will have to lie to get out of the house when you do plan on leaving. Make sure you have a place to go that is safe and they do not know about. Never tell them you are planning to leave. No contact can be made with them ever again, no matter how much you want it. I am proud to say that I am an abused survivor, and I got out with my will power and strength, and you can too. Stay who you are, and never let anyone change that.