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How to Write and Give a Wedding Toast

Updated on September 10, 2011

Coming Up With A theme for the Toast

When close friends get married, you will share in their happiness. One way to make the wedding celebration more special for them and at the same time express how much they mean to you is to give a memorable heartfelt toast to the bride and groom. If you are the best man, consider it mandatory.

You could look for famous quotations about love and marriage and build a toast around one or more of them. You can certainly find any number of great quotes that would appeal to both you and the entire wedding party, therefore fulfilling the heartfelt requirement for a good toast. A popular site to look for this kind of material is at

I don’t feel that is the best approach because they are probably quotes that are familiar and hence blend in as mundane toasts that everyone has heard before and therefore less memorable.

There are other online sites like that will actually write toasts for you based on information that you give them about the couple and what you would like to say .

Let's Create Your Own Unique And Memorable Toast

But I believe they are not the best way to make the toast both heartfelt and memorable because:

  1. They are not your words and you are the one that really knows the couple.
  2. To be memorable the toast has to be truly unique in some way and still be relevant to the honored couple.

The way to achieve the best effect is to write your own:

Begin by writing out what you know about them.

  1. What are their shared interests? (,art,music,sailing,etc.)
  2. What are their shared goals?(ie..create a successful business, wipe out hunger, transform education, etc.)
  3. Do you know of experiences that they have shared that has profound meaning to them? (ie..religious/spiritual, fund raising for a beloved cause, personal triumph or contribution in sports activities,business,politics..etc)

Note that all the suggestions call for subjects that are of intense personal interest. Remember the key to creating a memorable toast is to stay away from the mundane and express thoughts that evoke what they care about.

Next:Select one item/theme that you will concentrate on. The reason to select one is :

  1. It keeps you from wandering around without focus like a lot of speakers and it will give more impact to your toast.
  2. The goal of the toast is to be Memorable not long.

Let's try an Example!

Let,s say that the joint passions of the couple you are toasting are travel and art. Your toast might begin…..

As you bask in the glow of Mona Lisa’s smile

Or marvel at the chiseled perfection of David

The joy and wonder brought by your vision

I s multiplied by the love at your side.

Yes, I know that all you real writers out there will be happy to point out that

1- I am no poet.

2- My prose ain’t that good either.

You are absolutely right and I hope you will take these ideas and share some of your creations with us and show us some great examples..

The real point is that it is not hard to come up with a unique heartfelt toast that will be remembered by your friends and everyone at the wedding.


A Sailling Adventure Begins

Wedding Toast for a Sailor

I wrote the following toast a long time ago for someone very special to me and delivered the toast as best man at the wedding. I received such a good response that I have used it on several occasions since and received a lot of positive comments.

As you set sail for new horizons

May a brisk fair wind be with you

May your journey have that mixture

Of joy, contentment, love and excitement

That gives rise to zestful anticipation

Of new adventures together …. Read the rest of a wedding toast to a sailor


Now you are ready to give the toast.

First: You should rehearse it until you know it so well that someone could wake you up in the middle of the night and ask you for the sixth (or any other) line and you could give it.

Rehearse in front of a mirror and use a tape recorder to listen to yourself and make necessary changes until you can deliver the toast exactly the way you want to look and sound.

Remember, it is coming from the heart-=-no reading-no notes

Another reason to keep it short!!

If you are nervous and having trouble getting comfortable, seek out a local toastmasters group and ask their help. They will be thrilled and will take it upon themselves to help you be successful.

There are a number of other excellent sources of guidance like the Best Man Speeches.

I will be writing more later on about techniques for preparing and giving a speech.


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      satice_j 6 years ago from via the Bronx, NY

      This was a warm and inviting hub! Enjoyed reading it! Voted it up, awesome, beautiful, funny, and useful!

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      Wedding Speech Success 8 years ago

      I really enjoyed the post. Creating your own personal toast is a great way to make your wedding speech truly memorable and is something that is often overlooked in favour of the standard, generic wedding toasts.

      I have saw many wedding toasts performed by a man hiding behind a sheet of paper, not addressing his audience and diminishing their experience somewhat. I agree with you that the speaker should have a good knowledge of the material before the big day.

      I would caution against practising too much, knowing your speech well is great but if practised too much, the speaker’s personality may not come across in the speech.

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      Wedding speech 8 years ago

      Great hub, it is very helpful for everyone who looking to know how to write a wedding speech, and even for professional wedding speech writer, I am very amazed at how useful the information in this hub can be.

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      Seabastian 8 years ago from Raleigh

      Thank you for your thoughts.

      Toastmasters is a great organization for learning how to speak for any occasion. The secret to giving a good speech for any occasion where you have some time to prepare is to practice,practice,practice and then practice some more.

      Record yourself and listen critically as if you were criquing someone else , make any changes and then practice some more.

      If you do that then when you actually give the toast,speech it will be a lot of fun for you and everyone will think that you are naturally talented at speaking and they won't know your "secret"

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      HowToWriteASpeech 8 years ago

      I'm going to be married this year or the next one. Thankfully I won't have to write a speech for this occasion. But your Hub has been really helpful. I'm at an age where most of my friends marry so I guess this will come in handy eventually.