3 Things James Bond Will Teach You on Becoming an Attractive and Confident Person
Imagine walking the streets without worry and stress weighing you down. You had a bad day but you are not all blaming yourself for this and that. This is the mark of a confident person, he knows that nothings permanent. The stress or worry will not matter in a week, month or years to come.
You can tell by now that this person has a different mindset. It's the mindset of a successful person and one oozing confidence.
You are self-assured of yourself that you’ll overcome whatever challenge life throws at you. Your self-belief and self-confidence are to be envied.
This is real confidence that unfortunately you can’t fake it till you make it but you can learn it. With confidence comes attractiveness, girls will be giving you glances in the hopes that you’ll talk and say hi to them.
According to Lifehacker, a study published by the International Journal of Cosmetic Science showed that giving men some cologne improved their confidence enough to be rated as visibly more attractive in photographs.
What makes you an attractive and confident person is all about your behaviours. How do you conduct yourself in a typical day? Do you have bad habits that you know you have to address?
These bad habits are slowly but definitively chocking you up. You should always ask yourself these questions when overthinking or uncertain, what would a confident or an attractive person do in this situation?
So let’s find out how this comes to be one by one.
1. Having Strong Eye contact
What’s the first place people look at when they meet you for the first time? No it isn’t your shoes or socks but your eyes.
Your eyes are like the window to your soul and to who you are. Girls are pretty good at holding eye contact with you but you’re avoiding it. The girls are testing you to see whether you are really a confident person or just a wannabe.
For eye contact to be effective it’s fairly important to know that you shouldn’t try to dominate the girl with your intense eye contact. You know how sometimes uncomfortable it can be maintain eye contact with a person.
Don’t let the same discomfort be projected to the girl. Do not under-do it but also do not overdo it. It should be just right and you’ll be winning.
According to Forbes, as a general rule, direct eye contact ranging from 30% to 60% of the time during a conversation-more when you’re listening, less when you are speaking-should make for a comfortable productive atmosphere.
If you’re holding eye contact and you wish to break it, never look down but look away to your side but not for too long. You want the other person to know that you’re still interested in the conversation.
The power of eye contact is shown to make the other person trust you more or feel comfortable around you.
According to Cornell University researchers, they showed 65 undergraduate students two images. One was of the Trix rabbit on a box of cereal looking down and avoiding eye contact. The other image was of the rabbit looking upward and making direct eye contact with passerby.
The students were then asked to rate their agreement with the following statements: “I trust this brand,” “I feel connected to this brand,” and “this box is attention-getting.” The students chose the Trix cereal box in which the bunny made eye contact, by a 16 percent margin.
Researchers concluded that eye contact evokes positive feelings of trust and a deeper connection.
It is important to keep eye contact for you and your success. You can communicate what you think of yourself just by your eye contact. You don't need to utter a single word, your eyes will tell me.
According to another study, participants with higher self-esteem were found to break eye contact less frequently whereas those with lower self-esteem broke eye contact more often. The study found that there is an association between confidence in one’s own worth and the ability to hold eye contact.
2. Having a Perfect Posture.
Are you standing up straight or going about all your days slouched? Who would you consider confident and attractive? A slouching person with his head down or a person who stands tall with his head held high? Who are you among this two? Hope it’s the latter.
Taking a power pose - just by pushing your shoulders back and lifting your head - you boost testosterone which helps with confidence, while lowering cortisol, which is associated with stress according to Aligned Modern Health.
Your bad posture didn’t just happen overnight but it was a gradual bad habit you developed through the years. Taking care and getting rid of this bad habit will take time but it’s totally worth it.
Body posture has an effect on our confidence. It is a great determinant on whether you think of yourself as a confident person.
According to a new study, sitting up straight in your chair isn't just good for your posture – it also gives you more confidence in your own thoughts. Researchers found that people who were told to sit up straight were more likely to believe thoughts they wrote down while in that posture concerning whether they were qualified for a job.
On the other hand, those who were slumped over their desks were less likely to accept these written-down feelings about their own qualifications.
71 students at Ohio State were told to seat at a computer terminal and instructed to either "sit up straight" and "push out [their] chest]" or "sit slouched forward" with their "face looking at [their] knees.
While holding their posture, students listed either three (3) positive or three (3) negative personal traits relating to future professional performance on a job.
After completing this task, the students took a survey in which they rated themselves on how well they would do as a future professional employee.
Students who held the upright, confident posture were much more likely to rate themselves in line with the positive or negative traits they wrote down.
In other words, if they wrote positive traits about themselves, they rated themselves more highly, and if they wrote negative traits about themselves, they rated themselves lower.
Therefore their confident, upright posture gave them more confidence in their own thoughts, whether they were positive or negative.
So people assume their confidence is coming from their own thoughts. They don't realise their posture is affecting how much they believe in what they're thinking.
The importance of your posture is clearly outlined here. The good news is that you can definitely train yourself to have an upright posture.
3. Having a Striking Smile.
So basic but so much forgotten, you were great at smiling when you were a kid but all that fizzled away when you became an adult. Smiling shouldn’t be gotten rid of because you grew up.
As a kid your smile helped you make friends and you had an unwavering confidence in yourself. You had believed that you can do something without allowing the uncertainty stop you in your tracks.
According to Holistic Help, a single smile can produce the same level of stimulation to neurotransmitters in the brain as 2000 chocolate bars. a smile can produce the same level of brain stimulation as receiving $25,000. That means if you re smiling a lot every day, you can essentially feel like a millionaire.
A confident person needs to smile to attract the girls and success.
Why let go of your smile if you achieved so much success with it? That girl won’t see you as an attractive person if frowning is all you know. Smile at her and she will smile back at you meaning by the way you can talk to her, she doesn’t bite.
According to Brian Tracy, when you smile at another person, the physical action releases endorphins in your brain. Endorphins are called nature’s “happy drug.” They make you feel happy and raise your self-esteem.
When you smile, you feel and act in a more personable way to everyone around you and exude a feeling of positive attitude. The most popular and influential people in most situations are people who genuinely smile at others when they meet them and greet them.
Your smile, eye contact and posture are so integral to making you an attractive and confident person. You can definitely learn this but are you willing to or you’ll go about your days with the same old bad habits.
For you to have success in anything in life, confidence and attractiveness do matter.
You can’t get that job or promotion if the self-belief is at an all-time low. These tips are just a starting point for you but a real game changer. It won’t happen immediately but you will feel a new person being groomed to be better.
As you practice this tips you’ll get great reference experiences that will make you realise that smiling, eye contact and posture are great habits to have and develop.
Have you tried some of these tips already? Do you have any more tips that can lead you to become a confident person?
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