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On Friendships: How To Apologize to Somebody You Care About

Updated on March 19, 2014


We all make mistakes. They are an integral part of our lives. How to deal with mistakes and learn from them determines who we are and who we will become. When you make a mistake and hurt someone who you care about, it's important to be able to apologize for that. An apology is always the first step in saving any relationship.


What Are You Apologizing For?

First you need to think about what you did wrong, and why you did it. Before you start apologizing, think about what you want to say. Your apology should be sincere and heartfelt.

Apologize in Person!

Apologies, if possible, should always be done in person. If you are not able to meet up, you could call. Never apologize through an e-mail or a text message. Written word could be taken a wrong way, or misunderstood.

How To Start?

First, say you're sorry for what you did or said. Tell your loved one that you wish it never happened. Apologize for the fact that your caused him/her pain, and promise that you will take full responsibility for your words or actions.

Tip: When you are apologizing to a woman, bringing a beautiful flower is always a nice gesture.

What To Say in Your Apology?

Tell your loved one that it will never happen again, and explain how you would try to avoid such situations in the future. Say that you realize that it may take time to regain his/her trust, but you will do your best to earn it again.

The "Finale"

At the end of your apology ask him/her what else you could do, and if he/she is ready to accept your apology. Now it's time for you to listen, regardless of how painful it could be. Try to put yourself in your friend's shoes, it will help you understand his/her feelings.

Be Patient!

Rebuilding relationships always require a lot of time and effort. Remember to always keep your promises! If you say something won't happen again - make sure it doesn't, or sadly there won't be room for any more apologies!


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      Aga 3 years ago

      Hahaha, thanks a lot!!!

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      Tarrin Lupo 3 years ago from Peterborough NH

      No none sense info. I think this coud have saved a few of my relationships. :)

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      Aga 4 years ago

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment, dear Colin. I have missed you too, I just have been so busy... There are some changes that may happen very soon in my life, and I hope they will positive for a change :-) Have a wonderful weekend, dear friend!

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      First of all my dear Aga I have missed and sincerely hope that you are feeling okay and that everything is alright. I am sending warm wishes and big Canadian hugs from Colin, Tiffy and Gabriel.

      Yes these are words of wisdom and poetic food for thought too on this page. I always think honesty and direct contact in communication is the best policy. It is always good to listen and be able to swallow one's pride and apologize. I have an old saying - it takes a man (or lady) to truly say he/she is sorry.

      And yes in a solid friendship if you can't say that - then you can't say that to anyone.

      Take special care of yourself and stay well my friend

      lake erie time 12:01am

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      Aga 4 years ago

      Dear Prasetio, thank you for stopping by! I am so happy you have enjoyed my article. Saying "sorry" is for most people one of the hardest things to say, we have to learn how to overcome it.

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      prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Very inspiring hub. I know that saying "apologize or sorry" is something hard to do. But you came up with solution. Thanks for writing and share with us. Voted up!


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      Aga 4 years ago

      CarNoobz, you are too funny! And you are right: I bet anybody had at least one situation, when apologized, and didn't even know why. Thanks for stopping by!

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      CarNoobz 4 years ago from USA

      Yes! Know what you're apologizing for!

      Sometimes we apologize simply because we want the other person to stop being mad, but we have no idea what we're actually supposed to be sorry for LOL

      I am a yeah.

      I do this a lot =)

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      Aga 4 years ago

      Absolutely, howtobeasuccess! I feel similar, however it isn't easy for me to apologize to close friends either.

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      How to be a Success 4 years ago from The Land of Hope

      I guess it also depend on the person whom you awe an apology, i find it easy to apologize to people i know than to apologize to people whom i do not know that much(personality).. does it make sense?

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      Aga 4 years ago

      Howtobeasuccess, we all make mistakes, and we don't always apologize, often we are to stubborn to do so. Al we can do is to try to get better at it! Thank you so much for your comment!

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      How to be a Success 4 years ago from The Land of Hope

      Thanks for sharing this.. i do apologize when i make mistakes .. but i think im not doing it well..

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      Aga 4 years ago

      Thank you, Bill! I think listening is always the key. Too bad so many of us absolutely don't know how to truly listen.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Solid information my friend, especially the listen part at the end.