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How to Find Out if Your Spouse is Cheating on You
One of the biggest concerns that people have when they are involved in a romantic relationship is the concern that the person they love might be having an affair. As a result, many people are interested in finding out if their significant other is cheating on them. There are many different methods of doing this but not all of them are going to be right for each situation. It is important to consider all of your options carefully before you move forward with any of them so that you make a wise choice in figuring out not only if your spouse is cheating on you but also how to best deal with the situation.
Before you actually make any move towards finding out if your spouse is cheating on you, you should ask yourself if you really want to know. Most people are so concerned with finding out the truth that they don't think about the consequences of the truth. Ask yourself if you are really ready to deal with the answer about whether or not your spouse is cheating. Figure out how you are going to move forward with the relationship if your spouse is cheating - and how you'll move forward if it appears that your spouse is not cheating. If you decide that you are ready to find out, you can figure out the best method of finding out but just make sure that you're really ready to know first.
If you decide that you do indeed want to know if your spouse is having an affair then the best course of action is to sit down calmly with your spouse and ask the question honestly. Most people go through a big process of trying to figure out sneaky ways of determining whether or not their spouse is cheating. The reality of the situation is that the best method of finding out whether or not your significant other is cheating on you is to ask. The majority of people who are confronted with this question will answer it honestly if it is asked in a non-threatening, non-dramatic manner. Tell your spouse that you need to talk about something that has been on your mind, that you are not making accusations but that you have a question. Then ask, "are you cheating on me?" You'll be surprised by the honesty of the answer that you get.
Not everyone is going to be able to handle the situation in this direct manner. Some people just aren't comfortable asking a question like this outright. Other people are convinced that they aren't going to get an honest answer just by asking. For these people, there are a whole slew of sneaky methods that can be implemented to determine whether or not a significant other is cheating. These methods include checking their pockets, email accounts, phone messages and mail for signs of an affair. They could also include tactics like asking mutual friends about the situation, hiring a private investigator to find out and following your spouse. Any of these methods may be right in your situation. However, you're going to get the best results from your search and have the most chance of moving forward in the relationship if you simply express your concerns in an honest answer and hope to get an honest response from your spouse.