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How To Overcome A Relationship Break Up

Updated on June 13, 2011

It is never easy when a relationship is ended. We still have that feeling fresh in the heart. It hurt when you love somebody and then you realize that you are not going to spend your time with that person anymore. Whatever the reason for the breakup, it is not a pleasant process. We feel like we are going to fade, we don't feel strong enough to affront the situation and move on. But you know what? You're not alone. Most of us at some point in life we've been through this sour experience. And let me tell you something, it will not be easy, but you will be overcome. Below I leave you some tips that will help you in this process. Read them carefully so this tips will serve you as a guide to successfully overcome a break up.

Heal Your Pain:

Accepting Is The First Step

The first thing we need to do when a relationship is over is accepted. Sometimes this is one of the hardest steps to accomplish. For more painful is, you need to put in your little head the idea that is time to leave that relationship in the past and move forward. If you have to cry, then cry. Express all your pain will help you to feel much better. Soon you are going to realize that out there are lots of exciting things waiting for you. New people to meet, new places to go. A whole new world to discover. Are you ready for the next step?

Cut Any Type Of Communication With That Person

I is very painful but you need to do it. I am not saying that you are not going to talk with that person any more in your life or that you can't be friends. But if you really want to leave that relationship behind you need to stop talking or seeing him or her at least for some time. If you continue doing it, you are going to get even more hurt. This time will help to heal your wounds.

Spend Time With Friends

At this time you will need your friends more than ever. You probably have not been spending so much time with them. This is a great opportunity to get closer to them. Isolating will not going to help you at all on this situation. Maybe you are not in a mood to talk with nobody or go anywhere. Do a little of effort, call your friends and go to a new place together. Somewhere that not remind you your ex for nothing. Friends are too good listeners. It could be a great opportunity to get all that out of your system. Do it often and you will see how you'll be fine in a bit.

Get As Busy As You Can

Trying new and exciting activities will keep your mind busy all the time, this way you are not going to have time even to think in that person. Plus you have a great chance to meet new people with your same interest. Sign up in a gym, take cooking class, I don't know, what ever you always wished to do. This is the perfect moment to do it. Slowly tha sadness is going to disappear.

Wait Before Start A New Relationship

Maybe the loneliness can make you want to start a new relationship. Watch out. Be sure you heal your heart before. If you start another relationship too soon you may carry with issues from your past and that new relationship could not work. You probably are exhausted after breaking up. Take your time, enjoy your life, work your self esteem and get strong enough to start over again.

Use Your Past As A Guide For The Future

Analyze your past relationship. What would you change? Why didn't work? Do not try to mend it, it is too late for that, but use it as a guide next time you meet somebody. Set your expectations. How do want this new person treat you? What will you be able to stand? Those are questions you have to answer before you move on. Put your limits and be strict with yourself. Take your time to know well that new person and if you are seeing is not what are you looking for, just change your course and continue with your life.


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      Gie 5 years ago

      man im at work cant do anything i dont know what mi did wrong he cheated on me impregnant the lady now iam nothing iam hurting,cant think i feedl like the world is on top of me i loved him so much we got married but now he treat me like a stranger he even went out of the house staying with her

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      Aphrodite Venus 6 years ago from Orlando

      Very good advice. Sometimes people are just not compatible. On the other hand, a breakup is sometimes a test or needs to happen in order to know whether you are meant to be with this person or not. After you go through a few heartaches, you will realize that it doesn't hurt that much.

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      jameygc 6 years ago

      Thanks Dashingscorpio. You are completely right. I know is hard to keep a clear perspective in this cases, but as you say, is not the end of the world. Yes, it hurts, but if the relationship is not working, you are not going to run back to an nonfunctional relationship.

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      dashingscorpio 6 years ago

      Great Hub!

      The only other thing I can think of is keep things in proper perspective. It's not the end of the world and don't overly "romanticize" the past! People have a way developing "selective memory" overtime which leads them to trying to get back with exes that were never a fit for them.

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      jameygc 6 years ago

      Thank you so much!

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      1hopefulman 6 years ago

      Excellent article! Keep up the good work.

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      jameygc 6 years ago

      That is very good CJ. I have friends from past relationships too. I think we should keep a distance while our little hearts heal and then an awesome friendship can grow.

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      Chris Andrews 6 years ago from Norwalk, Ohio

      To each their own. I have had relationships I just want to forget and others that it is good to talk to a close friend about. I have had one relationship that I still talk about and if we ever run into each other it is nice. Now we are both married to people and have a family. She helped me change my whole life and I am thankful and will always wish the best for her and her family.

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      jameygc 6 years ago

      Maybe you are right but sometimes we nee to take it out of the chest. You are not gong to make it public but maybe a good friend can be very useful as a confident.

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      Joyette Fabien 6 years ago from Dominica

      Very useful tips here. Only thing, I do not agree with the talking about it part. No need to make your business too public