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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You (Even More)

Updated on September 26, 2012

As the cliché goes: "It takes two to tango," and your future wife might be your present girlfriend.

Men are prone to heartaches, and like women they cast doubts about the sincerity and love poured on them by their girlfriends. If you have a girlfriend don’t be too sure that you’ll keep her for good, that is, for a lifetime. Nothing lasts unless you made the necessary things to make the love between you binding and everlasting as you keep the feelings for each stronger more than ever. It all boils down on how you keep the relationship works whilst you are carrying out the duties of a very responsible and loving boyfriend.

Here are some tips or pointers to keep the love between the two of you enduring:

Let her know that you have personal ambitions to achieve and dreams to make come true. Don’t make this as a weakness on your part, but rather a strength. Showing her that you are not weak, by striving hard to have a bright future.This will make your girlfriend fall in love with you further, besides most girls prefer security over good looks and physical features. Don’t forget to let her feel that she is part of that great goal you have, though.

Keep interested at all times. Girls love to talk and I mean, they do it a lot, well for most of them so as to speak, hehehe. Listen to every word she utter thoroughly and with genuine sincerity. Lending your ear to her will certainly make her feel that you are sincere and you really care for her.

Don’t take your girl for granted. Majority of girls nowadays are insecure, so it is a must for you to get rid of the insecurities on her. Show her always the right path and respect her personality and ideas at all times.

Spend “quantity and quality” time with her. The time you invest on a relationship is actually a way of getting to know each other very well like each other's weaknesses and strengths. Quality time is the way to let her feel that she is very important to your life as you shower her with tender loving care while the two of you is having a meal or snack at your favorite restaurant, telling unending stories and jokes, and doing other memorable things together.

Get back to the basics often. Flowers, chocolates and love letters are time-tested weapons in subduing your girlfriend’s battlegrounds, nyahahaha, these are also effective, as a way of a potent peace offering when both of you are ensnared with misunderstandings, heated arguments and quarrels.

When things get shaky and volatile settle the difference the quickest time possible, but be sure to have the right time in doing so. Let her cool for few hours, then when it is time to strike, do anything just to shake-off her temper and anger, like making jokes (funny or corny go ahead), or by simply being so sweet just to tame her, and say sorry and ask her why she got angry with you, to discern what moves you'll do next to subdue the fire. Don’t let the next day comes without solving conflicts and differences. It is better to lose some measure of pride sometimes than to lose a precious girlfriend.

If you have some more ideas to share go ahead feel free to posts them as comments I will be very glad to add it here in this article.

Thanks a lot for the visit!


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      KABORE RICHARD KWASI 5 years ago

      I think what makes relationship really work is spending much time with ur girl friend.Me instance,even though lm a busy guy but l let her feel that she is the most important person in ma life nd first in ma life.More over women likes guies who always listerns to them always.Also,constances calling her every day is also important becos for ma girl,l make it a point that l should be the first person to wake her up every moring.Constant senting of sweet messages to her let her feel special nd knowing that even though u are busy bt u still think of her.Most guies always complain that they don't have time nd the worlds to write bt even senting a message like;I MISSED U MA LOVE is even ok.Always chart with her knowing of her day nd if there is a problem,infant solve them that very day,this is very good.What l has also notice on part of most guies nd its killing their relationship is PRIDENESS.most guies feel pride to even say sorry to their girls.In fact,guies there is northing WRONG to say,Honey,im sorry for hurting your feeling,let her kn that ur sorry nd truly u should nt repeat dat any more.Lastly,guies should try to keep ONLY one girl,love her only,do every thing with her,she got every thing every woman has out there.keep her.Guies,dnt forget this,no one is perfect so try learning new ideas,guides nd may stuffs that will make ur relationship the best one.For me,l love to learn new ways nd ideas so as to keep ma woman nd ma relationship,so learn more.

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      robertlovesclara 5 years ago

      How do I know if my ff loves me if she have an ex that she still love

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      Ndumiso-ALEX 5 years ago

      U c i am nt alwayz with my lady and i can feel dat she doeznt trust me... Bt when i am with her she hold and smooch (kiss) me like it iz de end of de world... So hw cn i make her 2 trust me..

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      saint hils 5 years ago


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      Ruthford 6 years ago

      Yeh thanx guyz for such an advice

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      Ibrahim 6 years ago

      Am a young and cute looking guy who is 19 years of age still single and have not found one yet

      am here to make a true love, love which will lead us to mariage i am very serious.

      You can call or text me at this number :+233545675179

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      myself 6 years ago

      bEst sIte eVer,im sUre my gf would probably answer me early :)

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      john 6 years ago

      very worst web

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      raj 6 years ago

      you must know the girl before you make relationship with her. once you decided to commit do shake it any way , it will break your own heart in silence,and alone in your own mind.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      All the comments are great thanks

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      nassim13 6 years ago

      shy to be near girls and i can not talk with girls or ask girl for date please help me here

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      ALLIE OBAINO 6 years ago

      gr8 tipx 2 gt wat u want...

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      Jacks 6 years ago

      Look guys stay cool and chilled, care about her but not over the top only at certain times when she is vulnerable it goes in a whole lot better then she appreciates you more. Don't shower her with roses all day keep your distance like they say the heart grows fonder, the more she misses you the more you miss each other, you appreciate the time spent with each other when u don't see them constantly another thing is guys TRUST you don't trust your girl friend then it is god dam pointless being with her if it happens it happens weather she finds someone else or just does not wanna be with you no more. If that ever does happen you do what your supposed to do be a man grow a pair of balls and get on with it, because at the end of the day she has made it easier for you making the decision that she was not the right one. Remember there's plenty more fish in the sea and by the way variety is the spice of life ;)

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      terry parow 6 years ago

      I think love with a women is harder than anything you could possibly do in life.:(Most women are controlling and make you do everything when they thank it's ok when they don't well that's when you put your foot down and do what's rite and make her love you more to where she wont cheat on you anymore or do other stuff behind your back.(:It's easy just make her love you more by trusting her every move and listen to what she has to tell you and beleave her whatever the consequences are and thing will get better.Just show her the real you and if she don't like it then you don't need her or just be single everything's better that way without worry all the time but that's your choice just make the rite one.(:

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      neptel 6 years ago

      how bout guys? cn you make one? ^^

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      matthew 6 years ago


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      Dodo 6 years ago

      I like the points u made in your article ESP d listening part to what ur gal talks about even though she may b talking OP sometimes jus listen. Lol. And the part of lettin her cool off before u go settling ur scores that's cool too. Lastly to all lads,swallow ur pride and kip ur good gal by jus saying "I'm sorry dear". Hehehe!!

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      bongisipho 6 years ago

      what to do if you try by all means to show that you love your girlfriend and you really serious about her but only to find that she don't love you?

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      uknown im goin undercover 6 years ago

      i love my girlfriend to bits but i think sexaul thoughts about other girls i have even done it while having sex with her is this a bad sign. and shes realy realy sexy i didn't start doin this until like 6 months in the relation ship. am i a wanker or is this normal

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      aaron 6 years ago

      wow i maby 9 but i loke fine

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      junior 6 years ago

      im a guy I think it's a bunch of great ideas :)

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      jamterrell 6 years ago

      Great advises, generalhowitzer.

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      prakash 6 years ago

      i am looking for a love . i am 18 years . i play football. contact me at

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      prakash 6 years ago

      i am looking for a love . i am 18 years . i play football. contact me at

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      blake24034 6 years ago

      I Am absolutely crazy aout my girlfriend but , she dosent seem to notice , im always saying i love you asking her about her day and not going overboard , i simply just want insight on what exactly might be going on (PLEASE NOTE) myu girlfriends mom is crazy literaly , and her dad was hardly around so this might be the source of her weird emotions ?

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      rango gizmo 6 years ago

      my girlfriend love me, but she doesn`t talk enough in mobile she keep silent !! can saomeone help me. or tell me what i can do please

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      Roger 6 years ago

      Ok y do girls think men all was doing some wrong wind we at work. I love my girlfriend with all my hart. I just can't see it or put it in place. Can some one help me. Or tell me what I can do.

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      Gizmo 6 years ago

      Well u c ive got this problem a lot of girls i know like me a real lot and the reason i know this is from their closest friends but my problem is that i cant date any of them because of my families tradition of the girl asking out the guy which has a big part of my psychie what should i do

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      Sun-Girl 6 years ago from Nigeria

      Great article which sound cool.

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      Jade Monique Taylor 6 years ago from Johannesburg - South Africa

      Awesome! More guys should pay attention to this :)

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      Ez Kay 6 years ago

      Excellent write up which sounds real, i think i will give it a trial.

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      donwankione 7 years ago

      im sorry if what im going to say is too criticizing, but hey... its just opinion from my point of view, not tryin to be a smart ass too.. but from my experience, life is just a circle... i believe that what's meant to be is meant to be... sometimes its not always our fault that a relationship ends... its just " meant to be " there is always reason for everything in life.... that's logical i hope... again.. im not one of those ppl in internet who just give comments to piss people off... its just criticism from my point of view.. see love as a comedy... a beautiful and painful comedy... marriage? that is beautiful of course... but inside , not every marriage is happy... every women is different, every man is different, lets just get to the point... its just another pointless discussion and roller coaster topic if i keep going... . we cant apply this rule to every relationship... its all about the guy keeping his alpha male position in one relationship, without hurting its female... i wont call the female follower because its not in that way... woman needs a lot of things i presume... but they don't constantly want it too... we have to keep the balance depending on our situation of relationship.. personally i don't believe long distant... the point is everyones different... this tips you gave is useful.. but you need to give more examples and perspective towards your point of view... try to express your ideas in a bigger perspective point of view... that way your knowledge can be respected even more... haha.. i talk too much... please give me criticism anyone... i will respect any comments and other perspective thus above clouds, there are even higher ones.... there's always someone smarter than me out there,,,,, sorry if i disrespect anyone in any kind of way... PEACE

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      FOREX NINJA 7 years ago

      Cool hub with cool write ups which is very enjoyable.Thanks for sharing this article,i love this.

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      luminita1977 7 years ago from New York

      good article,thanks

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      theanarchist 7 years ago

      I'm it just me? This whole - how to keep your girlfriend article makes the "hypothetical" girl in question sound like a moody, insincere, insecure, slightly Narcissistic bitch. Since when is it a mans responsibility to manage female emotional issues? Her insecurity is HER problem - and if she really DOES love you - you'll find you won't have to jump through thousands of hoops or constantly provide evidential proof. This is not real love - its called conditional love.....a sure fire way to "bargaining" in a relationship. MANY guys out there do all these things in the misguided belief that they will eventually be rewarded will all the love they need. Oh so often do these men find themselves emotionally shafted, scratching their heads at the end of it all asking "what the hell did I do wrong, i did everything she asked of me....I played the role of the understanding emotionally sympathetic modern man?"

      The truth is chaps....if you really want to keep your woman and if you believe she is worth the THE EXACT opposite of everything this article tells you....because despite what many woman will tell you....the LOVE drama and contradiction! :D

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      charles lwanga 7 years ago

      nice for all guys who have problems in relating to women

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      BennyTheWriter 7 years ago from Northeastern U.S.A.

      Awesome hub! These tips are sure to make any relationship stronger. I particularly like the "quantity AND quality time" advice. I'm unattached right now, but when I do have a girlfriend I'll know what to do :)

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      Pank* 7 years ago from Andaman

      hmm!!, this hub really make me for think, actually here what you given instruction for boys, that's doing my girl friend for me!!.. and i m just quite!!, actually i m not more talkative, and i also cant more talk upon unnecessary things, here peoples are talking till above 1 hour with our girl friend on phone, and they what talking till that, i don't know!!... because, my all talking matter finishing just in 5 minutes, after that's, no left any matter for talk, may be, that’s why my girl saying to me "You are so strange from other peoples" and some time she also teasing me by to say “when u do fight with me, I should be give party to my all friends”!!.. hahaha... well!!, I should be try to fallow your instruction,!!.. thanks bro, its really nice hub!!

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      ss sneh 7 years ago from the Incredible India!

      Hi! Very useful info! The key point is... never take your girl for granted! Good advice -- Thanks

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      momsy 7 years ago from the Pearl of the Orient Seas

      Hi! I like your article. You should give a lecture to guys who take their gfs for granted. yes. girls just loooooove to talk!!!

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      Jorge Vamos 7 years ago

      Pretty sound advice.

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      LovesHer 7 years ago

      Pretty universal stuff. Being a guy I like all the same stuff listed

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      Gener Geminiano 7 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Thanks a lot Butterbee for he lovely comment...

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      Butterbee 8 years ago

      Delightful and full of wisdom and the same measure you will take to please your girlfriend should B taken to please you (boyfriend).

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines


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      randy 8 years ago

      Hello, what is yourname?

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      I am now your instant follower to for your remarks...

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      DjBryle 8 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =)

      Great hub! Now I am an instant fan! =)

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      rebu - i hope it will thanks a lot for the visit...

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      rebu 8 years ago from Coorg,India

      nice one..hope this works out for me...!!

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Hehehe thanks for the visit Maita!

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hmm, dont take your gf for granted, absolutely SIR GH! Maita

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Thanks a lot for the visit art...

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      artrush73 8 years ago

      That's cool, always keep the sparks :)