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How To Stop Nagging Your Man
He Says You Nag Too Much
Does your man accuse you of nagging? Does he call you a nag on a regular basis? If the answer is yes then chances are you could possibly just maybe be a terrible nag. Men will always call women nags no matter what. We should not get angry with them because they simply can not help it. Even though you clearly are not nagging and only asking him (for the billionth time) if he plans on taking that mountain of trash to the curb anytime this month, or did he change the oil in the car yet he only hears nag nag nag. Why this is I do not know. Must be a defect in the male species.
So how do you stop nagging your man and get him to do what it is you are wanting? Well there are a few things that you should try. First of all it is important to know that if you are asking him to do any type of fixing things or task that takes longer than 4 minutes to complete, you run the risk of being called a nag.
Things You Can Try
When you are talking to him and you think he is starting to get annoyed with you what you need to do is just shut up. I know this is hard to do but many times men get overwhelmed with everything we are saying and how fast we are talking. Too much information at one time or too many questions about the same subject causes them to hear nag nag nag.
Don't bombard him right when he walks in the door from work with lots of why's how comes. when. and so on..Instead let him come to you. Lots of men just need to sit back have a beer and relax or watch tv for a little while. They will respond to you much better if you do. Having a hot meal fixed for him never hurts either.
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Try using a different tone of voice when speaking to him or ask whatever it is you want him to do in another way. Instead of saying "Are you ever going to mow the lawn?" say "Do you think you will be able to mow the grass this afternoon? I would really appreciate it" Do not yell or talk loudly at him. Instead talk to him in a pleasant voice. Using a soft calm voice is the total opposite of the way nagging sounds to your man.
You need to pick your battles. Is it really that important that he walk the dog right this second? Or when you ask him to? Is the world going to end? No it is not. Sometimes you just have to let him have his way so when the stuff that is important comes up you can talk to him about it without being accused of nagging him.
Be sure that you never nag your man for something you do yourself. Like picking up socks from the bathroom or something. If you want him to change the way he does things you have to set a good example and see that he notices.
When he finally does do something you ask be sure and thank him or give him praise. Compliment him on how nice it looks or what a great job he did. This one is very important. Never criticize what he has done. This will only make your man feel as if you are nagging and attacking him.
If none of those things work and you still can't get him to do anything you have asked, then you can always use sex. Men will do anything if they think there might be a possibility they might have sex. Don't use this one for little things like picking up the dry cleaning of course. And you don't have to actually do the deed either.
Nagging your man is a serious issue women have. Men hate it. If you constantly nag your man you will push him away or ruin your relationship. You will end up regretting it in the end. Trying to stop nagging your man is not a difficult thing to do. You have control over how you behave and communicate with your man. Taking a few seconds to think before you blurt out nagging commands can definitely improve your relationship.