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Why Your Mental and Emotional Health Is The Most Important Thing You Have
Relationships Aren't Always Meant To Last
I was in a relationship for over two and a half years. We broke up twice and the second time we both knew it was over. Our first break up happened while I was in college and I was living with three roommates, and my favorite roommate taught me a very good lesson that I always love to share with people because it was something I needed to learn the hard way to understand.
During our first break up, my ex wasn't interested in being my friend, he was really rude and hurtful to me and made me cry a lot. He was like this (he admitted) because I was still at school (2 hours away) and it wasn't until I was close to coming home for the semester that he started being nice to me. Apparently he didn't have a reason if I wasn't close to him. Once I was home things were better.
Going through a long distance relationship, which was what our relationship mainly was for the two and a half years, it taught me that my emotional and mental health is the most important thing to me because if my partner is not going to worry about it, then I need to be my number one priority.
It's a tough realization, but you should worry about your own happiness before your worry about your partner's happiness. This may be such a bizarre thing to read, but relationships come and go and if you're not happy and content with yourself and maintaining your own personal homeostasis, it becomes even more complicated when you want to make your partner happy as well.
Your Happiness Matters!
At the end of the day, your emotional and mental health is the most important thing you have. If your relationship is making your mental or emotional health suffer in a negative way, you need to rethink your relationship.
If you spend the majority of your time feeling anxious and sad by your relationship, and you don't do anything about it, it won't get better and all that will happen is stress in your body. You will get sick, and become even more fragile than you already are because you're hanging on by a thread.
Do this before you go to sleep every night if you're in a relationship:
- Are you going to sleep happy with your relationship?
- Do you feel like your partner is doing their best to keep you happy?
- Do you completely trust your partner?
- Do you feel like your partner appreciates you and all that you do for them?
- Do you think your partner is putting as much effort into the relationship as you are?
If you answered no to any of these you need to consider why you answered no and if anything could be worked on in your relationship.
Unhappy? Do something about it!
I'm a firm believer that communication is the most important quality in a relationship and having an open line is essential in making things work!
If you're unhappy in your relationship, then talk to your partner about it!
Nothing is worse than getting blindsided in a break up. If you're unhappy, tell your partner! If you're not happy but you still want to date the person you're with, tell them you're unhappy and explain why. You need to give specifics and talk with your partner and talk through your problems. If you can make it through them then your relationship will only get stronger.
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