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How to Win the Heart of Your Dream Girlfriend

Updated on April 21, 2010

Sometimes winning the heart of that dream girlfriend seems like an impossible task. You are miles away from the macho that TV shows depict. You are somehow shy, somehow romantic and somehow uncertain. You are just a regular guy.

The first thing that you need to learn is that women do not need a playboy to be swept off their feet. Study female psychology, in order to be successful with the ladies.

Trying to figure out what will get a woman to notice you often requires some research. Forget about universal tips and start learning more about the person you would like to impress.

Understanding is the key
Learn a lot about the woman you fancy and start to show understanding. Men are often blamed that they lack the desire to listen and learn about the ones they want. And they are blamed for a reason. Women look into details. Men see the general picture.

Does she like clubbing or is she more into sophisticated restaurant dinners? Does she prefer romantic comedies or thrillers? Demonstrating knowledge about her preferences will earn you some points.

Be compassionate and inquire about her tastes and preferences. Even if you made a mistake listen to her and correct what you have already done. Putting extra effort in pleasing her will reveal a side of your personality that she is certain to like.

Be her knight
Each woman, even the boldest one, needs security. She needs someone to talk to, someone who can offer a strong shoulder. Dangerous and unpredictable men are exciting only for a short period of time or for a single night of pleasure. When it comes to feelings and eventually love, women need to feel a degree of confidence that “I love you” said today will remain unchanged tomorrow.

Show her that you are serious about your feelings. Be consistent. Refrain from making claims and denying them later on. Let her understand that she can lean on you. Be a friend, an advisor, an older brother and a potential lover all in one. Try to show her that you will be there for her no matter what.

Your lady is unique
Do you know what one of the many female paradoxes is? We all know that no unique people exist. Yet, each lady wants to feel unique. To win her hear, make the lady you fancy feel that way.

Treat her as a special person, like she is the best thing that has ever happened to you. If you really like her, this attitude will come naturally. Often, during the earliest stages of infatuation people neglect bad habits and see each other in idealistic way.

The key to gaining the heart of your lady is listening. And listening means paying true attention. If you simply act interested, you will fail in your attempts to make her like you.

Pay close attention to her problems, passions and small daily stories. Next time you meet, inquire about something that she previously confided in you. Remembering the small things she told you will certainly change her attitude towards you. We live in a hectic, fast-moving world and people often lack the time to listen and understand the pains and victories of others. Spending those extra minutes on learning more about her will make the woman you like trust you and desire your company.

Pay attention to details
She told you that she likes chocolate ice cream. Bring her some next time you meet. She had a favorite toy when she was a kid. Try finding a similar one and surprise her.

Women love men who pay attention to details. Try to surprise her but in doing that take into consideration her wishes. Women are good on giving small hints. Try to decipher her messages and gestures. Learn how to surprise her intelligently.

A mixture of charm, intelligence and sense of humor will prove to be much more important than muscles once you try to make a woman like you. Act gently and confidently. Show her that you value her but that you also value yourself. Being moderate and flexible is the key.


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      jdomingo 7 years ago from Texas

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      Systememperor 7 years ago from UK

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      CheckMate4U 8 years ago

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