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How to Deal with a Broken Heart
If you can sing when your heart is broken, sing it.
Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it's breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through for you
Broken heart is a painful metaphor every poet writes. Singers sing about it. They feel it when they sing such songs. Writers' obsession of writing hundred sand thousand heartbreaking words that makes the novel are obvious in the field of literature. Worst of all, other people died because of it, committed a heart-rending end to their life.
But, I am not writing this article for them to come back to life. If you're reading this-- One thing I'm sure: You are not alone.
Hundreds of people are suffering from heartbreak anywhere in the world. Right now, you might feel that the whole world seems on you, but trust me, someone out there is sympathizing on your grief. Or yes, we can say--your loss.
Losing someone you have loved dearly is a painful memory your mind couldn't forget. Dealing a broken heart is not an easy process. It takes everything of you before you can recover. Starting a new journey without the one you've loved would be difficult to bear.
There is no perfect antidote for heartbreak. It all depends on how you cope up with it and how you accept your situation. The worst process a brokenhearted person do is denial from the pain and pretending that nothing happened.
Actually, it's okay. If that's the way how you cope or accept the truth that you have lose someone dearly, then- it's okay. As long as in the end, you will be happy to start a brand new you in the near future. If it takes a lifetime for you to heal, oh boy (err..girl) -- I tell you, you have only one life to live.
"But, you don't understand. She/ he is my life", you say? Ha! The only one who could truly understands that you suffered from that painful blow is someone who went through a lot of painful heartbreaks. Yes, I've been there. Three times to be exact. And the one that was painful the most was an Italian guy. Isn't it a surprise? Not really. Italians were known to be an ultimate heart breaker in the history of broken hearts.
And those times were the most schizophrenic moment of my life. But hey, I dealt it well. If I did it, so can you.
Negative Effects of Heartbreak
When your heart is broken, everything seems gone. Your joy, your smile and your positive attitude. Your convertible, super-expensive new car doesn't shine in your eyes anymore. It seems like everything is taken away from you. You stared at the wall even without knowing that you are staring at it. You become catatonic and just contented looking past the window. Insomnia began to strikes at night. You loss your appetite and you become anti-social ( I mean, you declined to hang-out anymore).
If you continue to do this, there is a slight chance of recovery. Here's what I suggests for you to do.
Think. And don't stop thinking
However, when you think--incorporate some logic behind it. Think about your situations with the person. When you were with him or her, how did you two get along? Were you guys constantly quarrel over simple matters? Some relationship aren't meant to be. If this is the case with you, stop hurting yourself over that relationship.
No, don't call. No text. No communication
You are staring at your cellphone and waiting for her/him to text or call you. But, this action won't help you deal with how you feel right now. If you have communication with the person, it only prolong and add to the heartbreak. It doesn't make sense that the one who cause you the heartbreak will help you deal with the pain. Your ex too is suffering the same loss. Actually, when you keep on communicating with the person, it lead to blaming, fighting and more pain. So, my best advice is to cut off the communication.
There are many ways to express your heartbreak, you can talk to your best friend or someone you know whom you always trust. Or, you can write about it. Writing is a form of therapy. So, go ahead, write it.
Crying is also one form of expressing your hurt. If you like to cry and crying helps, go ahead cry.
The beauty of expressing what you feel will help you release the emotion you are suffering from within. But if you are the person who thought that expressing would only makes you feel worst and you are used to keeping the pain, and you recovered afterwards- it's up to you. Some advices works for other people and some are not. But, be sure that in the end, you will get out from that feeling.
It takes time to heal
There are many advices that says, heartbreak can't be mended in two or three days? Well, for some people- there are quick and easy tips to heal. But for some people, it just take a while longer to recover from the pain.
It depends on what type of person you are. If you are positive about the future, and you think that there's a light at the end of the tunnel, you are one step to recovery. If you are the type of person who literally and figuratively thinks that you can't live without him/her, time will help you realized that you and the person are not meant to be. Things happen for a reason.